Hello all. A recent change in my life has brought me off the lurker sidelines and onto these boards for advice. My wife's parents moved in with us a week ago. They are Mexican citizens, and their meager savings and livelihoods have been basically wiped out by the drug cartels that have ravaged their town, just inside Mexico on the border of Texas. Both they and my wife have lived in fear for their safety, so we moved them in with us in Houston while we file for legal residency visas. This will take at least 3 months.
The problem is, we just got married two months ago. We are barely starting our life together, we have almost no foundation, and it's already starting to wear on me. I knew we would eventually need to help them, and I know it's absolutely the right thing to do, and I want to be a good sport. But I've had almost no time to really prepare myself for it.
Do you have any advice for me? Any tips for living with parents, especially immigrant ones? Any thoughts on keeping perspective?
And, for the mustacian part, if you were looking at the prospect of supporting aging parents while trying to start a life with someone, what would you be thinking about? How would you do so in the most, I guess, fiscally advantageous way? I'm thinking about things like long term housing, health care, etc.
For background, my wife and I are late 20s, no kids yet, gross around $150k, with some student loans and a mortgage on my 2 bedroom house. I'm happy to provide any additional background.
Thanks for any thoughts you may have! I look forward to giving and receiving much advice from you all on these boards in the coming weeks and months.