Bogleheads has a higher caliber poster IMO. They generally tend to have their shit together, and most of them have real money, and because of that the discussion tends towards questions that I find interesting. But that brings with it another problem - a lot of people there aren't into frugal lifestyles. They remind me of my rich uncle, who I would listen to for investment advice but whose lifestyle I find wasteful.
Ardent Bogleheads tend to have a very specific mindset about investing: namely, that index investing is (oftentimes) the only option for most investors, with any active manager outperformance completely based in luck or simply offal.*
For example, it's very difficult to convince many members that there wasn't a "lost decade". There were several posts over the last year which even set the stage for their arguments with the assumption that during negative market dislocations *no one* will do well. No one. Those of us who chimed in with strong, multi-year records as counterexamples (mostly dividend growth and REIT strategies whose cash flow situations saw few, or no, dividend cuts during the recession and were relatively easy - and inexpensive - to construct) were discounted as market timers, being "selective" with our data, and called out for being ill informed about the group's methods and ideology.
I do realize that, for most folks, investing is merely a part of their life, and so indexing might be a reasonable choice in certain circumstances. For me, this field is both a vocation and an avocation, so I tend to get riled when folks use absolutism to exclude viable alternatives. I'm especially likely to provide counterexamples to challenge name calling and false-identifying when I know that I do very well doing what I do.
That said...
I have met some great folks on Bogleheads. They are the ones who satisfy my bias by being open to a mix of investments suitable to differing needs, at different times in life.
As for spending on what folks enjoy, I find that some Bogleheads are very in touch with what makes them happy, instead of being wed solely to an amorphous process getting them there. If they have $1m-$2m available and want to travel, they do so. If they can buy a home with cash, they do so. And if they have wanted a Porsche for years and can afford it without jeopardizing their future, that's what they buy. While we save a ton and tend to waste little, my wife and I fit much more into this philosophy.
As always, YMMV... Have fun!
*Note: this is not always the response to every posting, but it does form a central tenet of Boglehead investment philosophy which often mitigates acceptance of other points of view.