You guys have been very helpful in giving me the kick in the ass to just suck it up and bring in more money for my ultimate goal of ER. I did fail to mention that my husband brings in 50k and we make about another 15k with side gigs. My husband does not have the choice of remote work so even with the option now, we can't go on our long trips more than once a year anyway....
OP: This new information changes the calculus. Instead of 45% increase,
your combined income goes up by 16%. If you're both already maxing out
tax deferred savings (IRA, HSA, etc.), then the net increase is even lower.
Which is not to say you shouldn't consider the new job, but there's less of
a reason to make a choice that may diminish your quality of life.