Hello Mustachians! First time posting, so please forgive me if this has been covered already ad nauseam.
I'm young (27) and still far from FI/RE, but I don't know that I can last long at my current job. The partner and I relocated for his job, and I, fresh out of grad school with a hefty $40,000 in student loans, jumped on the first job offer I could get within my major. We live fairly modestly and I kicked ass on my savings - within 2 years I had paid off ALL my loans, we had saved up a down-payment on a house, and I'm on track to max out my HSA and 401(k) and have about $10k sitting in my checking account almost ready for my first Vanguard account. This is starting at $48,000 and getting raises up to just shy of $60,000. I'm pretty proud of what I've saved in just two years.
The catch is that I have a horrible clown car commute of 64 miles. Depending on traffic, that's an hour fifteen to an hour and a half each way. Over the past two years I've only come to loathe my commute more and more. I have the capability to work from home, but despite requests it's reserved for issues like waiting for the plumber, child care issues (although we don't have any, personally), etc. I have the commute so that we can get away with having one car (a used, paid-off 2007 Prius that's up to 166k miles), as the bf can walk to work from our house.
I've been applying for other similar positions closer to where we live (or at least where I can take a train), but no luck. In addition to hating about 3 hours of my day every work day, my work load has been increasing so that I'm also putting in extra hours on top of my commute. Even if that weren't the case, this definitely isn't my forever dream job.
I'm toying with the idea of starting some kind of business, but the bf says that he'd be more comfortable with me waiting to quit my current job until I can reliably earn at least $1,000 a month, which is generally about my half of total housing/food/utilities/other bills. I'm sure there are ways to do that, but after 11-hour days when we aren't busy and all-nighters and working weekends when we are busy, I feel too exhausted and demoralized to do much productive work on my time off. I also have unemployed friends and family members, and know how hard that is. I appreciate the money that this job allowed me to save, but I'm miserable.
Any encouraging words or advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you!