I'm a 33 year old guy who works in IT in the public sector. In general, I've always lived beneath my income. I like to think I'm pretty frugal, although I'm put to shame by many here. I've been married 4.6 years now to my DW who is 34. We have one child who is almost 2. We'd like to have more, so far it hasn't been happening. My wife is staying at home. She does some watching of other kids a couple days a week, but it's pretty minimal. I guess I'd like to have some opinion on my budget/finances. I've always been an investor, and for the most part I put all of my "savings" into my vanilla brokerage. My IRAs are all invested in Spartan mutual funds. My brokerage is invested in a mix of ETFs and some individual stocks. I really want to save more.
I commute about 15 miles to work (20 minutes or so). Where I work is kind of out in the middle of nowhere, so no public transportation could take me there. It is probably bikeable, but I'd need to get some more endurance up on my bike (10 miles is my current top distance. Going 30 miles in 1 day is a bit more than that). I also live in Michigan, and due to the location and the state of the roads, there are plenty of days I couldn't bike safely. I do work from home 1 day a week, so that cuts down on my commute a bit.
I've lived in my current house for 7.5 years now. I bought it for $185k and zillow says it's worth ~$147k now. Luckily, I've paid off a lot of it and only owe $80k. I've refinanced 3 times in 7.5 years....yeah, every time it really was a good deal. 6.25% 30yr to 5.125% 30yr to 4.625% 30yr to 3.25% 15yr. I have a little under 13 years left on my 3.25% mortgage. That's the only debt I currently have (other than CC float, which I pay in full every month).
I know I'm going to get some questions about why I have so much cash. All of that money is marked for expenses. I use YNAB and I have categories that I sink money into every month. For example, my house repair category is currently sitting at ~$3000. My new car fund is ~$6000. Auto repair at ~$1800. I've got a $820 car insurance bill that will be fully funded in a month when the bill is due. I put some of that cash into CDs that are at least beating inflation. For my fluxuating utilities, I took the average expense over the last two years and budget a slight bit more than that. Basically I'm replicating the utilities budget saver program, but I earn interest on the money instead of the utility. I'm sure many would consider this underutilized money, but it's all got a job that doesn't involve retirement/savings. I could put the money in the market, but since it's all short to medium term savings, I don't want to tie it up in the market.
The other weird thing on here is my Charitable trust. I set that up through Fidelity. Basically, I can transfer appreciated stocks to my charity and take a tax writeoff of the entire stock value. I then don't have to pay taxes on the appreciation. I then have the trust give money to charity as I dictate. Basically, it saves me a ton on taxes vs donating cash to charity. I typically sell off my most appreciated stocks if I need to raise money for our giving.
Our income is a little more irregular than it appears below. I participate in our on-call rotation. This nets me ~6k a year. It's every 6 weeks, so my paychecks are irregular. For taxes, I took the average of my high checks, medium checks, and small checks and annualized it.
INCOME Monthly Annual
Mine 5651 67813
DW 280 3360
Total 5931 71173
Payroll Deductions Monthly Annual
Taxes 1030 12359
401k 283 3391
401k Match 509 6103
FSA 67 800
Health Insurance 198 2374
Dental 4 51
Life Insurance 26 312
Total 2116 25390
Fixed Expenses Monthly Annual
Mortgage 632 7589
Escrow (Tax/Insurance) 313 3755
Electric, Water, Sewer 150 1800
Natural Gas 60 720
Car Registration 20 240
Car Insurance 140 1680
Firewood 10 120
Propane 3 36
Garbage 18 216
Total 1346 16156
Everyday Expenses Monthly Annual
Groceries 250 3000
Gas 200 2400
Diapers/Wipes/etc 40 480
Houshold Goods 99 1192
Medical (Copays/prescription 100 1200
Restaurants/Entertainment 50 600
Total 739 8872
DW Expenses Monthly Annual
Clothing 20 240
Haircut 5 56
Spending 50 600
Total 75 896
My Expenses Monthly Annual
Clothing 20 240
Haircuts 8 96
Spending 44 528
SiriusXM (From spending) 6 72
Total 78 936
Giving Monthly Annual
Tithing/Charity 360 4320
Gifts 70 840
Total 430 5160
Sink Funds Monthly Annual
Car Repairs 100 1200
Home Maintenance 250 3000
Vacations 100 1200
Total 450 5400
Luxary Expenses Monthly Annual
Amazon Prime 8 100
Netflix 8 96
Cell 29 348
Internet 41 496
CrashPlan 4 48
Sams Club 4 48
Total 95 1136
Savings Monthly Annual
Car Replacement 250 3000
Long Term Savings 350 4200
Total 600 7200
Total Income 5931 71173
Total Expenses 5929 71146
Difference 2 27
Assets
Retirement 60000
Brokerage 69000
Charitable Trust 6000
CDs (4 at 2.5%) 8400
Checking 11400
House 147675
2010 Ford Fusion 10000
2004 Honda Element 7700
Total 320175
Liabilities
Mortgage 3.25% 79120 (13yrs left)
CC Float 1520
Total 79120
Net Worth 241055
Things I'd like to change are my gifting. I think that $840 a year for presents is excessive. That doesn't even include gifts between my wife, son, and me (which comes out of our personal spending money). My DW's love language is gift giving, so I know it's going to be a hard battle to get her over it. We pretty much give birthday gifts, anniversary gifts, fathers/mothers day gifts to our parents and grandparents. Then we give christmas gifts for the same people as well as a few other random relatives. Our siblings don't exchange gifts really.
I'd also like to get rid of one of our cars. My wife is home two days a week watching kids for a friend, and I work from home a different day. That means that 3 days of the week, we don't need two cars. My employer keeps promising to allow a three day telecommute, so I've been patiently waiting for that before broaching the subject with my DW. I figured that would allow her to use the car 3 days of the week as she liked, and then she would be watching kids at home and unable to fit all the kids in either car (she watches 4 kids total). I figure that about $4k a year would be saved by ditching her car. Both cars are paid off as you can see, but I do put $250 a month towards eventual replacements. I'd cut that in half if we had one car. I'm not sure how going down to one car would affect maintenance, fuel, and insurance. I feel like it wont be half, but I know it will be considerably less. I do try to do most auto maintenance myself, (oil/breaks/roations).
So I guess I'd just like a budget health check, and any advice would be helpful. My goals are early retirement (50-55), and just having real wealth so as to not need to stress out about money. I feel comfortable where I am, but I always just want a little more.