Hi all,
I need some brainstorming about my future living arrangements. I am not even sure this is too early to be thinking about this or not.
Current situation:
43 y.o.
Live in one of the outer boroughs of NYC - HCOL
Rent 3-bedroom apartment - $2,400/mo
Been living in this apartment since June 2015, and my rent hasn't been increased since then. I don't anticipate my rent increasing for at least few more years. Right now, I am well below the market for my area.
2 kids - 14 and 16 y.o., both in high schools (different schools, one is zoned)
kid 1 (16 yo) will be starting college in Sept 2020. Dead set on going out of state.
kid 2 (14 yo) will be starting college in Sept 2022, plans to stay in NYC - local college, but live on campus or apt share.
I work in NYC and am tied to the City due to my narrow work niche. Other areas where I may find jobs are Austin, Miami, San Francisco, and possibly Chicago. None of these other places appeal to me. My plan is when I'm free to move, move to LCO area eventually and find related part-time job. It should pay the bills and let my investments grow some more.
Things I need to figure out for myself:
1. When kid 1 goes to college and moves out of state - stay in the apt with kid 2 or move to smaller place? In 2 year 2 bedroom may not be cheaper than rent I'm paying for 3-bed right now.
2. What do I do when kid 2 also starts college?
3. I am legally responsible to provide both of them with housing (obviously), and they will be coming back on holidays, summer break, etc. I can't just move to a 1-bed or studio and be there by myself.
4. I need to allow for the possibility that college life is not perfect and one or both of them may return home while figuring out next plan of action. (They are both aware that I will not be enabling adult children, but I don't disregard the possibility of second start. I believe that I am responsible for them until they are 22 y.o. - ages of 4-yr college graduation. After that they are on their own, happy to have them visit, but I don't feel I need to always have a bed available and ready for them.)
5. On the other hand, I will be living alone in a 3-bedroom apartment.
6. I need to stay in the City and in my job/field for another 8 years (for both kids to finish 4-yr college plus another 1-2 years) to build up my savings.
7. After that I plan to move away from NYC, but haven't figured out where to yet.
8. Gave some thought to possible AirBnB or room rental once kids are out. AirBnB will be a no go. I am in a very residential area. 20 min walk or bus to the subway and then another 25-35 min subway ride to Manhattan. There are zero AirBnB rentals in my area. Room rental is only possible if I can get landlord agree to it, which is not a given and may increase my rent permanently without steady roommate income).
9. When kids are back with me for college holidays, summer breaks, etc they each need their own rooms. No sharing. This won't work with full time roommate, but would work with AirBnB.
10. They can spend some time living with their dad over breaks, etc, but I am their primary parent. I cannot count on how long they'd be able to stay at their dads, etc, and even if they would want to, beyond occasional weekend visit.
I don't know if I am thinking about these things too early or not.
But it has been on my mind for a while now, and I am stumped with my options. So I figured I'll through this out to the beehive for some brainstorm.
What do you think I should consider in my decisions? What I shouldn't?
What do you think I'm missing from the big picture?
What do you suggest I concentrate on for now and what decisions can be put off until later?
What would be your actions in 2-4 years if you were in my situation?
Please note - I am not interest in suggestions on how to change my situation right now. Until one or both kids are in colleges, I am not moving or changing anything.