If anything, the features here suggest quitting. Death can strike you sooner than normal, you should do The Thing You Want.
I agree with @Laura33 , but this also reminds me of myself when I was younger, and didn't value time the same way that one does after losing people whom they love, and chances to make more of those memories that will always last.
Now, I value my time more than anything, and time with loved ones the most.
One morbid but sometimes helpful suggestion is to ask yourself
What will your obituary say? - Will it reflect that you always intended to .....?
Good clear reminders of the fundamental driver behind everything I'm trying to do. Thank you.
So, my suggestion is what I think will bring you clarity and help you get what you're after: find out what's next. It's a lot easier to jump to something you want than into the unknown--whether that something is another job, time with a spouse, or into politics or some other hobby.
There's some truth to this. 6 months ago I had a plan but COVID has ground that to a halt. It is completely impossible today and I don't expect it would be feasible for about 2 years. This is obviously a huge disappointment and it's left a gap in my vision for the near future, but it's not really driving my decision right now.
I'm pretty sure I'll be comfortable using my time with up-front decompression, planning for that future project (or figuring out a new one), and developing some skills / hobbies.
It's certainly affecting my mood though.
For now, you seem to see FIRE as this amorphous thing, which may or may not hold what you are seeking. So find out what you're after--what drives you, gives you purpose? What were you made to do? What brings you joy/fulfillment when you do it for others?
I'm being intentionally vague here, but I've got a handle on this. I've even made a 5/10/15/20 year plan with life goals. On a side note, one of the interesting results of that exercise was realizing that
if I am long-lived
and I stay healthy, I could still get a ton of shit done. That was an inspiring moment.
rather than focusing on whether or not to continue doing something that you know you don't like, when there's nothing forcing you to do it.
Good point. This is something I struggled with early on (a la protestant work ethic) but I am fully confident that I am making my own decisions here and am fully in control. Thanks for the book recommendation.
Like Laura, I too have read your posts the past couple of years and each time I think to myself,
"You have feathered and re-feathered and strengthened your nest yet you are still afraid to fly".
I really appreciate the concern and the emotional component of this, something most of us don't pay enough attention to. More so than usual I'm doing a great deal of introspection in this regard.
But I like to be rational (or at least come up with good rational-sounding justifications), so I'm standing here asking myself two questions:
- Have I really covered everything? Have I gotten all the "value" I'm going to get out of full-time work?
- Does my plan really factor in the unprecedented shit show of poor governance and crisis we're facing?
I think we do need to be careful that we don't find ourselves in too much of a FIRE/MMM echo chamber. These are not well-trodden paths. In my case I manage risk of the unknown through a great deal of planning and experimenting. In this case I experimented with job changes, industry changes, sabbaticals, nomadism, settling in different locations, etc. This wasn't chasing some unknown. I was drinking deep from as many ways of living as I could (while growing a 'stache) before making the decision to leave traditional employment behind.
It is true that I am looking at the decision to RE as irrevocable. Maybe I need to back off on that a little but the ageism endemic to my industry, the unemployment situation, and the local markets for my niche suggest I may well not be able to rejoin the workforce once I'm out for a year or so. That notion is driving a lot of my "due diligence".
The key point missing here is that life isn't just about financial blows, it is the deeply personal, emotional blows that tend to draw us under water.
Ooof, this is so true. I focused on the financial stability more than emotional fulfillment for most of the journey to date.
Here's an interesting thought/exercise. I've been focused on the rational/logical aspects of making decisions in my FIRE journey so far. What if I were to make a decision just based on my reaction to the most visceral fears I can conjure?
When I think about it like that, I should be writing the resignation email right now, and calling everyone I care about to spend some virtual time together.