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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8550 on: June 05, 2015, 10:04:02 AM »
Kinda foamy, but still overheard at work and with some financial reference:

I bring at least two bananas to work daily, and sometimes mandarin oranges when in season.  I also bring a head of romaine lettuce daily and eat it leaf by leaf - I actually like the way these things taste.  I get rabbit comments all the time...

One of my co-workers is in poor physical condition - diabetic and no other male in his family has lived past 55 w/o dying from a coronary.  He's in his early 50's, so he is trying to make the effort, but in all the wrong ways.  We once had a lunch meeting, and after eating our company supplied box lunches from Panera, he pulled out a Ziploc bag w/fried chicken in it!  Most recently, he's decided that natural hormone replacement therapy is the solution, so he's eating 500 calories/day and blowing a ton of money on daily supplements, plus doing this quarterly procedure where they cut open a part of your thigh and insert these hormone beads, for about $1,500 each time!  Insurance does not cover this, and since he's on wife #3, he really can't afford any of this crap, which doesn't seem to be working anyhow.  But he will stop by to inform me that bananas are super high in sugar and therefore not good for you.  Sad...

My former boss on the other hand was pretty amusing.  I work in a very non-pc environment.  I would come back to my desk and find a banana and two oranges placed in a very, um, creative way!  Use your imagination.  :)

My current boss is an older gentleman, who clearly doesn't understand that politics should not be brought up in the workplace.  He routinely refers to "Obama Bin Laden".  This week, he said it in a meeting with a lot of international co-workers.  They visibly recoiled at that comment.  I resisted the urge to point out that outside of the US, our president is viewed far more favorably than he is here in the deep South!

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8551 on: June 05, 2015, 10:15:58 AM »

My current boss is an older gentleman, who clearly doesn't understand that politics should not be brought up in the workplace.  He routinely refers to "Obama Bin Laden".  This week, he said it in a meeting with a lot of international co-workers.  They visibly recoiled at that comment.  I resisted the urge to point out that outside of the US, our president is viewed far more favorably than he is here in the deep South!

Are you in Houston? A friend of mine describes her work in much the same way.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8552 on: June 05, 2015, 10:33:10 AM »

My current boss is an older gentleman, who clearly doesn't understand that politics should not be brought up in the workplace.  He routinely refers to "Obama Bin Laden".  This week, he said it in a meeting with a lot of international co-workers.  They visibly recoiled at that comment.  I resisted the urge to point out that outside of the US, our president is viewed far more favorably than he is here in the deep South!

Are you in Houston? A friend of mine describes her work in much the same way.

Close enough, I'm in the suburbs of Austin.  But our corporate offices are in Houston.  I'd bet we work in the same industry.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8553 on: June 05, 2015, 12:28:25 PM »

My current boss is an older gentleman, who clearly doesn't understand that politics should not be brought up in the workplace.  He routinely refers to "Obama Bin Laden".  This week, he said it in a meeting with a lot of international co-workers.  They visibly recoiled at that comment.  I resisted the urge to point out that outside of the US, our president is viewed far more favorably than he is here in the deep South!

Are you in Houston? A friend of mine describes her work in much the same way.

Close enough, I'm in the suburbs of Austin.  But our corporate offices are in Houston.  I'd bet we work in the same industry.

I wouldn't exactly call a suburb of Austin the "deep South". As a native Texas (DFW-area), I always make it a point to separate Texas from "the South", especially the areas near the big cities. Sounds like the boss is just a conservative nutjob, regardless of location.

I would have to disagree with you there.  Austin is certainly a progressive blueberry, but get one inch outside of the city, and it's regressive all the way.  I'm in Williamson County, and all the southern stereotypes hold true here.  It's a nice place to live, but us progressive types learned a long time ago to smile and change the subject when it comes to politics or religion.

It's very sad, because the suburbs of most of the big cities do a lot to neutralize the Democratic votes that are cast.  I'm not saying it's a waste of a vote, but it is disheartening to see that this trend will make it much harder to turn TX back to blue.  Jon Stewart did a really good segment on it after Wendy Davis lost.

I will agree that the boss is a conservative nutjob.  He fits in very well here.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8554 on: June 05, 2015, 02:13:06 PM »

That's a shame. There are a few people I work with like that, but I think of them as quaint country-folk, not as the norm. I suppose over the years I've taught myself to separate people from their politics, since most people mean well, just haven't looked into the science and facts much.

