I need some help in thinking through some things. My wife was diagnosed with terminal spinal and brain cancer last month, and she had three surgeries, one of them being a cesarean section, and radiation. She’s currently resting peacefully instead of her nausea and vomiting, but it’s been a long and horrible road. But we have been enjoying every moment together. My daughter was born at 32 weeks and is currently in the NICU. When we bought our house our living circumstances were different, and we’ve been talking about downsizing for a while. They are not expecting her to live much longer, but for some miracle she does pull through, we would need to move to a place without stairs. Our values don’t include doing yard work, shoveling snow, or home maintenance, so we were thinking of renting an apartment or getting a condo. Rent for a 2-3 bedroom place is anywhere from $1100 to $1500 a month (up to $2200 for a “luxury” 2 bedroom). Average condos run around $175,000 to $220,000 for a 2 bedroom near where I work.
I have two cars (06 Ford Fusion & 06 Prius), both paid off. I plan on selling the Fusion.
Total Take Home Pay: $4350 (after 10% towards retirement, health insurance, FSA, and taxes). This was more when my wife was working part time (extra $1200).
Expenses
Mortgage, PMI, Insurance & Taxes: 2,036
Cell, water, trash, sewer, gas, electric, internet, netflix: $283
Student Loans (wife and I): $406
Car & Life Insurance (Me): $105
Expenses for Two Dogs: $100
Food: $800-1000 (I won’t budge on my grocery expenses as it includes a lot of fruits, veggies, and nuts. We eat out 3-4x a month).
Healthcare Expenses (wife’s nutrition, chiropractic, PT, Yoga): $300-400
Home Maintenance: ~$100
I had school/daycare expenses for my daughter, but the school offered to cover my daughter’s tuition the rest of this year and all of next year. We also burned through all of our savings with extra health care expenses over the past couple of years unrelated to the cancer.
I was thinking about renting an apartment to pay off the student loan debt as fast as possible and pay off the healthcare expenses from the NICU and hospital stay. My values include providing for my family, being debt free, saving up to retire in 20 years (I’m 36 now), and saving up for my kid’s college. I would appreciate any insight/thoughts. I’m trying to avoid thinking about my wife’s cancer right now.