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FamilyGuy

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Pearls of Wisdom
« on: October 22, 2019, 06:44:28 PM »
I have also put this in my journal but not many read it so I wanted to put this one here for discussion.

Here is one pearl of wisdom that I self-learned from experience. It is a simple one.

GIVE BRIEF ANSWERS. NO NEED TO TELL THE WHOLE STORY.

Conversation 1:

Q: Why are you staying late in the office?
A: Wrapping up a conversation/pending work

Q: What conversation/pending work?
A: Related to XYZ project

Q: Why it is important?
A: Because of the deadline next week

Conversation 2:
Q: Why are you staying late in the office?
A: Customer A gave an urgent requirement to do so and so and I have to finish this by next week so brainstorming options A, B, and C and going to have a discussion with the team on options and then decide it. I doing this now otherwise it is very difficult to do in the day when I have to back to back meetings...

I'm seeing conversation type 1 is making my life easier every day.
This applies to work and personal life too. Simple answers keep you safe. Don't explain everything as it makes the person appear less confident.

Do you have an experience like this? Pearls of wisdom that you have self-learned practically in your life.

thesis

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Re: Pearls of Wisdom
« Reply #1 on: October 23, 2019, 08:54:48 AM »
There was a time at my first software job when most of my teammates were working late for their pieces of the project, while I didn't have anything to work late for. This made me pretty insecure. I almost wanted to NEED to work late. How much you are needed often does play a role in how secure your job is. However...

I realized that actually wanting to work extra is BS. My skills are much more established these days, so I don't fear "not being needed". I'd so much rather be lower on the totem pole and have more free time than chasing the ridiculous desire to feel important. It's not that I'm unwilling to work extra when those rare occasions pop up, but I think it's insane there was a time I actually wanted to work more. Society does a good job brainwashing us to seek this; you really have to educate yourself to escape it.

(I don't know if this qualifies as a pearl of wisdom, but it's something I've learned about myself that I suspect will mean something to others, too)

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Re: Pearls of Wisdom
« Reply #2 on: October 23, 2019, 06:21:13 PM »
@thesis

I still feel insecure when my colleagues are very busy, get all the visibility. It is not like I'm going to lose my job or my bonus is going to be significantly impacted, but still, I do feel insecure/less important. I'm in this company for 5 years but it is undergoing lot of changes, so I need to prove me again for new team, managers, technology, etc.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.