I'm in my mid-30s and also starting to notice the divergence of the people who made good decisions and the people who made bad ones. It definitely takes a number of years for it to be really apparent. There's a really good ERE post showing the math behind how some people end up so much ahead of their peers, even with the same income and life situation: https://earlyretirementextreme.com/update-3-interesting-spreadsheet-calculation.html
Wait until you hit your 50's or have high schoolers! The divergence is massive between the savers and non savers. I have friends panicking that their kids are about to go to college and they have nothing saved or their jobs are laying people off in the 50's. They freak out over a $2000 house repair, but spent THOUSANDS on vacations multiple times a year and buy every new gadget and have new cars every couple of years.
They know we had massive unplanned expenses last year (roof damage, tree removal, bathroom pipe burst, basement flood, washer and dryer and fridge all broke, nothing covered by insurance) and then call me "lucky" that we covered all those expenses without stressing.
Not luck. We planned, we saved. Drop mic!
We've already seen this quite a few times. One case, one of my son's friend's parents are in one of the upper sub divisions in town. He drives a Mercedes and she just bought a new Mercedes. They just learn after a dentist visit that their son needs braces. She's in a panic because she can't see how she can possibly afford this. I'm just like "what?".
I don't know what our actual savings are, but my investments go up $100k a few times a year along with added investment and $5k savings bonds from our tax return every year. Of course, both DW and I are maxing both our 401k's and both our Roths when our income allows. We're right on that border where we can/can't do a Roth. So $200k'ish, not $300k'ish. I'm also doing very well with tradeline sales and my "scams" for gas savings, credit card sign ups and even low balance forgiveness. The other day, I found 4 pennies on the ground as I was getting out of the car to fill up with gas. I used it in the pay machine in the self check aisle at the grocery store. In short, I'm a saver at heart. Others are spenders at heart and will never have spare money.
I got in a car accident a few years ago in late November. I have comprehensive insurance, so it was only costing me a $500 deductible for 8K in repairs (should have been written off, it was an older used base model Corolla).
Anyway, I cannot tell you the number of people who exclaimed in horror "Oh my god that's horrible! Right before Christmas!!!"
First, I'm a medical professional, everyone knew I made good money. Second, I have no kids. Third, everyone who knows me knows my stance on gifts, we do not do gifts in my family.
But still, even knowing all of these things, it was clear that for them, this would be such a devastating thing that they couldn't help but have an intense knee jerk reaction that I *must* be beside myself upset for this to happen right before Christmas.
At first, I kept being confused and saying "nono, the car should be repaired by then", and then they would look at me all confused, as if we were speaking different languages.
It actually took one of them explaining it to me that for most people they know, a $500 hit right before Christmas would be devastating to their ability to buy gifts for their family.
All I could think was "how can they afford gifts if they can't afford a minor financial emergency???"