http://forum.mrmoneymustache.com/welcome-to-the-forum/epic-fu-money-stories/I am getting the feeling from some of the replies that maybe that I am simply comparing oranges.
My job is not only not challenging, I've been told by my supervisors not to further educate myself because they don't need it. I'm obviously an intelligent skilled individual as I didn't even go to school and still sat and passed the licensing exam to get the job in the first place. Yet after telling me, explicitly, that they did not need or care if I educated myself regarding a certain exam, they allow the exact situation I wanted to train myself for get dumped in my lap, oh, 6-8 times a year. (and every time is a stressful last minute cluster fuck of awesome, I can tell you.)
I've documented Call Abuse and they have shrugged their shoulders and pointed at how it's other people's responsiblity and they'll "let them know." A coworker retired after I worked there two years, and rather than let me shift into that position, they nixed it entirely and split the hours among THREE people.
Because I only came to MMM recently, I have the usual baggage of school loans, mortgage, and some credit debt. Due my husband's job loss earlier this year , I got my wake up call: That I'd frivolously wasted every opportunity of saving on ricidulous stupid crap. (10k wedding, what the hell was I thinking. I regretted it halfway through the reception.) I am 6 years into a high paying (from my perspective) career and I STILL don't have Fuck you money? I'm aggressively addressing the issue.
But I have felt trapped and varying degrees of desperate for two years of this three year job. I COMPETE for hours that I honestly believe I've earned for loyalty, experience, and over the top flexibility. Just last month I was told by my supervisor that I am "above and beyond" what is needed for a PRN position. And the only nod is that I get "every Monday" instead of having to rotate.
It should not be a group first come first serve text message offering hours;
WTF I should be asked first.
I've never received a raise and the company actually blanket downgraded a section of pay applied to over 1000 people within the company. It only lasted 9 months, but wanna know how much that cost me? 5k gross. And when I heard about it, I looked around in my town and found out that not only are the other places treating their employees in worse ways (complicated schemes of clock ins that get you to work for less) they were paying all of them $2/hour less for the same position. Even after the reverse raise, I was still working at the best place in town? crazy!
My co-workers are religious. One thinks the social security number might be the mark of the devil, that the government is watching her through her IPAD "hold please" rainbow circle, that the Methodist church is evil for donating to planned Parenthood, and that I am going to Hell no matter how good a person I am. And as an atheist, I am definitely not bringing up religion in the work place! I lost it the other day and after I fled the office, I went to my supervisor and laid it out before this crazy woman got to him first. (Because she has a history of complaining about me to him that doesn't reflect reality.)
I now worry that my little outburst about how "Religion shouldn't be talked about at work and oh my gosh, do you hear how ignorant you are?" will result in a decrease in hours. Extra hours are offered on a whim, and if up to this specifc person, will now just be given to that person's favorite (or not me!)
Icing on the shit cake; an HR person asked me why I was looking at my employer offered health insurance AT ALL since I was " "just PRN." Like I shouldn't even know what benefits I'm not getting offered because I'm such a lowly peon.
I am so anxious about income that I cry. Often. I keep an eye on the job boards In my area and nothing shows up but more PRN, a couple of things I can't get licenced in because I don't have the experience. And OBGYN; which, I'd have to get the licence for it and I hate that section of my job now. I don't want to do it full time. On top of all that, my entire right arm is a repetitive stress injury from pushing into fat people and bad ergonomics noticed too late. Working full time US would be pain Pills daily, less free time to enjoy myself, less time to study.
Obviously this location doesn't work for me, but we bought a house and My husband was in a free P.h.D program until recently. But I have been and am varying degrees of miserable and anxious for the last two years.
So yeah. I don't want to keep that emotional roller coaster. I want FU money in the bank so I can demand better treatment; because right now, I'm afraid they'd let me walk if I made the threat! And if I don't get it, walk out in all it's " own myself" glory.
So I have to work 9-12 years SOMEWHERE as SOMETHING to get my ER. And I'd rather not do it being by an Ultrasound technician and definitely not at this job in this town!
As an after thought, I never want to own a house again because it is now a trap I have to be rid of before I can fly off to a better job anywhere else. I was a relunctant buyer in the first place. ugh. Another Stamp of "stupid financial decision" for me.