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Curious -- day-to-day, what's different for you?
« on: May 20, 2020, 06:34:55 PM »
So, I'm curious to know -- thinking back to your day-to-day / week-to-week life in, say, February (or before the pandemic was on the radar wherever you live) and now, what's different?

I live in the SE US in a "blue" / urban-ish part of a red/purple state (meaning my neighbors and some of my state leadership are Democrats, the state as a whole leans Republican, in case that's not clear).  I'm over-educated, reasonably affluent, employed FT, have an RE hubby (with pension, SS), a parent living with us (also pension, SS), and a middle schooler.

Before the pandemic, most weekdays, I'd get up, stuff phone, wallet, keys in pockets, walk the dog, drive the kid to school, bus to work.  Work in my office all day, come home, supper (fixed by hubby or me).  Some evenings the kid had sporting practice or games (we usually go to games, practice requires dropoff/pickup).  Run errands (not lots -- not into retail therapy.  Groceries, occasional home improvement, sporting equipment for the kid).  We'd eat out 2-3 times a week (not my preference, hubby's).  Weekends involved sporting activities, occasional concerts/movies, home improvement (or maintenance), get togethers with friends.  I tried to limit my total driving to 200 miles/week but often exceeded that.

Now?  I get up, stuff phone in my pocket.  Keys and wallet stay in a drawer (mostly).  Walk dog (maybe; one home improvement project completed since the pandemic started is finishing the fence, so toss dog out in yard is now an option).  I WFH more or less 8-5 more or less M-F (boundaries are blurry, but not insane).  I'm not entirely confident re: job security, but no furloughs or cutbacks yet (employer 401K contributions eliminated for the next 12 months).  Since we "hunkered down" (mid-March, before shutdown order but basically when K-12 schools went virtual), I've set foot in a grocery store once, a restaurant 4 times (pickup) -- that's it.  That's not all our eating out, DH generally orders pizza twice/week (delivered).  We've moved totally to delivery of groceries and pretty much everything else.  Kid's school is virtual (and not great, but manageable and he's reasonably chill).  We don't get together with friends or extended family (though we've done a few meet-ups with a few in settings where can stay apart).  DS's organized sports would be over anyway, and conveniently a lot of what we enjoy doing as a family, we can continue (hiking, biking, golf, disc golf).  I wish DS could get together with friends, but he connects with them over video games and we meet with one who golfs.  We'd have family coming to visit this summer, but -- they won't.  We may do some camping, no other travel.  I still drive but down to about 100 miles / week (if that), mostly because we get bored with local hiking/disc golf options and travel further afield a few times/week.

You?
« Last Edit: May 20, 2020, 06:39:57 PM by bogart »

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Re: Curious -- day-to-day, what's different for you?
« Reply #1 on: May 21, 2020, 03:51:29 AM »
Pre-COVID:

Wake up. Get kid ready for school. Walk to school. Walk to work. Pick kid up after work. Go home. Make and eat dinner. Veg out at home. Weekends we would hang out with friends and kid would have art class. On Sunday, we would go to church, then have lunch with friends.

Post-COVID:

Wake up. Log into government app and send green “healthy” QR code to my and DH’s workplaces. Log into company website and complete health questionnaire. Get another QR code to show the guards at the office. Kid wakes up at 6:30. Work with her on online lessons until helper arrives. Kid plays all day at home. I go to work. Stand one meter apart while waiting to enter office. Show QR code’s to guards. Walk past infrared thermometer. Wash hands for twenty seconds at outdoor sinks. Enter building. Squirt hands with hand sanitizer before entering personal office. Work for the day. Keep mask around neck and pull it up anytime anyone enters the office. After work, I go home. Our ayi (helper) has dinner ready for us by the time we get home.

Oh, and I’m now doing three people’s work because some of the expats in our company couldn’t get back in time before the borders closed.

On weekends, we stay home. Church is online. Restrictions are relaxing so we will sometimes go out with friends, staying in our neighborhood. We don’t take subway or bus anymore. Rarely take taxi.

