My mom, currently 75yrs old, will be retiring in the next 1-5yrs. Due to health issues with my father (84yrs old), she has had a major financial setback which has led to her not having enough to cover all her expenses. Her current expenses are $90k ($36k is housing expense, and $30k is care giver expense). I've been helping her downsize, and in the process have realized she can't really afford another home AND cover all her expenses. Went through various scenarios, and came up with this plan: Have her put a sizable down payment on the home to bring the expenses down to a level I can afford. She will continue to save and pay the mortgage while she is working, then once she retires, I pay 30-50% of the mortgage, depending on what she can afford. I will also be taking care of any repairs. The house would be under my name.
She asked me, "since I'll be gifting you the down payment, how much should I adjust the will/living trust so your brother and sister don't feel I gave you more?" I HAVE NO IDEA. My negative perspective on this is: I would never have purchased a home at this point b/c it seems we are at or close to top of market, so my crystal ball predicts this property will depreciate in value then track inflation (if lucky), it pushes my own retirement back at least 5 yrs, I now have more debt, and we aren't getting the actual amount this property would rent for. So, I don't see this as a "gift" to me. The Pros: It's a great area in Southern California, good school district, beautiful homes, and most of all, it decreases my mom's stress and keeps her close to family and friends (albeit it magnifies my own stress, but I'll get over it).
I know I'm missing the math behind how this plan would be monetarily beneficial to me? I want to be fair to my siblings and mom, which is why I would like you to help me figure this out--"how much should I adjust the will/living trust so your brother and sister don't feel I gave you more?". Do we just decrease it by the amount she gifts?
***Edited for my number crunching***
I got curious so played around with numbers. Scenarios of investing vs. purchasing the house to understand the "opportunity cost"
Purchasing the Home to help mom:
Cost of home is $600,000. Down payment of $250,000. Loan amt: $350,000. interest rate 4.7%.
After 10yrs: Loan amt $282,000 ($68k additional equity from payments). 10yrs of repairs: $60k. Appreciation @ 3%: $206,000. Plus: $500 extra to invest will increase my acct by $75k
TOTAL AFTER 10YRS: $539,000
Investing what I would have spent towards helping mom:
Invest $2500/month. Predicted ROR 3.3%: $369k.
Difference: $170,000
Did I figure this out correctly. This is helpful to see.