To buy or not to buy...help us weigh our options. I was introduced to Mustachianism at the beginning of this year and I'm learning so much! My husband and I got married a couple months ago and are trying to decide what is the best short/long term option for us, whether to stay in DC and buy a small condo in DC or to move back to LA and live with my mom for a couple years and buy a single family home in CA. He is 30 and I am 29 and we would like to retire at 50 so hoping that's not too far of a stretch. It's hard to decide what should be given the most weight at this point: house, kids, or career?
Income: I am staff in a top ten law firm and make around 60k/year gross, and he works for the US Chamber of Commerce and makes 55K/year gross. I get an annual bonus of around 3k and a yearly cost of living increase. He will possibly get a promotion soon to 65k/year but it's not certain.
Our monthly income: $6,000/month
Rent : $1,750/month. We are renting a 1 BR basement in central DC. The rent is a good deal for the area especially since we have a covered parking space included in the rent.
Current monthly expenses: around $2,000/month depending on travel costs
Transportation : $120/month. He is able to walk to work and I ride my bike to work. He has a 2005 Toyota CR-V that is paid off but insurance is about $90/month. We drive occasionally on weekends to visit friends or to buy larger goods. We are debating if it's worth getting rid of the car since we only drive it about once a month but it is nice to have for driving to see his family in NC.
Utilities: $50/month for electric, everything else is covered by the landlord
His cell phone: $150/month for him and his parents
My cell phone: $125/month for me, my mom and my brother
groceries: $400/month
eating out: $300/month - this is a lot and we are working on cutting it down more
misc: $400 this includes household items and clothes
travel: $600 We have been to 5 weddings this year and have one more that should be the last one this year. Since most of the weddings haven't been close to where we live, there have been a lot of hotel, flights and car rentals. We also used points for our honeymoon, we are conscientious about using freq flier miles and cc reward points but with so much travel there's only so much we can do. We would also like to take some international trips next year before we have kids.
Savings: We currently save $2000 per month or 30% of our paychecks. Previously it had been going to a wedding fund but now it's going towards our down payment fund. This comes out before expenses and we don't dip into it. I'm not sure I see our travel lessening especially with the holidays coming up later in the year. We don't have a separate savings account set up for travel. We just budget it into our normal expenses.
Assets: 35k down payment savings in CDs that will mature in one year, 25K in brokerage accounts, 60K in retirement accounts. My work contributes 10% of my salary into my 401K and he gets a 6% match on his. We have maxed out both of our IRAs.
Liabilities: 50k student loan at 6% APR that we will begin making payments on in December from a MA degree. The payments on the student loan would cut into our savings but hopefully if he gets a promotion that will balance the loan payments out. No other debts.
Specific Question(s): We don't have enough savings now but hopefully in a year's time we will add 25k to our down payment fund bringing our total to 80k which would be 20% of a 400k condo and it's possible we may be able to get another 20k from our parents. There is a also a down payment assistance program that we can take advantage of that offers a 10k loan for down payment that is forgiven if we hold the property for 5 years. We are thinking about having kids in the two to three years so trying to decide what is the best strategy for the next 5 years or so since we will need to buy a place big enough for my mom to live with us once she retires.
Option 1 - Stay on the East: We could buy a 2 bed condo/townhouse would be an investment property that we would rent out when we decide to move out of the District. My husbands job prospects are much better if we stay out in DC but if he gets a job that pays significantly more, but in order to get a single family house we would likely move to VA and buy another house there which would increase our commuting costs. My mom plans to live with us once she retires but she is very much opposed to moving out of Southern CA. We might be able to convince her to sell her house in CA and move her out to live in VA with us, but the majority of my friends and family live there as well so if we were to stay in the VA/DC area, I would likely have a couple trips per year back to LA. We don't have a strong network in DC so the appeal of staying is the proximity to our jobs and that we don't have any commuting costs/headaches but since our priority once we have kids will be a good school district we would have to move out of DC anyways. We would want to hold on to our condo in DC for at least 5 years to get the benefit of the down payment loan.
Option 2 - Move back to LA: My mom wants us to move to CA next year once our lease is up and live with her in her house since she has a 4 bed house by herself on which the mortgage is only $1,000/month. Her reasoning is that once I get pregnant I would probably quit my job anyways until the kids are older and can go to school. She currently makes around $70,000 per year at her job and she wants to work for another five years until she is 62. At that point she would retire and take care of the kids and I would go back to working. I don't think it would be difficult for me to get work at a law firm with my background, but since my husbands contacts and network are in DC I think it would be more difficult for him to get a job that builds on his international policy work background. I'm assuming his income would not be as high as DC, but my mom's income would keep us at a two-income household. We would both need cars in LA so that would increase our expenses, but we wouldn't need to pay rent while living with my mom. Her neighborhood isn't in a good school district so we would want to move to a better school district later on as well. With the added savings of my mom as a third household member we would be able to put down a larger down payment, possibly 150k and get a bigger single family home in Southern CA. We could also sell her house that is worth about 400k right now and invest that equity into a house in a better school district.
Help, is this too much to take on? I think that conventional wisdom would be to wait and continue renting, because there are so many variables but seeing the growth potential due to gentrification in the areas we are looking to buy in and the long term stability of the rental market in DC, I think it would be a good investment to buy property in DC. I just worry that we are stretching ourselves too thin and that it will be difficult to manage from the opposite coast. My husband and I don't mind staying in DC for the next five years but the pressure from my mom is the issue and she's making us an offer that seems difficult to refuse. Am I thinking too much into this when we aren't going to be ready to do anything for a year? Thanks for reading this long post and I welcome any guidance or suggestions for improvement.