You're doing great financially.
Really need to know more about your goals. Sounds like you are torn between high incomes & more family time.
Do you aspire to retiring early? Is it worth trying to work at a high stress, high income job for a longer time to FIRE earlier?
Do you aspire to much less stress and not worrying about whether you are saving at a high rate? With your wife's income and a much smaller one from you it should still be easy to cover your expenses and give you the family lifestyle you describe.
You could always play around with different scenarios using something like
www.cfiresim.com and see what impact different incomes/savings have on your retirement.
In the end, you and your wife need to decide what works best for your family. Keep in mind that whatever decision you make today can be changed again - if you choose path A today you can decide at any time that you need to make a change.