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Re: Do you really need a couch?
« Reply #50 on: August 08, 2019, 12:54:20 PM »
What games are these? The games whereby you mutually enjoy physical affection with a person you are getting to know better? Masters of manipulation, I'm sure -- any serious dating candidate would immediately jump to the true intimacy of being too tired for sex and bickering about each other's relatives.
The type of games where being a good kisser (or not) is still seen as a major qualifier for a long term relationship (or not).

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My formal decree is that especially if you're too old for making out, you're too old not to have a couch. If I went to a date's house (for any activity) and they didn't have a couch I would assume, fairly or not, that they're still in the maturity phase of not being able to let go of their frat boy years. Triple that if your "guest seating" incorporates bean bag chairs.
Honestly, if a date defined maturity on the basis of owning a couch or not, and was inflexible on that perspective, then it's quite likely there wouldn't be another date and I doubt they would have been in my home in the first place.

For the record and to quash any "frat boy" comparisons, this is what my living room currently looks like.

I kinda think there's too much furniture there, which is the problem.  Get rid of all the chairs and the rug.  Replace with a tatami mat and a couple very small cushions.  Boom.  You've got a place to chill, sleep, AND do judo.  There's like . . . no down side.

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Re: Do you really need a couch?
« Reply #51 on: August 08, 2019, 01:06:47 PM »
What games are these? The games whereby you mutually enjoy physical affection with a person you are getting to know better? Masters of manipulation, I'm sure -- any serious dating candidate would immediately jump to the true intimacy of being too tired for sex and bickering about each other's relatives.
The type of games where being a good kisser (or not) is still seen as a major qualifier for a long term relationship (or not).

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My formal decree is that especially if you're too old for making out, you're too old not to have a couch. If I went to a date's house (for any activity) and they didn't have a couch I would assume, fairly or not, that they're still in the maturity phase of not being able to let go of their frat boy years. Triple that if your "guest seating" incorporates bean bag chairs.
Honestly, if a date defined maturity on the basis of owning a couch or not, and was inflexible on that perspective, then it's quite likely there wouldn't be another date and I doubt they would have been in my home in the first place.

For the record and to quash any "frat boy" comparisons, this is what my living room currently looks like.

I kinda think there's too much furniture there, which is the problem.  Get rid of all the chairs and the rug.  Replace with a tatami mat and a couple very small cushions.  Boom.  You've got a place to chill, sleep, AND do judo.  There's like . . . no down side.
You'd like my giant downstairs "living room" and "dining room" area.  Barely any furniture at all except for some dog crates.  We like to joke that the dogs own the house and we just live in the upstairs apartment.

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Re: Do you really need a couch?
« Reply #52 on: August 08, 2019, 01:25:06 PM »
Look.  I'm firmly on #teamcouch.  I love our couch.  We spent more on our couch than any other piece of furniture in our house because we knew we'd be living on that couch.   And we do.  It's a movie theater, home office, and kitchen table for me and my husband, a jungle gym and fort for our kids, and my all-else-fails cure for insomnia.

But. If you're not sure you need a couch, don't get one right away.  Do without one for a while and see if you like it or if you miss the couch.  One mistake we made when furnishing our first house was buying everything we thought we needed all at once.  Some of those purchases turned out great (I love you, couch!).  Some were stupid (lousy storage ottoman).  And it's easier to not buy something in the first place than to get rid of something you don't need.

TL/DR -- Know thyself.  Buy accordingly.

ETA:  Just saw the photo of your living room.  It looks fine, and it seems like it meets your needs.  If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

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Re: Do you really need a couch?
« Reply #53 on: August 08, 2019, 04:05:07 PM »
Then you should maybe look into some comfy floor seating if that's what your guests end up doing anyway.
Why not??

As long as you have somewhere comfy for guests so that it's not just you in your cozy lounger and them on chairs that are okay as long as there's a pillow.

