I'm in need some advice and insight to a situation that presented itself to us this evening.
Called gradma to check on grampa; he was grumpy when I left this afternoon. I asked if she had decided what to do about his car insurance bill, because she was debating on dropping his coverage now that he is in hospice care, losing a battle with an aggressive form of lung cancer. She had asked my opinion earlier this week on what she should do, knowing that he will never drive again, and she doesn't care for his vehicle. My suggestion was to drop coverage, and decide when we have less pressing matters, or sell it now so she doesn't have to deal with it after his death, as it could prove to be one thing too many on her plate.
Tonight, she surprised me. Her suggestion was that I sell my car, a 2001 CRV, and take his car, a 2005 CRV as a gift. I told her I would talk to the hubby and see what he thinks. I didn't want to answer either way. Her train of thought is, I have been taking care of him M-Sat. during the day time since Sept 5th, and have saved her more than the value of the car in charges for nursing care or home health aids.
I feel torn. I don't agree that I have done anything to "earn" a car( or anything for that matter ), I think I have just been a supportive family member and made it my mission to help them anyway I could because I am so grateful to have the ability to do so. On the other hand, it feels rude to tell her no and to be disrespectful to his/her wishes. I don't know how to please everybody. I'm afraid of looking greedy or that I had ill intentions. I'm even more afraid of hurting her feelings...
The value of my car is between 4-5k. The value of his car is 8500-10500k per KBB. We are not in the market for a new car, and they are FI long term.
What do we do?