Author Topic: Clever Psychology for Family Members  (Read 1329 times)

2ndTimer

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Clever Psychology for Family Members
« on: August 13, 2014, 01:42:18 PM »
I wash and reuse every plastic bag that comes my way over and over.  The Hub had a hard time remembering to bring them home after he took his sandwiches out of them.  I refuse to use up my marital capital by nagging about something so small.  Instead I started referring to them as "turtle chokers" because I remember reading that sea turtles mistake them for jelly fish which is a food item for them and can be choked by them as a result.  Suddenly he has no trouble keeping track of them and brings every one home.  It's all a matter of perspective.

Anybody else got a similar story?

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Re: Clever Psychology for Family Members
« Reply #1 on: August 13, 2014, 01:47:36 PM »

Not quite the same, but I have had a lot of long discussions with my wife about aligning our spending to our values. At first she viewed frugality with some suspicion, because she was afraid that I was trying to take away her lifestyle. She would ask questions about whether we were going to keep traveling or whether she should feel guilty about spending money on certain items. But I kept emphasizing that we save money on the stuff that doesn't matter in order to spend it on what does. I would have to keep telling her that "it's ok to spend money doing certain experiences and on traveling because we've identified that as a priority." I think I framed it best one time when I told her that if I was being true to my values I should be eating ramen noodles and paddleboarding everyday.