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Title: Dealing with disappointment in career
Post by: Abe on August 19, 2016, 09:08:58 PM
Hi everyone, I'd like to get some advice and perspective from people who are probably better balanced than I am. I'm currently training in a prestigious medical residency. Since joining I had been working towards one of a few coveted spots at a prestigious cancer center, that prior residents had gone to. I ended up not getting it, and instead am going to a different center I was somewhat ambivalent about. My prospects at getting a good university job is diminished now. On the one hand it opens up the opportunity to pursue a career that isn't all driven by prestige/academic advancement/blah. On the other hand, I worry about what type of job I can land and feel I let down my mentors, who had assumed I would get the top position. My question is: how do you all deal with disappointment in your career plans? Any advice is appreciated.
Title: Re: Dealing with disappointment in career
Post by: VladTheImpaler on August 19, 2016, 09:16:47 PM
Without knowing more about your situation I would just offer the general advice to not worry about whether or not your mentors are disappointed and instead focus on choosing a career path that works for you.

To thine own self be true.

and if it makes you feel any better, you are still doing better than 95% of the general population.
Title: Re: Dealing with disappointment in career
Post by: letired on August 19, 2016, 09:28:40 PM
Once you let yourself off the academic success/career/prestige/other people's expectations treadmill, life is much much nicer and way less stressful. Of course, by the time I was done with the whole thing, I was massively burnt out, so YMMV.

Also there is always someone smarter/more hard-working/more handsome/prettier/better connected than you are. C'est la vie, etc etc.