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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #550 on: July 14, 2014, 07:46:07 AM »
I have a relative who constantly complains about being broke.

This person's Facebook timeline is an endless succession of "check ins" at various restaurants.

I think these phenomena are connected.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #551 on: July 14, 2014, 11:59:51 AM »
I have a relative who constantly complains about being broke.

This person's Facebook timeline is an endless succession of "check ins" at various restaurants.

I think these phenomena are connected.
Naw. Everybody knows we're victims of our circumstances and can't exert ourselves to change the world around us. That's how we can tell that successful people are just luckier than us!

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #552 on: July 14, 2014, 12:28:51 PM »
I have a relative who constantly complains about being broke.

This person's Facebook timeline is an endless succession of "check ins" at various restaurants.

I think these phenomena are connected.

I would have trouble not taking a bunch of screen grabs of these "check ins" then posting a pic of all them under the next 'Im broke' post.  Might even do the math of 50$/check in * 10 check ins this month = 500$.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #553 on: July 14, 2014, 01:16:41 PM »
I have a relative who constantly complains about being broke.

This person's Facebook timeline is an endless succession of "check ins" at various restaurants.

I think these phenomena are connected.

I would have trouble not taking a bunch of screen grabs of these "check ins" then posting a pic of all them under the next 'Im broke' post.  Might even do the math of 50$/check in * 10 check ins this month = 500$.
You get your logic out of here! How do I give up food? I have to eat!

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #554 on: July 15, 2014, 07:46:16 AM »
I have a relative who constantly complains about being broke.

This person's Facebook timeline is an endless succession of "check ins" at various restaurants.

I think these phenomena are connected.

I would have trouble not taking a bunch of screen grabs of these "check ins" then posting a pic of all them under the next 'Im broke' post.  Might even do the math of 50$/check in * 10 check ins this month = 500$.
You get your logic out of here! How do I give up food? I have to eat!

I agree, clearly Alan doesn't understand the only way for a wholesome delicious home cooked meal is to get it at a finer establishment that advertisies  quality home cooking like Cracker Barrel. lolol

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #555 on: July 15, 2014, 02:35:52 PM »
Through the power of FB, we are friends with the people that purchased our old house.  They have a 2 year old and 1 year old twins.  They just bought a brand new BMW Z4.  For those of you who don't know what this is (I didn't) it's a 2 seater sports car that sells for $50k-$75k. 

The guy works on oil rigs making 200k working 1 month on, 1 month off.  He should be on this site talking about how they are going to FIRE in their 30s but instead they buy so much crap they have credit card debt.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #556 on: July 16, 2014, 10:57:44 AM »
I know, I know, commercialism at its finest, but this struck me as being SO WRONG!!!

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #557 on: July 16, 2014, 12:50:53 PM »
Real life is like a parody of real life sometimes...

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« Reply #558 on: July 16, 2014, 12:53:34 PM »
I know, I know, commercialism at its finest, but this struck me as being SO WRONG!!!

A friend of mine recently posted a giant bouquet with the caption "you know you're marrying the right guy when he sends you flowers at work!" >_< Not that sending flowers isn't a sweet gesture, but really? Your entire marriageability comes down to that?

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« Reply #559 on: July 16, 2014, 06:50:50 PM »
I know, I know, commercialism at its finest, but this struck me as being SO WRONG!!!

A friend of mine recently posted a giant bouquet with the caption "you know you're marrying the right guy when he sends you flowers at work!" >_< Not that sending flowers isn't a sweet gesture, but really? Your entire marriageability comes down to that?

Ick

I have had to beg my DH not to send me flowers from the florist, in a nice way, I know he is just being sweet, but I hate how much they cost and would be just as happy with a $10 bouquet of tulips from Meijer.

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« Reply #560 on: July 16, 2014, 07:56:30 PM »
I know, I know, commercialism at its finest, but this struck me as being SO WRONG!!!

A friend of mine recently posted a giant bouquet with the caption "you know you're marrying the right guy when he sends you flowers at work!" >_< Not that sending flowers isn't a sweet gesture, but really? Your entire marriageability comes down to that?
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I've done this for my mother. She LOVES getting flowers at work where all her friends can see (but in a cute way, really). But one year when I was a new mom and living locally, I baked her a birthday cake and coordinated with her aides to bring it in (with baby). Just as conspicuous and waaaay less expensive!

