So someone has this fantasy in their heads. They build up this person who fulfills their desires, self-centered as they may be. That's fine; where better to focus on yourself than in your own head, after all?
But I wonder, at any point when they're trying to figure out how to get a person to fulfill their needs, if they ever ask how they'll be able to satisfy that person? I wonder in what ways they could convince themselves they deserve that particular person, how they'd even manage to keep that person, compared to anyone else. If you want someone so special, what makes you so special to attract them?
Do you think they ever ask that question of themselves, and then try to act in ways that make them desirable to their fantasy construct?
Short answer: probably not.
Long answer: most people just assume that they're "good enough" and don't critically look at their assets and flaws.
Let's assume I woke up tomorrow and decided I want to be a trophy wife (ahahahaha). Sun Tsu once said all war is based upon deception, and the dating world is no different! So, I have to figure out how to
trick convince somebody wealthy into marrying me.
To maximise my attractiveness to any prospective (rich) husbands, I would overhaul my diet and exercise regime, because, let's face it, nobody wants a trophy with an expiry date. Perhaps I would engage the services of a stylist and personal shopper to revamp my hair, makeup and wardrobe to enhance my most attractive features.
I would move jobs to a male dominated and highly compensated industry so my new work friends could perhaps introduce me to an eligible bachelor. My evenings and lunch breaks will be consumed with keeping up to date in industry news, networking within my industry as well as cultivating socially acceptable, classy hobbies (e.g. Art appreciation or ancient history) as well as ones appealing to the demographic I'm targeting.
Assuming I find a nice rich man, I'll have to keep this charade up for long enough for it to either become the mask, or so my slide back into default doesn't look suspicious. If I don't have anything approximating true commitment by 9-12 months in, it's time to cut loose and find the next mark.
No wonder girls who dream of a rich husband don't do anything to achieve this goal, it's too much like hard work! All this is a lot of work. Changing your entire lifestyle for the goal of a nice rich husband is way more effort than anyone I know would be willing to put in.
You're better off funneling your energies into a business or your own job and investments, or just by saying you'll only date wealthy men and hope there is one who likes you the way you are.
Tl;dr rich husbands are way too much effort