My cousin is currently 62 years old. She has never had a job and has always depended on rich family to pay her bills.
When she was in her 30s, our grandmother gave her $20k as a down payment on a house and sent her $1,000 a month to pay the mortgage. She, of course, used the money for herself and never paid the mortgage. She was foreclosed and almost homeless.
After the foreclosure, her parents bought her a house to raise her 4 kids. She is single, never married and the dad's are all deadbeats. For the past 25 years she lived in this house rent free. She raised her children in this house. She now lives alone in this house as all her kids have moved out. She never worked, as her parents also sent her money every month.
Now her parents are in their late 80s and need money for healthcare, long term care, etc. They told my cousin that she needed to move out as they were going to sell the house. My cousin refused to move. Parents filed an eviction. My cousin got a lawyer and fought them in court. Cousin lost and had to move out. My cousin and her kids now hate the grandparents as they believe that my cousin was entitled to the house. They claim that the grandparents are being selfish. My cousin and her kids have told the grandparents that they are dead to them and to never call them ever.
My cousin, 62 years old without ever having to work or pay bills, is complaining about how she has no money. "How do my parents expect me to make a living at my age".
Unbelievable.
We have a variation on this theme. SIL is 60 and has had MIL/FIL "supplement" BIL's income for decades. They spoiled her with cars, horses, and who knows what else when she was young. Even when she married BIL, who made good money, she spent it all and still needed "help" from the bank of Mom and Dad. They gave her around 15K to help her pay off her house. It got especially bad / insane after MIL/FIL inherited money from their own parents. Parents paid for cars, boats, two condos, constant shopping sprees, another horse, trailer for the horse, and then the big ass truck to pull the trailer. Parents even bought her Christmas gifts for her to give out, as DH found out one year, he started thanking his mother instead lol. This insanity has gone on all through the parents' retirement. Until now.
She has worked her so-called "fun" part time job (that doesn't make much and is more something for her to do) for nearly 20 years now, but now she has a new boss who changed things around at her workplace so it's not fun anymore so she puts in the minimum hours required, around 8 hours/week. BIL has had a couple periods of lengthy unemployment but makes good money when working and now is still working at the age of 68.
Now MIL/FIL are in their late 80s (ages 86 and 88 respectively) and are at a point where they need their money for long term care and more money for healthcare now that FIL's retiree health plan changed. They are already getting assistance with a cleaning service and hired a landscaping service to mow the lawn and shovels the snow. They have looked into assisted living. So they turned off the money spigot and SIL is mad. During BIL's last bout of unemployment, BIL withdrew money from his retirement to help pay all the bills for all the property and toys that SIL "needs" because MIL/FIL stopped being the family ATM and of course, it's their fault that they had to resort to this.
And on top of this, SIL's two kids, niece and nephew, have relied on the handouts through the years as well. While nephew now seems independent after graduating college and working full time, niece constantly calls MIL for handouts. The last request was for a second furnace to the huge house that btw, niece and her husband bought but can't afford, but has been helped out over the years by her grandparents.
So the MIL/FIL are not talking to their daughter, who doesn't get why they can't continue with their insane levels of EOC when the answer should be pretty damn obvious. Pretty sad.
Interesting that DH, their son who never got a penny of EOC from them, does talk to them and makes a point to remain in contact as they get older.
Topic: Relatives who just don't get it (Read 3749590 times)