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #561 on: July 16, 2014, 08:38:18 PM »
I know, I know, commercialism at its finest, but this struck me as being SO WRONG!!!

A friend of mine recently posted a giant bouquet with the caption "you know you're marrying the right guy when he sends you flowers at work!" >_< Not that sending flowers isn't a sweet gesture, but really? Your entire marriageability comes down to that?

Ick

I have had to beg my DH not to send me flowers from the florist, in a nice way, I know he is just being sweet, but I hate how much they cost and would be just as happy with a $10 bouquet of tulips from Meijer.
I told my bf if he feels the need to buy something, I appreciate chocolate since I would buy myself it anyways. And/or he can buy me some gardening supplies and flower seeds. (Technically he did buy everything for me, but with my credit card.) I know he spent waay too much on flowers for our first valentines.
I remember a flower shop that made me angry when they had a sign saying something along the line that flowers will make her forgive you.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #562 on: July 16, 2014, 11:30:17 PM »
I know, I know, commercialism at its finest, but this struck me as being SO WRONG!!!

Bahahahaha.

And yet, so many people are going to fall for it.

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« Reply #563 on: July 17, 2014, 09:05:05 PM »
I know, I know, commercialism at its finest, but this struck me as being SO WRONG!!!
Am I reading that right?  Is that a "Forgiveness ring"?  Boy, I'd love to wear a big gaudy ring around the office that screams "my boyfriend is a cheater but he bought me this ring so I forgive him". Not only that, but the design on that ring is clearly a giant vagina.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #564 on: July 17, 2014, 09:40:43 PM »
I know, I know, commercialism at its finest, but this struck me as being SO WRONG!!!
Am I reading that right?  Is that a "Forgiveness ring"?  Boy, I'd love to wear a big gaudy ring around the office that screams "my boyfriend is a cheater but he bought me this ring so I forgive him". Not only that, but the design on that ring is clearly a giant vagina.

Good lord, I didn't even notice that, but you are totally right!

Thank the gods my wife and I both believe the 'prove you love me' games that so many people play are BS.  Of course, this is a woman who, when presented with the idea of ER said 'makes sense, let's to it' :)

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #565 on: July 18, 2014, 05:45:47 PM »
I know, I know, commercialism at its finest, but this struck me as being SO WRONG!!!

A friend of mine recently posted a giant bouquet with the caption "you know you're marrying the right guy when he sends you flowers at work!" >_< Not that sending flowers isn't a sweet gesture, but really? Your entire marriageability comes down to that?

Ick

I have had to beg my DH not to send me flowers from the florist, in a nice way, I know he is just being sweet, but I hate how much they cost and would be just as happy with a $10 bouquet of tulips from Meijer.

If a girl received flowers (like a bouquet, not just a single flower) while I was working with them, I'd immediately wonder what the guy did wrong (terrible first thought, but it's true).
 
When my SO and I first started dating, he left a super pretty flower on the windshield of my car while I was working. The only person who noticed was me, after driving halfway down the street without noticing it, haha.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #566 on: July 19, 2014, 06:38:55 AM »
i Bring my wife flowers home from work... they are free wild flowers I pick while on my bike ride lol.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #567 on: July 19, 2014, 05:49:31 PM »
i Bring my wife flowers home from work... they are free wild flowers I pick while on my bike ride lol.

That's cute.

Massive collection of red roses = not cute and unoriginal in my book.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #568 on: July 19, 2014, 06:17:47 PM »
I know, I know, commercialism at its finest, but this struck me as being SO WRONG!!!

A friend of mine recently posted a giant bouquet with the caption "you know you're marrying the right guy when he sends you flowers at work!" >_< Not that sending flowers isn't a sweet gesture, but really? Your entire marriageability comes down to that?

