We had a small, cheap wedding - about 20 people, cake and champagne in the church garden afterwards. There are some traditions I enjoyed upholding. For example, I wore something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue. I did walk down the aisle with my father. We did 'cut the cake'. We had organ music. My parents paid for the wedding (less than £1000 in total, though!) We had traditional liturgy at the church service (although in the C of E there are several authorised options, some of which are more mushy than others - we went for the serious one, which happily included us both making the exact same vows - I am fine promising to obey my husband as long as he promises to obey me too!) They felt nice to me, to be participating in a genuine cultural ritual. I appreciated having these things to draw on when planning our wedding.
However... my wedding dress was a blue high street one which I have got a lot of wear out of since. My mother made my favourite cake (NOT a fruit cake with that disgusting icing) at home. The organist was my husband's best friend, who happens to be a professional organist, and he did not play "Here Comes the Bride"!
Some things that people think are 'traditional' are in fact just 'socially obligatory in the recent past', like having a DJ, photographer, meringue dress, etc. I don't have a problem with people having these things if they have genuinely chosen them, and weighed up the costs and benefits. What I hate is when people spend out on all this crap because "it's a wedding so you have to".
I am a feminist, and I think weddings often bring out the worst in both men and women. However, much like mothers either working or being a SAHM, I think both choices are OK to make as long as it really IS a choice. For example, I wear a gold wedding band and my husband does not, which is the "traditional" choice, but it's one that we made ourselves. Our wedding was very small, sparse and personal. The best man at our wedding is getting married this year and it is, in comparison, going to be mahoosive, partially because they are inviting all of their very large families. They are having the works - catering, white dress, diamond engagement ring, printed wedding invitations (I think we just texted the people we wanted to come??), classy honeymoon - but they have saved up for it and know what they are doing. It's just that all of that is worth it to them.