Relatives who just don't get it.. Gawd, this was totally on point this past Sunday.
One of my sister's is a very high income earner and lives in the same town. Very high consumption, finds any opportunity to spend money type. She lives so far out of my world she just doesn't get it.
This is what happened Sunday. My dh was off and spending his day getting our soon-to-be mobile home unskirted and unhooked and ready to move, we are moving it today. This is after spending every day off for the past month working on it, letting the guy who owns it know it's going and what day, having the mover set up, this house was being moved. Well, so happens spendy sister has a mobile home one of her daughters just vacated, so now she wants to unload it.
Her "great deal" was for us to move her mobile home and we can make payments to her. Umm.. the one are moving is ours already, it was free to us if we just move it, so no payments. We've already made an arrangement with the owner and gave him our word. We've already have time invested in it with cleaning, ripping carpets, and the hard work of getting it ready to move. Once moved, there will be NO payment. To anyone, the land is ours.
She would just NOT get it through her thick head that the whole reason we are doing this is to lower our monthly expenses, it did not register. "But, this one is nice and ready to move into, and yours needs so much work". Yeah, but I won't be making payments on it. Much less, to a relative (oh hell no!!).
All in all, she made me feel horrible for not even considering her "good deal". I didn't ask for it, didn't want it, didn't even want to go see it. We already gave our word, made the pad for the home to the size of the one we are moving (not her mobile home size), have moving lined up, this deal is gonna happen. Yet, she just didn't get that we preferred the one we are moving. In her mind, the nicer one with payments is the better option.
After discussing it her a bit more come to find out, she will be paying lot rent and utilities on that home until she sells it, and she has paid all that for a year while it set empty before and does not want to do that again. So, she is trying to get out of monthly payments to keep it there, and gain someone making payments to her for it. Ummm.... HOW is this a "good deal" for me? Seems like I would be doing her a favor, not the other way around. But not in her eyes. I am yet again being made to feel like a heel by not letter her do this 'favor' for me. This is the very last person on earth I want to be beholden to, love her but hell no!