My MIL died back in February a 1.5 months before COVID hit big. She had a heart attack due to a replaced heart valve going bad. She was in the hospital for 2(?) days and we visited for when she was discharged from the hospital. We drove home 3 hours away and got woken up the morning that she had another massive heart attack and didn't make it. MIL worked, FIL is on SS Disability due to poor health from not maintaining diabetes. Their marriage was rocky for years but everyone is still pretty upset with FIL because one of the first things he said while in the ER after she passed was "She just got paid and I'm not on the account" She had a separate account because he IS spendy-pants and has opened up multiple cards behind her back ~15K.
Between her 401K/IRA that he cashed out, life insurance payout and cash envelope that MIL coworkers gave him, he's been blowing through cash on stupid stuff. We had to move him into subsidized housing, but he doesn't want to give up the leased SUV. Brother-in-law who was on a joint account ended up pulling some of the money into another account so that FIL didn't blow through it all in a couple years. His response "I'll play that game". We'd talk to him about finances and his spending and he's say the right things, but never change.
It's infuriating when we're not trying to play a game, we're trying to make sure he doesn't starve to death or end up homeless. It's not like it's some huge inheritance we're mad about not getting, we just don't want him to have to live at a soup kitchen. And yet the diabetic still drinks pop and buys prepared food. We're not going to abandon him, but it sucks when people are selfish. It feels bad to say, but we all assumed he would die from a diabetic related infection long before MIL.