Fiancee returns $3k ring - "too cheap"

[partgypsy]

We were at a Jared store getting my wife's engagement ring looked at because one of the prongs was damaged a bit. The sales person asked how long we'd been married and we replied 7 years. "Oh is it time for an upgrade?" I wanted to reply "I'm proud of that ring I got her after college without a great job. No we're not going to 'upgarade'.  Instead I just patted my wife's leg and said "No I'm keeping you I don't want to upgrade you." Seriously though does that BS work on people?

Good response!  I have to admit I 💕 me jewelry and it is (well was) one of the few things I'd spend money on. But I 🤔 no I am an odd person out on this site. From experience (mine and others) know that ring size/price  doesn't equal love/commitment. My only caveat is, if during this process one person has to have everything their way, and not listen or take in consideration the other person's preferences or wishes, that IS a red flag. Being in a relationship, means being able to listen, communicate, come to agreement from different perspectives. I really appreciated my ex going along with the whole ring thing, even though he wasn't a jewelry person, but because it made me happy. 

[Just Joe]

I've heard people admit they like the attention the sales staff give them be it jewelry store, car dealer or furniture store.

I want everything - absolutely everything - sold at an Aldi type store. Don't you dare try to up sell me! ;)

Sales people trying to schmooze with me sets off all sorts of warning bells in my head. Probably shouldn't but there we are.

[Money Badger]

In the article, the guy mentions he's earning low 6 figures, but supporting several of his family and his company had layoffs.   He's a lucky man to dodge Miss Spendypants for sure!   If she didn't like a $3,000 ring from such a guy, then perhaps a pig-ring is more suitable.   Geez!

As a guy, my wife and I bought my simple gold band ring at Service Merchandise for $99 plus tax (I remember sitting with her and waiting at their God awful "take a number" style counter like it was yesterday).    But, the ring has done quite well for 32 years and our annual net out of pocket cost is now down to at about $3 per year and decreasing (Though this does exclude the opportunity cost of capital... and more importantly, the additional cost of not buying it which is my girlfriend would have killed me at the time!  So it was quite a good deal for sure! ;-)   

[Michael in ABQ]

I got my wife a semi-custom engagement ring. The jeweler was a guy who my best friend's dad knew. He worked by word of mouth and appointment only out of a back room in his wife's hair salon. I knew I wanted to get her a claddagh ring and once I found one I liked in a jewelry catalog I decided on a heart-shaped ruby. This was over a decade ago when gold was much cheaper, maybe $600-700/oz. I think the ring was about $400, the stone about $900 and the labor about $100. So $1,400 or so as a college student.

After the engagement my wife and I went back and picked out our wedding bands from him, maybe $300 or so each. Very happy with our decision.

[Dicey]

I've heard people admit they like the attention the sales staff give them be it jewelry store, car dealer or furniture store.

I want everything - absolutely everything - sold at an Aldi type store. Don't you dare try to up sell me! ;)

Sales people trying to schmooze with me sets off all sorts of warning bells in my head. Probably shouldn't but there we are.

OMG! This is me, too. I was in sales my whole career,  and commission sales a good part of the time, 'cuz the money's better there. I swear any time someone tries to schmoize me it takes a concerted effort not to bark, "Fuck off!" at them. Oy.

[DaMa]

I've heard people admit they like the attention the sales staff give them be it jewelry store, car dealer or furniture store.

I want everything - absolutely everything - sold at an Aldi type store. Don't you dare try to up sell me! ;)

Sales people trying to schmooze with me sets off all sorts of warning bells in my head. Probably shouldn't but there we are.

OMG! This is me, too. I was in sales my whole career,  and commission sales a good part of the time, 'cuz the money's better there. I swear any time someone tries to schmoize me it takes a concerted effort not to bark, "Fuck off!" at them. Oy.

Same here!  I always dress down when I have to go shopping in a showroom type setting in hopes that they think I have no money and leave me alone.  It mostly works!

[TheGrimSqueaker]

I've heard people admit they like the attention the sales staff give them be it jewelry store, car dealer or furniture store.

I want everything - absolutely everything - sold at an Aldi type store. Don't you dare try to up sell me! ;)

Sales people trying to schmooze with me sets off all sorts of warning bells in my head. Probably shouldn't but there we are.

OMG! This is me, too. I was in sales my whole career,  and commission sales a good part of the time, 'cuz the money's better there. I swear any time someone tries to schmoize me it takes a concerted effort not to bark, "Fuck off!" at them. Oy.

Same here!  I always dress down when I have to go shopping in a showroom type setting in hopes that they think I have no money and leave me alone.  It mostly works!

I am mostly invisible to humans. Not in any objective way-- light still bounces off of me-- but people mostly don't notice me unless I wish to be noticed... and sometimes not even then. Nor do they tend to remember me: I'm very easily forgotten and overlooked. Part of it is my appearance, part of it is how I move, and part of it is the fact I mostly don't make noise. I've been told I give off a very strong "fuck off" vibe. Whatever the reason, I can walk from one end of a car dealership or commission sales store to the other and not be accosted. But I can't get past animals though.

[partgypsy]

Me, I can look shlumpy/bland/and invisible, look youthful (and get carded), or be visible, such as shopping right after work when I am more put together.  I find it interesting.

[Just Joe]

I've heard people admit they like the attention the sales staff give them be it jewelry store, car dealer or furniture store.

I want everything - absolutely everything - sold at an Aldi type store. Don't you dare try to up sell me! ;)

Sales people trying to schmooze with me sets off all sorts of warning bells in my head. Probably shouldn't but there we are.

OMG! This is me, too. I was in sales my whole career,  and commission sales a good part of the time, 'cuz the money's better there. I swear any time someone tries to schmoize me it takes a concerted effort not to bark, "Fuck off!" at them. Oy.

Same here!  I always dress down when I have to go shopping in a showroom type setting in hopes that they think I have no money and leave me alone.  It mostly works!

We drive our much older car too if our car will be visible.