My boyfriend's job gives him terrible anxiety. He's been a marketing specialist for the past three months, and our quality of life has gone way, way downhill because neither of us can manage to think about anything else besides him getting out of this position. Obviously, this has caused a lot of fighting. Seriously, neither of us workout anymore, socialize, and can barely muster up getting off the couch most nights (this is unlike either of us). And all I do in my spare time is try to find other jobs for him to apply to.
Prior to this job, he was working as a senior account executive at an ad agency. He was there for seven years, but they lost his account, thus he found his current job. While most ad agency jobs would likely give him the same level of anxiety he currently has, he claims he got lucky with his last account, which allowed him to have a good work/life balance and generally coast through the position. That is not the case with most marketing/advertising jobs. So, he doesn't want to take the chance of finding something hopefully more tolerable than his current position, but still has the potential to give him so much anxiety.
I know we're not all the same, but it's hard for me to see past that sometimes. I was in a similar situation in my field at my first job, except to top it off, my boss was manipulative, verbally abusive, and sexually harassing. Being my first job out of college, I toughed it out for 2.5 years to get the experience (in hindsight, this was a terrible decision), and am now at my fourth law firm and love it. I can't imagine leaving if I stay in this field. Of course, I'd love to go back to school because life is short and you may as well be doing something you love, but I already have $55k left in student loan debt, and I don't feel I have the right to defer those loans for 2-3 years, while paying for another degree that might earn me less money than I earn now haha. BUT, I digress. I guess I just think he should consider another job in his field, instead of concluding they're all just as bad.
My boyfriend has thought about going back to school, but doesn't really know what for. He's tossed around the idea of physical therapy or occupational therapy. He just wants something more focused. However, from my perspective, those positions, and most positions in general, require a lot of management of people, workflow, multitasking, and the pressure of productivity/billing, etc. Plus, he loves physical fitness, and helping others get better physically highly appeals to him.
I want to be supportive of him going back to school, but sometimes it's very difficult. Knowing it would cut our savings potential over the next few years in half...hurts (aka, I'd be saving all the money and I'm not a high earner). Also, we're at a point where we're trying to save for a house...we're starting from nothing (we're new to MMM), so saving $30k will take a while...and again, would fall heavily on me if he goes back to school and he pays his way through school. He'll be 31 in March, and I am 29 today! And lastly, it's tough because if he goes back to school to be say, a physical therapy assistant, he'll be earning the same as he earns now, maybe less, but has to take two years off to get there, since staying in his current position is not an option. But I'm trying to remain positive in that he'll be happy and that's what matters most. No job is worth our mental health.
As for his background, he has a Bachelor's degree in communication, with a minor in advertising. He's been in the advertising industry for the past seven years, and earns $55k right now, up from $44k at his last job. He only has about $3,000 saved, but plans to use some of that soon for an engagement ring (I don't want one, but he insists). He has about $5,000 in his 401k. He is completely debt free otherwise. We live in Michigan, in case that has anything to do with his best job prospects.
My questions are:
1. If he does go back to school, what are some non-anxiety inducing jobs he could do in the meantime that earn at least $30k (we picked this salary because it will allow him to pay all his bills and have some money leftover to pay for schooling).
2. Have any of you dealt with such bad anxiety that you had to completely change your field? If so, what field did you go into?
Thank you all!
EDIT: I just wanted to add that my boyfriend has thought about seeking treatment for his anxiety. He's skeptical about medications, and constantly reads about ways to lessen what he feels, but nothing helps. I am a big supporter of therapy and I try to make sure he knows that's a viable option.