My husband always knew better than to send me flowers.  I can't look at them without seeing the price-tag and thinking 'this is bullshit'.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #569 on: July 21, 2014, 07:41:00 AM »
Come on, people, where's your sense of romance? Nothing says "I love you" like a big bundle of the severed sex organs of a plant.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #570 on: July 21, 2014, 09:02:40 AM »
idk, for $10-15 or so every few months, flowers are a really easy way for me to make my SO feel quite loved.

Course, I'm that guy who buys a few of the cheap things and gets a large number of flowers for relatively cheap from the grocery store. :)

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« Reply #571 on: July 21, 2014, 09:10:47 AM »
If a girl received flowers (like a bouquet, not just a single flower) while I was working with them, I'd immediately wonder what the guy did wrong (terrible first thought, but it's true).

Really?  That's sad that you automatically think negative things about people rather than positive.  I generally think: birthday, random I love you, anniversary, etc. when I see other people with them at work.

My husband once got me a huge bouquet of roses at work, a bit after we first started dating and he had to travel to Italy for work with a vacation in Italy afterwards.  It's the only time he's done it, he claims because he knew we were something special and he didn't want me to feel neglected early in on our relationship while he was gone (also said the first I love you at the airport before flying out).  I don't encourage him to buy me flowers (particularly overpriced Valentine's Day flowers!), but I still have that special bouquet dried, saved and displayed at our house 6+ years later. 

For a super awkward moment...I got flowers once at work for my birthday which were unsigned.  Call my then-bf to thank him (since my parents don't do that sort of thing) and discovered it wasn't him.  After a bit of speculation, figured out it must have been an ex from 6 months ago.  We were headed away that weekend, so it was also pretty poor timing on getting them too.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #572 on: July 21, 2014, 10:08:48 AM »
i Bring my wife flowers home from work... they are free wild flowers I pick while on my bike ride lol.

That's cute.

Massive collection of red roses = not cute and unoriginal in my book.

Unless you grew them yourself. :)

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« Reply #573 on: July 21, 2014, 10:28:05 AM »
Come on, people, where's your sense of romance? Nothing says "I love you" like a big bundle of the severed sex organs of a plant.

DW has severe flower allergies.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #574 on: July 21, 2014, 10:33:16 AM »
Come on, people, where's your sense of romance? Nothing says "I love you" like a big bundle of the severed sex organs of a plant.

DW has severe flower allergies.

If you wanted to sweep her off her feet by surprising her with non-allergenic flowers at some point...you could try to learn how to make origami ones. My first bf gave me a rose that I kept 5 years or so (it got crushed from moving several times and started to fade). Roses are hard though; lilies are probably easier...

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« Reply #575 on: July 21, 2014, 10:36:45 AM »
My friend is a blacksmith, a very talented one and he makes his wife metal flowers for valentines day, they are really beautiful, he has to make vases too though, because they are so heavy they would break most vases or at least never stand up in them :)

My Dh has sent me flowers for special occasions, not when he has been annoying, only for good things.

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« Reply #576 on: July 21, 2014, 11:03:13 AM »
DH gets me potted plants for special occasions. Houseplants, herbs for the garden, etc. He knows that I don't really appreciate getting cut flowers. All I see is dollar signs and waste. They're pretty though, and I can understand why other people like them.

My ex-H always had these huge, tropical bouquets sent to my office. He thought it was more important to impress my co-workers than to give me something that I actually liked. It was a common theme in our relationship.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #577 on: July 21, 2014, 11:21:18 AM »
i Bring my wife flowers home from work... they are free wild flowers I pick while on my bike ride lol.

That's cute.

Massive collection of red roses = not cute and unoriginal in my book.

Unless you grew them yourself. :)

This is the strategy that I went with ;) When I first started dating my wife I found out she loves getting roses. I don't like buying flowers, so our first spring I bought I small rose bush and planted it without telling her about it. A few months later I show up at her house with a huge vase full of fresh roses and a little photo montage of planting and growing them. It worked out great for both of us, since it got me into gardening and she got massive amounts of nearly free roses for several years :)

Sadly, that bush was killed by a massive ice storm 2 winters ago now :( I'll have to plant her more when we buy a house.

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« Reply #578 on: July 21, 2014, 12:13:41 PM »
i Bring my wife flowers home from work... they are free wild flowers I pick while on my bike ride lol.

