Hi!
At the end of this month, I will be finishing my Master's degree in computer science. I want to pursue an academic career because I think research is fun.
Here is the problem: I currently still live in my university town together with my girlfriend and I can only earn a PhD at an institution that is about 100km away; there is just no nearby institution that offers a PhD in a subject that actually interests me.
Should I give up on living with my girlfriend full-time, move to the place of my new work and only see her on the weekends, or should I do the 1000km/week commute? My girlfriend is unable to move with me since she is still in university for 1.5 years.
According to the MMM blog, the choice should be obvious: move. But I feel like that would deprive me of a lot of joyful moments with my girlfriend.
It seems like a dilemma to me, maybe you know a way out.
Cheers,
turf