...they both seem to just wave off any concern over it. I strongly suspect their plan is to avoid thinking about it and just live without insurance until my dad is eligible for medicare or gets another job that provides health insurance.
I don't know what to do. Should I just butt out?
My parents are not in this exact position, but I have similar kinds of worries about them, like... will they keep the roof over their own heads this month? I half expect they won't.
I've found that they won't want to talk to me about it until shit REALLY hits the fan, and even then it's only to vent or ask for something specific. It kills me because I think they do some really dumb stuff, but they just don't see their children as having more authority on life's subjects. They never ask my advice, only, "please, can you help with XYZ because ABC already happened." I stopped mentioning that if they called me BEFORE it all happened we could have done something better because they never do.
The only thing I feel like I've been successful in doing is just planting idea seeds about what they could do, and then trying not to get involved with whatever they choose. I think I helped them realize that MNOVs are not so scary and they pay too much for phones. BUT they want data for their ipads so.... whatever. It's... a learning process. *sigh*
Good luck! Let me know if you figure out the secret to communicating with parents... :)