We usually use grocery delivery services, even before COVID, so that hasn’t changed.
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Re: Curious -- day-to-day, what's different for you?
« Reply #2 on: May 21, 2020, 05:59:25 AM »
Pre-COVID:
Wake up, meditate, make breakfasts, bike to work, DW drives kiddo (5yo daughter) to pre-school and goes to work, bike home, DW and kiddo are usually there already, eat dinner, dishes, go for a walk, kiddo's bed time, our bed time.  On the weekends, we'd go hiking, work on house projects (getting ready to move to Canada from US) and get together with my inlaws.

Post-COVID:
Wake up, make breakfast, start working (sneak in a short meditation), DW and kiddo get up and have breakfast, DW and kiddo spend morning together, have lunch w/ kiddo and get her settled in room for quiet time (giving wife ~2 hours to work on stuff), go back to work, finish work at 4, take kiddo for a bike ride / tree climbing / play soccer, have dinner, dishes, go for a walk, kiddo's bed time, our bed time.  On the weekends, we go hiking or work on house projects -- still hoping to move to Canada this summer, but it has gotten MUCH more complicated (and it was already kind of complicated).  Other than the impact on our move, the big change is having kiddo home all the time.  DW is a 9 month instructor, so when we were both working from home this was really challenging.  She's off now, but it's still tough because there are a lot of move related things to be done.  As far as not seeing other people, not shopping, not going to restaurants, that all suits me fine. :)

Oh, and both of our jobs have gotten significantly less secure, which isn't great, but we've got a decent cushion and lots of transferable skills.  Plus, we've been looking at moving for so long we're kind of used to the fact that our jobs could go away (mine can theoretically be done remotely indefinitely, but I'm the only remote worker so it seems unstable).
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Re: Curious -- day-to-day, what's different for you?
« Reply #3 on: May 21, 2020, 06:10:29 AM »
Pre-COVID:
Kids in college away from home, we based at a house-sitting gig 10 minutes from our sailboat (3 hours from the house), which we're refitting for extended living aboard/cruising. Wake up, make coffee, work from the kitchen/living room. Adjust work hours to 7-4 so we had evenings free to work on the boat. Food shopping maybe once every 2 weeks, except for the Friday night crabcake/bubbly dinner (sourced from the local seafood shop). Put 150 miles on the car each week.

Mid-COVID:
Kids home from college, doing school online. We're back at the house with them. No boat work. Back to 8-5 work hours, still working from home. No boat work other than battery/energy system testing. Food shopping every 6 weeks. Have put 150 miles on the car since the end of March.

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Re: Curious -- day-to-day, what's different for you?
« Reply #4 on: May 21, 2020, 07:17:01 AM »
Pre-COVID:  DD away in college (probably in OP's state, based upon the desciption).  DS took himself to MS every day on the bus.  DH went in to work.  I either got up at 6-6:30, showered, made sure DS was up and ready to go, and headed in to work by 7, or I got up around 7, put on my bathroom, made sure DS was up and ready to go, and worked at home.  [Side note:  DH has always been in charge of morning school stuff, so I'm not actually necessary; I just like seeing everyone and saying goodbye]  In both cases, at computer by around 7:30, then screw around eating leftovers for breakfast and reading newspapers/blogs online until around 9 or so.  When at office, eat leftovers for lunch, treat myself to my favorite salad maybe once a week, and drink office tea from Keurig.  When at home, eat leftovers for breakfast/lunch and drink my own (better) tea.  In either case, leave work around 4 to catch 4:30 class at gym or go home and start dinner.  Dinner at home, periodic takeout/delivery (usually Friday night), DVR/movies.  DS goes to teen class Thursday and Hebrew School Sundays, basketball or baseball a few nights a week depending on season.  Family dinner every night except when there are practices/concerts/etc., but sometimes it's hot dogs.  Weekends run errands, do basketball/baseball, grocery shop (usually on way to/from Hebrew School dropoff/pickup), take DS to instrument lesson.  Eat out Saturday, make pancakes/waffles Sunday AM, watch football Sat/Sun. or some other sports.  Sunday do cooking/prep for week and have nice "real" family dinner, with vegetables and everything. 

