I will cop to being annoyed by cash bars. If I am invited to a party (especially a party that is likely have expenses for me such as hotel room, etc) I surely do expect to have my drinks included. And if alcohol is important to the bride and groom, and they "can't afford it", then they need to decide if alcohol is more important, or if having any number of other things is more important, and make a trade-off.
Anyway, I actually opened this thread to share a FB friend story. The friend had a short sale maybe 4-5 years ago, and is now house hunting again. Household income upwards of 200k, so even with a high SL burden they should be doing well. They found a house and are getting an FHA loan. I tried to gently advise her to consider that they will be paying PMI for the life of the loan which efctively increases their interest rate by 2-3%. Friend accused me of bursting her happiness bubble, and said they caning afford to put 5% down! and anyway interest rates are increasing so they need to by now.
The first short sale was a genuinely crap circumstances (housing market crashed, had to relocate for a job, could not rent out, etc) but at this point..... Yah......