That's cute.

Massive collection of red roses = not cute and unoriginal in my book.

Unless you grew them yourself. :)

This is the strategy that I went with ;) When I first started dating my wife I found out she loves getting roses. I don't like buying flowers, so our first spring I bought I small rose bush and planted it without telling her about it. A few months later I show up at her house with a huge vase full of fresh roses and a little photo montage of planting and growing them. It worked out great for both of us, since it got me into gardening and she got massive amounts of nearly free roses for several years :)

Sadly, that bush was killed by a massive ice storm 2 winters ago now :( I'll have to plant her more when we buy a house.

that is freaking adorable!

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #579 on: July 21, 2014, 12:41:28 PM »
i Bring my wife flowers home from work... they are free wild flowers I pick while on my bike ride lol.

That's cute.

Massive collection of red roses = not cute and unoriginal in my book.

Unless you grew them yourself. :)

This is the strategy that I went with ;) When I first started dating my wife I found out she loves getting roses. I don't like buying flowers, so our first spring I bought I small rose bush and planted it without telling her about it. A few months later I show up at her house with a huge vase full of fresh roses and a little photo montage of planting and growing them. It worked out great for both of us, since it got me into gardening and she got massive amounts of nearly free roses for several years :)

Sadly, that bush was killed by a massive ice storm 2 winters ago now :( I'll have to plant her more when we buy a house.

that is freaking adorable!

Haha, it's nothing compared to how I proposed ;) Took me three whole months to draw/color the big poster.

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« Reply #580 on: July 21, 2014, 12:46:48 PM »
On a sports-related message board, someone was trying to track down a fellow enthusiast she used to know, but whose name she had forgotten.  Included in her description of the guy was this:

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he was also "retired" and living off of his investments at 30.

Now why does that word need quotations?

Um, because a non-disabled male under the age of 60 is still presumed by society to be supposed to be working unless they are in prison/mental/drying up/drugged/ loser.

 . . . therefore the key to social acceptance of your financial independence is to get drugged up then dry out for a few cycles until you're old enough to be retired in the eyes of the masses!

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« Reply #581 on: July 22, 2014, 12:38:03 AM »
Come on, people, where's your sense of romance? Nothing says "I love you" like a big bundle of the severed sex organs of a plant.

DW has severe flower allergies.

If you wanted to sweep her off her feet by surprising her with non-allergenic flowers at some point...you could try to learn how to make origami ones. My first bf gave me a rose that I kept 5 years or so (it got crushed from moving several times and started to fade). Roses are hard though; lilies are probably easier...

She's easy to please. I just need to make dinner and take care of all the kid-related stuff that evening.  Working 12-16 hour days and being gone for half our marriage makes it easier for me to do something special.  I changed jobs last year and started coming home on time.  It was like a birthday present every day for weeks. Of course I'm gone again this year so we get to repeat the cycle in a few months.
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #582 on: July 23, 2014, 08:15:48 AM »
From a college acquaintance who has spent 3 years finding a real job (not Americorps, etc) with his environmental studies degree and just started one this week:

"Submitted my grad school app today!"

In what you ask? Sustainable urban development...and at a private university no less.

*Not that there's anything wrong w/Americorps, but he made it painfully evident he only took those jobs because he couldn't fin something else in his field.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #583 on: July 23, 2014, 10:51:02 AM »
From a "Friend" on FB:

Please help send my daughter (she's maybe 15) to Haiti so she can do missionary work for a week...any donation will help.

I'm all for helping people in need, but you want me to donate money so your daughter can go to Haiti?  Wouldn't my money be better spent donating it directly to an established charity that is already there???

Not my job to pay for someone else's kids life experiences...

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« Reply #584 on: July 23, 2014, 11:37:34 AM »
My wife was chatting with someone we know discussing hats for kids as we all have young ones.  This lady was complaining that all of the hats fall off of her kids head as they don't really fit well.  Valid issue.   My wife pointed out that there are hats that are adjustable you put them on a they have a draw string to tighten up.   This way they last way longer before being grown out of.  They cost a few bucks more then a walmart bucket hat but we're still talking $15 or $20 and ours have lasted 5 years between the kids.      The lady looked right at her and said "But you don't understand.  I have NO money"  Then took a nice long sip of her $5 starbucks coffee.   Last week they got back from a week of camping.   A month ago people were donating meals to them because they were having a really tough time.

