First world problems, eh? OP, thanks for replying. At the root of it is, you want to spend more time with your husband. We all get that and I think that needs to be your focus. The only reason the issue with your in laws is bothering you is because it means your husband has to keep working. Definitely get yourself to counseling because you have to explore your desire to spend time with your husband and the fact that you both aren’t, by your own admission, great communicators. You need to work on that because if your end game is achieved, you and the hubs will be spending more time together with you being logical and not communicating well and him being strong and silent. Doesn’t seem that fun to me. If you’re honestly getting to the, should we break, then you need to put it all on the line. Tell your husband how your feeling and that you want to fight to keep this. If he cares so much about family, I doubt he’ll want to divorce. He has to know that you want/need more of him. You also need to give more of yourself. You’re each contributing to this. He’s not a bad guy for doing what most people do, work until retirement age. In his mind he’s checked all the boxes and he’s doing what he’s supposed to do. You’ve discovered this great thing and want things different. It’s not all or nothing. Find the middle, and do your part. Be more emotionally available, communicate and empathize. Maybe he works 5 more years and that’s it? Maybe he cuts down to part time work? Whatever is happening, put energy in working with him, that’s what you signed up for.