Shit like this is why redpillers exist.
Let's go down the checklist.
- Dated and deeply loved a man for four years; wouldn't be willing to move to a nordic country (because they're so terrible, right?), wouldn't be able to do long distance. "He's the one unless it's inconvenient."
- Earns $50k, but wants a man who earns at least $100k.
- Isn't willing to move out of NYC.
- Has degrees in various bullshit where $50k in NYC is near the top of her career.
- Whine whine whine about money.
Listen, don't get me wrong, financial stability is a big fucking deal. But when one yearns to be financially stable, the equitable thing to look for is someone who makes a similar amount of money, or someone who makes enough money that the two of you together can achieve the things you want. When going with route #2, if that other person's income is greater than yours, your dreams are simply beyond your ability. Improve yourself? Earn more? Nah, just find a sucker to leech off of.
She's exactly the kind of person you'd want to lease, not buy.