This lady also won't let the kids play outside alone but doesn't like the cold (it's 20C around here lately) so she won't go outside with them so unless it's 25+ the kids are forced to stay inside and drive her nuts...  perhaps the next donation to her should be a fucking sweater.

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« Reply #585 on: July 23, 2014, 05:58:36 PM »
From a "Friend" on FB:

Please help send my daughter (she's maybe 15) to Haiti so she can do missionary work for a week...any donation will help.

I'm all for helping people in need, but you want me to donate money so your daughter can go to Haiti?  Wouldn't my money be better spent donating it directly to an established charity that is already there???

Not my job to pay for someone else's kids life experiences...
As someone who has worked professionally at this kind of thing, you're absolutely right about this. People going somewhere for a week (even a month) are on a vacation and they cause more trouble than they're worth for the agency using them. A random untrained foreigner isn't going to be able to do anything that a local couldn't do better (and get more out of, regardless of "life lessons" learned).

I don't mean to mock people who probably have good intentions, I just don't like that people frequently mobilize feelings of obligation and altruism for ventures that really don't help others.

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« Reply #586 on: July 23, 2014, 08:55:29 PM »
My wife was chatting with someone we know discussing hats for kids as we all have young ones.  This lady was complaining that all of the hats fall off of her kids head as they don't really fit well.  Valid issue.   My wife pointed out that there are hats that are adjustable you put them on a they have a draw string to tighten up.   This way they last way longer before being grown out of.  They cost a few bucks more then a walmart bucket hat but we're still talking $15 or $20 and ours have lasted 5 years between the kids.      The lady looked right at her and said "But you don't understand.  I have NO money"  Then took a nice long sip of her $5 starbucks coffee.   Last week they got back from a week of camping.   A month ago people were donating meals to them because they were having a really tough time.

This lady also won't let the kids play outside alone but doesn't like the cold (it's 20C around here lately) so she won't go outside with them so unless it's 25+ the kids are forced to stay inside and drive her nuts...  perhaps the next donation to her should be a fucking sweater.

She is waiting for 25C weather- on Vancouver island?  That's like, 20 days a year, right?

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« Reply #587 on: July 23, 2014, 10:56:49 PM »
well during the heat wave last week it was too sunny due to the lack of hats for the kids to go outside much as well...

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« Reply #588 on: July 24, 2014, 09:10:55 AM »
My wife was chatting with someone we know discussing hats for kids as we all have young ones.  This lady was complaining that all of the hats fall off of her kids head as they don't really fit well.  Valid issue.   My wife pointed out that there are hats that are adjustable you put them on a they have a draw string to tighten up.   This way they last way longer before being grown out of.  They cost a few bucks more then a walmart bucket hat but we're still talking $15 or $20 and ours have lasted 5 years between the kids.      The lady looked right at her and said "But you don't understand.  I have NO money"  Then took a nice long sip of her $5 starbucks coffee.   Last week they got back from a week of camping.   A month ago people were donating meals to them because they were having a really tough time.

This lady also won't let the kids play outside alone but doesn't like the cold (it's 20C around here lately) so she won't go outside with them so unless it's 25+ the kids are forced to stay inside and drive her nuts...  perhaps the next donation to her should be a fucking sweater.

i feel bad for the kids. :(

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« Reply #589 on: July 25, 2014, 05:35:08 PM »
Thank you to everyone who shared their adorable stories about giving/receiving flowers. I'm glad there's still people out there who are capable of changing my opinion.

Next time I see a girl at work receive flowers, I'll make sure to hold my poor judgement until after she explains that her boyfriend spent $50 for the flowers, $50 on candy, and another $50 on teddy bears before assuming negative thoughts. :-p

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #590 on: July 25, 2014, 06:43:10 PM »
If you wanted to sweep her off her feet by surprising her with non-allergenic flowers at some point...you could try to learn how to make origami ones. My first bf gave me a rose that I kept 5 years or so (it got crushed from moving several times and started to fade). Roses are hard though; lilies are probably easier...

