Can someone break down how to back door a Roth, explicit splaining-to-a-5th grader style?
Many people have income that is too high to contribute to a Roth IRA directly. These people are often also unable to qualify for deductible traditional IRA contributions due to their income. However, it is legal for these people to make
non-deductible traditional IRA contributions. That fact, combined with the fact that there is no income limit for converting a traditional IRA to a Roth IRA, means that these people can put money in a Roth IRA by first contributing it to a traditional IRA and then converting it to Roth.
Something to be aware of is that there is a "pro-rata rule" that applies when you convert money from a traditional IRA to a Roth IRA. Any conversion is pro-rated between pre-tax funds (that will be taxed when you convert) and post-tax funds (that won't be taxed). In your situation this means that if you contribute $5k after-tax in addition to your $30k of pre-tax funds, you'll end up paying tax on about 85% of the amount you convert. At your income this is probably not worthwhile.
If you have access to a 401(k) plan at work, you may be able to get around this by first rolling over your IRA into your 401(k). This will bring your traditional IRA balance down to zero, at which point you can make a non-deductible traditional IRA contribution and convert it to Roth without the pro-rata rule coming into effect.
This may sound like loopholes on top of loopholes, which is exactly what it is.
Since I already have a tIRA, is it too late?
Not necessarily. The only way around the pro-rata rule is to roll any pre-existing traditional IRA balance into a 401(k) or other employer plan, but this will work if your employer plan accepts IRA rollovers.
Do I add to ira 5.5k, then convert only 5.5k or the 35.5k?
If you contributed after-tax money to your pre-tax IRA, you are allowed to convert as much or as little as you want to Roth. The pro-rata rule makes it so that you pay tax on an equal proportion of the funds no matter how much is rolled over. Again, at your current tax bracket, converting pre-tax funds to Roth in any amount is probably not a good idea.
How long do I wait between converting?
There is no time requirement. You can convert whenever you want.
Is it starting to make more sense?