Wow, this was supposed to be a lighthearted look at someone else's crazy spending habits.
Not that I need to defend myself, but I was a SAHM who supported my husband's career and took care of the children. I had no savings, no 401(k) no nothing of my own to speak of. I'm only a little over a year out and still trying to land on my feet. I am not a gold-digger so I only asked for $200/month for ONE YEAR of rehabilitative alimony. That's it. Considering he makes $82,000/year, I don't think that's unreasonable, especially considering he "strongly dissuaded" me from returning to the work force once our children were both in school.
Then a year after the divorce, my company suddenly closed its doors and I was unemployed again. I couldn't find a comparable job in my region so I had to move across the country, going further into debt and borrowing from my parents.
There, do I meet your standards and requirements?
And no, I don't wish him any ill. He's taking care of that all on his own.
*drops mic*
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Is he behind on his child support payments?
Funny story. I have a friend who is divorced. She got custody, but her husband got the kids every other weekend, some holidays, that sort of thing. It was agreed to in court. He also had to pay child support as she had primary custody.
He missed child support payments. Many of them. Then one year, he takes the kids on a 2 week vacation over Christmas, encompassing both his week and her week. She agreed to it, because she's nice and the kids wanted to go.
Then he presents her with a bill for half the cost (airfare, hotel, etc.) because they were there for *her* week too. She refuses to pay.
He takes her to small claims court. The very first question out of the judge's mouth: "Is there a child support requirement?" "Yes". "Is he in arrears?" "Yes". "Let's open up a family court case file right now..." She hadn't bothered to do it, because she was nice.
He was a small business owner, so they garnished his pre-paid business taxes to pay her back child support.
So...I wish you a similar outcome (that you are able to get your back alimony). And also: $200 a month is nothing. He got off easy.