Plus, there's the bonus of what they mean: http://31.media.tumblr.com/529de0997859459c5be58a78162297ea/tumblr_mkaz3tziUw1qccfs7o1_500.gif

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #591 on: July 25, 2014, 10:45:02 PM »
If you wanted to sweep her off her feet by surprising her with non-allergenic flowers at some point...you could try to learn how to make origami ones. My first bf gave me a rose that I kept 5 years or so (it got crushed from moving several times and started to fade). Roses are hard though; lilies are probably easier...

Plus, there's the bonus of what they mean: http://31.media.tumblr.com/529de0997859459c5be58a78162297ea/tumblr_mkaz3tziUw1qccfs7o1_500.gif

Good to know! ;)

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #592 on: July 25, 2014, 10:53:42 PM »
...I don't mean to mock people who probably have good intentions, I just don't like that people frequently mobilize feelings of obligation and altruism for ventures that really don't help others.
It helps people in those needy countries in that the teen will remember, for many years, the poverty and lifestyle that she sees there and will also hopefully recognize the resilience and humanity of the people who are being helped. The trip is certainly more for her than it is for them and in the long run it may cause her to work in some small way to the betterment of 3rd world people.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #593 on: July 26, 2014, 09:29:25 PM »
I don't know if this is mustachian or anti-mustachian but I liked something I saw posted:

If I had a dollar for every time I pooped at work . . .
Oh wait, I do.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #594 on: July 26, 2014, 10:53:46 PM »
It helps people in those needy countries in that the teen will remember, for many years, the poverty and lifestyle that she sees there and will also hopefully recognize the resilience and humanity of the people who are being helped. The trip is certainly more for her than it is for them and in the long run it may cause her to work in some small way to the betterment of 3rd world people.
This does seem like a nice idea, which is why people working in international development have done research on it. Sadly, that research shows a clear result: short term assignments have an inverse relationship with investments in the 3rd world. This is true for individuals (people who have gone overseas for a short period tend to give less life long) and for communities (groups that send many short term workers tend to give less overall). There are obviously exceptions, but on average it seems that short term assignments salve the conscience instead of motivating further work or giving.

Further analysis suggests that short term assignments create a cycle of short term workers donating mostly to new short term workers - thus permanently removing a large percentage of the money that would otherwise have gone to actual work. It does cause people to work in a small way for the greater good, but the cost of giving them that experience is greater than the positive effect.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #595 on: July 28, 2014, 11:46:33 AM »
This might take the cake.  From a former coworker:

"Dear Friends and Family -

As you know, (GF) will be heading off to Nashville in August for grad school! In an effort to soothe the financial pain of $500 flights to see each other, we have started a fundraising campaign linked here - think Kickstarter, just without an "all-or-nothing" minimum.

We have set up prize thresholds for certain donation amounts as well so your donation does not go unrewarded! (Lauren's famous baked goods... perhaps a rap? Or how about an ORIGINAL SONG ABOUT YOU or a topic of your choice?)

Anything would be much appreciated! The campaign will only last about a month so we can get all of the songs done together before she leaves Thanks for the support, everyone!"

For $100 his GF will bake you something and they will write a song about you (they aren't musicians - he thinks he can rap)
For $150 you get the pleasure of coming to Nashville and going on a bike ride with them.  (Travel and lodging NOT included, for one person but DOES include a free pump up of your tires.)

He's a financial analyst, she's a nurse and going to grad school.  They both moved back to Michigan where they love the low cost of living.  She is employed, RNs in Michigan make ~65k on average.  He jumped ship from a company in Minneapolis.  All I know is he got a rase from his 54k/yr salary and has a lower cost of living.  Nevermind the fact that they go to concerts all the time and when he recently proposed he hired a photographer, rented a boat, had a catered meal, etc.  Now, hopefully he only gets engaged once, so I have no issue with that if that's his thing. But if I were asking people to pay for me to fly and see my girlfriend I wouldn't be bragging about my other expenditures on Facebook.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #596 on: July 28, 2014, 11:59:48 AM »
This might take the cake.  From a former coworker:

"Dear Friends and Family -

As you know, (GF) will be heading off to Nashville in August for grad school! In an effort to soothe the financial pain of $500 flights to see each other, we have started a fundraising campaign linked here - think Kickstarter, just without an "all-or-nothing" minimum.

