My husband and I have combined finances, but we kept all our individual accounts from pre-marriage. We opened a combined bank account, into which we both deposit money, and a joint credit card to pay household expenses. Rough breakdown:
- Joint Checking, Joint Credit Card - All regular household spending
- My Checking/Savings, My Credit Cards - My direct deposit goes here, then a monthly transfer to joint. My cards are rarely used, only for gifts or personal spending.
- My 401k, HSA tIRA, Roth IRA, Brokerage Account - Ongoing contributions out of my checking/savings
- His Checking/Savings/Credit Cards - Same as mine
- His 403b, HSA, Roth IRA, Brokerage Account - Same as mine
We do all financial planning as a unit, and work out how much each of us should be sending to the joint account monthly in order to meet our goals. We do not send equal amounts, or even proportional, but what is needed based on savings targets. We have a flowchart showing where money should be flowing each month. I.E. $500 from my account to my IRA, $2000 from my account to joint account, $500 from his account to his IRA, $500 from his account to joint account, $1000 from his account to his brokerage (numbers made up).
Do we open new bank accounts that are joint? Do we just transfer everything into one of our bank accounts and add an authorized user? Does he start sending money to my financial planner? Do we still have separate Roth and 401K accounts? Do we combine all accounts on Mint?
We found it is useful to have a joint account, but using an account you already have and adding the other as an authorized user also works fine. IRA and 401k are individual accounts, and cannot be combined, but you'll want to update the beneficiaries with your spouse. If you continue to use the financial planner, you should go to him/her together, to have a full picture of your combined financial situation.
Is it easier if one person handles most of the money stuff and then shares information with their partner monthly? Does it work better to have both parties go over the monthly spending together at the end of every month?
It might be easier, but we prefer to have both of us involved. We each manage our own accounts, and share management of the joint accounts. We don't go over spending in detail every month, but we have a spreadsheet that both of us can access and edit for tracking.
Finally, if you have gone though this transition what was the most challenging aspect? Is there anything you would have done differently?
It was pretty seamless for us, honestly. I'm happy with how it's worked out so far. We may consolidate more in the future, but the combined big picture with low level separate is working well for us.
Congrats on your upcoming marriage, and best of luck!