Now:  THESE CHILDREN ARE ALWAYS IN MY HOUSE.  I love them to death, but my God.  Weekdays:  DH gets up and out well before 7 (essential business).  Get up around 7, put on bathrobe, go downstairs, decide what tea to make, scrounge for breakfast, sit down at computer by 7:30ish and screw around as usual.  Order more tea online.  DS gets up anywhere between 6-9 and manages his own schoolwork -- online classes 2x/week, assignments in every class that take up a couple of hours every day total.  DD was getting up as needed for online classes but is now done so sleeping until 11.  Around lunch, listen to whining from kids for takeout; usually say no, scrounge for lunch, sometimes let DD go get us something.  Work until 3-7 depending.  Find excuse to blow off 5:00 Zoom gym class.  Listen to kids whine for takeout/delivery for dinner.  Give in far too many times, telling self it's supporting local businesses.  DH home anywhere from 3-6:30.  Watch DVR/Netflix.  Friday night:  watch chick flick with DD and mom.  Weekends:  same as any other day.  DD and DH do grocery shopping.  I spend quality time Sat. AM with home shows I DVR'd.  Sunday AM is pancakes/waffles as usual.  Sometimes go for a walk or bike ride or whatever.  Complain about lack of sports.  Spend most of Sunday doing stained glass instead of preparing food for week, because there's really not much need.  Order more stained glass supplies online.  Still make Sunday dinner at least half the time.  Spend way too much time on Facebook to see what my friends/family are doing.

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Re: Curious -- day-to-day, what's different for you?
« Reply #5 on: May 21, 2020, 07:38:14 AM »
Not much honestly, except that dh has set up his office in the dining room, which I love. I'm going to be sad when he moves back to campus.

Not going to yoga. Picking up groceries curbside. Not currently on vacation in Italy, though.

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Re: Curious -- day-to-day, what's different for you?
« Reply #6 on: May 21, 2020, 08:11:46 AM »
Not much has changed. DW and I retired 5 years ago. We did not eat out much to begin with, now we order in once a week. Now that the golf courses are open, I am pretty much back to my pre-pandemic routine. The only difference is the lack of travel. Fortunately, DW got in a trip to Asia and we both got in a trip domestically before the shit hit the fan earlier this year. We are both introverts so we like to think we have been preparing for this lock-down our entire lives.

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Re: Curious -- day-to-day, what's different for you?
« Reply #7 on: May 21, 2020, 08:24:44 AM »
Not that much has changed for me.  I work in a small office so could social distance from the start. 

The biggest difference is that my husband was laid off due to covid-19 so he's home and does the cooking.  I used to make dinner before covid because I got home before him. 

On Saturday mornings I always went to one of two 12-step meetings.  Now those meetings are on Zoom which is okay and I'm grateful we can do that.  However, I miss us all being together in the room.  One meeting had about a dozen people and the other one about 30.  I miss the interactions with my tribe. 

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Re: Curious -- day-to-day, what's different for you?
« Reply #8 on: May 21, 2020, 10:26:38 AM »
I'm like greystache, not much has changed for me either.  Even less actually, because I'm not a traveler.  So apart from running fewer errands, due to closures and stocking up a lot when I do groceries (3 times since March) and seeing older relatives less because don't want to put them at risk, so ensuring a 14 day quarantine period on both of our sides, I'm pretty much doing what I've always done since I retired 4 1/2 years ago.  Taking care of the house, the yard, the pets, the trailer (yup, the RV park is open this summer), reading, seeing friends at a distance, and other puttering kinds of activities.  This pandemic could go on forever and make little difference to my life.  I know I'm in the minority though.