We have set up prize thresholds for certain donation amounts as well so your donation does not go unrewarded! (Lauren's famous baked goods... perhaps a rap? Or how about an ORIGINAL SONG ABOUT YOU or a topic of your choice?)

Anything would be much appreciated! The campaign will only last about a month so we can get all of the songs done together before she leaves Thanks for the support, everyone!"

For $100 his GF will bake you something and they will write a song about you (they aren't musicians - he thinks he can rap)
For $150 you get the pleasure of coming to Nashville and going on a bike ride with them.  (Travel and lodging NOT included, for one person but DOES include a free pump up of your tires.)

He's a financial analyst, she's a nurse and going to grad school.  They both moved back to Michigan where they love the low cost of living.  She is employed, RNs in Michigan make ~65k on average.  He jumped ship from a company in Minneapolis.  All I know is he got a rase from his 54k/yr salary and has a lower cost of living.  Nevermind the fact that they go to concerts all the time and when he recently proposed he hired a photographer, rented a boat, had a catered meal, etc.  Now, hopefully he only gets engaged once, so I have no issue with that if that's his thing. But if I were asking people to pay for me to fly and see my girlfriend I wouldn't be bragging about my other expenditures on Facebook.

So umm, they do not want to have anyone visit them unless said guest has contributed to the travel fund?  Wow, that would be an awkward conversation... "Hmm, yeah, it would be nice if you came to visit, but you know how you only contributed $50, and only our friends at the $150 contribution level are welcome to visit us?  Sorry, but clearly you're not $uch a great friend afterall..."

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #597 on: July 28, 2014, 02:03:20 PM »
OMFG. Asking friends to fund your long-distance relationship. That takes brass ones.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #598 on: July 28, 2014, 04:10:47 PM »
i Bring my wife flowers home from work... they are free wild flowers I pick while on my bike ride lol.

I work outdoors on regularly, so I when I see a nice wildflower, I snap a picture and send it to my wife, just to let her know that I'm thinking about her. She still likes real flowers from time to time, but she doesn't like it if I spend more than $5-10 from the grocery store. Once, when we were living separately during the middle of a job move, I had flowers delivered to her work for her birthday. She thought it was sweet, but when she found out that it cost me $70, she told me not to do it again :)

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #599 on: July 29, 2014, 01:40:41 PM »
This might take the cake.  From a former coworker:

"Dear Friends and Family -

As you know, (GF) will be heading off to Nashville in August for grad school! In an effort to soothe the financial pain of $500 flights to see each other, we have started a fundraising campaign linked here - think Kickstarter, just without an "all-or-nothing" minimum.

We have set up prize thresholds for certain donation amounts as well so your donation does not go unrewarded! (Lauren's famous baked goods... perhaps a rap? Or how about an ORIGINAL SONG ABOUT YOU or a topic of your choice?)

Anything would be much appreciated! The campaign will only last about a month so we can get all of the songs done together before she leaves Thanks for the support, everyone!"

For $100 his GF will bake you something and they will write a song about you (they aren't musicians - he thinks he can rap)
For $150 you get the pleasure of coming to Nashville and going on a bike ride with them.  (Travel and lodging NOT included, for one person but DOES include a free pump up of your tires.)

He's a financial analyst, she's a nurse and going to grad school.  They both moved back to Michigan where they love the low cost of living.  She is employed, RNs in Michigan make ~65k on average.  He jumped ship from a company in Minneapolis.  All I know is he got a rase from his 54k/yr salary and has a lower cost of living.  Nevermind the fact that they go to concerts all the time and when he recently proposed he hired a photographer, rented a boat, had a catered meal, etc.  Now, hopefully he only gets engaged once, so I have no issue with that if that's his thing. But if I were asking people to pay for me to fly and see my girlfriend I wouldn't be bragging about my other expenditures on Facebook.

I really hope he gets face punches from his friends.

 

Wow, a phone plan for fifteen bucks!