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Re: Do you really need a couch?
« Reply #54 on: August 10, 2019, 07:15:38 AM »
I was well into my 40s before I purchased upholstered furniture. I donít think I bought a standard traditional couch until I was mid 50s maybe late 50s.

But we didnít buy  couches. For years we brought in couches from the alley. We didnt even get them used on craigslist we actually found them abandoned in the alley and brought them in to our house.That was in the days before bedbugs. I think we brought in three catches that way used them for a couple years and then pitch them. Our dogs are very messy dirty and saw them pee on the couch so there was no point in ever have anything nice.Our house was a construction zone anyway so it didnít matter what the furniture look like because nothing was painted and there was no woodwork up.

But when we finished the living room area became very nice looking and then I bought nice upholstered furniture. Prior to that I did like intakes and I had to look at a couple of wood pieces, a chest and a Victorian cabinet and those were something that the dogs couldnít destroy, for the most part. Although I did have a foster dog a couple years gnaw on the leg of one of them.


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Re: Do you really need a couch?
« Reply #55 on: August 11, 2019, 01:57:35 AM »
A seemingly hitherto unacknowledged truth is that there are people who like to sit and people who like to lie.  I'm a confirmed lie-er, but I know other people who are sit-ers.

If you are a sitter, you do not want a couch.  If you are a lie-er, you want one.

Most of our ancesters didn't have the space for a couch, didn't have the money for a couch and didn't have the time to lie on a couch even if they had the space and the money.  The idea that a couch is an essential piece of furniture is a very Johnny-come-lately concept.

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Re: Do you really need a couch?
« Reply #56 on: August 11, 2019, 06:09:31 AM »
A seemingly hitherto unacknowledged truth is that there are people who like to sit and people who like to lie.  I'm a confirmed lie-er, but I know other people who are sit-ers.

If you are a sitter, you do not want a couch.  If you are a lie-er, you want one.
That's a good point.  If I'm watching TV or reading, I'm going to be sitting.  If I want to lie down and take a nap, then I'd rather be in my bed than on a couch.

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Re: Do you really need a couch?
« Reply #57 on: September 11, 2019, 07:49:39 PM »
I somehow missed this thread and I am so glad it was revived.  Only on MMM can we argue about the relative importance of having a couch.  I thought the "making out" theory would win out but I might be biased because I am #teamcouch because I hate sitting on the floor at my house or your house.

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Re: Do you really need a couch?
« Reply #58 on: September 11, 2019, 08:24:16 PM »
still haven't bought a couch and don't really miss having one either

This is the ultimate answer IMHO, if you don't get it and you don't miss it, then you're winning.

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Re: Do you really need a couch?
« Reply #59 on: September 11, 2019, 08:31:00 PM »
Ehhhhh making your guests sit on the floor is kind of shitty. I don't have a couch either due to space/layout, but I wouldn't ever have more butts than seats in my apartment. I don't think you necessarily need a couch, but something to sit on other than the floor would be prudent if you like having guests. If I had to sit on the floor when I visited someone, I would not visit them again.

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Re: Do you really need a couch?
« Reply #60 on: September 11, 2019, 09:15:36 PM »
I have no couch and probably never will. They're comfortable wastes of space (IMO), encourage lethargy which I struggle with already, are monolithic and also difficult to get really clean. In east Asia where I live, people tend to be very sensitive to western body odor and strong scents (though stinky tofu is a thing, go figure).

Since my climate is hot and humid like Florida with very short winters, and my home is also an occasional art space/artists residency with semi-public events, all my furniture is multifunctional. Sweat management, aesthetics, mold resistance and I suppose unconscious branding of my project/art were all factors. Probably my favorite piece of furniture is an antique Chinese daybed with tatami which functions as a couch during events, and a bed for visiting artists. I just love looking at it too, though it's so heavy only professionals can move it.

OP sounds like going couch-free is a great idea for you. A tatami mat with pillows against the wall can be a nice substitute for a bulky couch if you want to make out/have a bunch of friends over to lounge.