I live and work in a rural area of a northern state.  I have had actual discussions with coworkers disagreeing that Obama has not, in fact, had the most Executive Orders ever.  This is something that is a fact, and can be found online.  But nope, the Dictator in Chief is definitely just sending out dozens of those babies every week.  Also, carbon dating is a giant worldwide conspiracy theory and they're doing it wrong, because the 6,000 years old earth as stated in the Bible is the way it really is. Oy.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8555 on: June 06, 2015, 08:25:57 AM »
I work at the water department collecting bill payments and dealing with people that has been cut off. I can get some wild and stupid stories sometimes.  Here is a sample of a few stories I heard this week.
Cut off customer 1:  I don't think I can afford to pay this bill and reconnection.
Coworker:  I'm sorry but I can't recconect until you pay the entire bill and reconnection.
Cut off customer 1:  Ok, but I don't know if I will be able to feed the kids.
(customer pays)
Coworker:  The June bill is up, and your your bill is really high.  Do you have a leak?
Cut off customer1:  No, we filled up the pool.

I call customer 2 which is a business to tell him that his bill would be cut off the next morning if it wasn't paid, and he said he would be in.  He didn't show so I sent the order for him to be cut off.
Cut off customer 2 comes to my desk:
Cut off customer 2 (angerly says):  the guy that cut off my water would not take my payment.
me:  he isn't allowed to because it is a safety issue with him, he could be robbed.
Cut off customer 2:  He shouldn't cut it off, and give you time to pay
me:  didn't I call you to tell you?
(he stops talking and gives me the payment)

Customer 3 (we have a lot of issues from this guy: he said he would be in first thing Monday morning he knows he was ready to be disconnect.  I said ok, but I knew he wouldn't be in.  We cut him off Tuesday  because he didn't show.  He comes in and pays, about 30 mins later he calls)
Cut off customer 3:  You shouldn't cut me off I told you I would come in on Monday.
me:  I know you said you would come in Monday.  Its Tuesday.
Cut off customer 3:  Man, its just one day.
Me:  I'm sorry but you said you would be in, it should have been cut off last week.
Cust off customer 3:  When will it be cut on? I need to go to work!
Me:  The meter reader is at lunch, It will be least an hour.
Cut off customer 3:  I need to take a shower!  Your causing me to be late for work.
Me:  You caused your own self to be late to work.
(he hangs up)

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8556 on: June 06, 2015, 08:37:35 AM »
CW recently got into a decent job in the tech industry after years of being broke working shitty jobs. He still has a mountain of student loans, so I was surprised when he started looking for 1 bdrm apartments to rent. We live in San Francisco, where living in a 1 bdrm by yourself can cost you $20k a year more than sharing a multi bdrm house with roommates. He said he was tired of living like a student. At least he didn't buy a fancy car, just a fancy motorcycle.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8557 on: June 06, 2015, 09:35:36 AM »

My current boss is an older gentleman, who clearly doesn't understand that politics should not be brought up in the workplace.  He routinely refers to "Obama Bin Laden".  This week, he said it in a meeting with a lot of international co-workers.  They visibly recoiled at that comment.  I resisted the urge to point out that outside of the US, our president is viewed far more favorably than he is here in the deep South!

Are you in Houston? A friend of mine describes her work in much the same way.

Close enough, I'm in the suburbs of Austin.  But our corporate offices are in Houston.  I'd bet we work in the same industry.

I wouldn't exactly call a suburb of Austin the "deep South". As a native Texas (DFW-area), I always make it a point to separate Texas from "the South", especially the areas near the big cities. Sounds like the boss is just a conservative nutjob, regardless of location.

I would have to disagree with you there.  Austin is certainly a progressive blueberry, but get one inch outside of the city, and it's regressive all the way.  I'm in Williamson County, and all the southern stereotypes hold true here.  It's a nice place to live, but us progressive types learned a long time ago to smile and change the subject when it comes to politics or religion.

It's very sad, because the suburbs of most of the big cities do a lot to neutralize the Democratic votes that are cast.  I'm not saying it's a waste of a vote, but it is disheartening to see that this trend will make it much harder to turn TX back to blue.  Jon Stewart did a really good segment on it after Wendy Davis lost.

I will agree that the boss is a conservative nutjob.  He fits in very well here.

That's a shame. There are a few people I work with like that, but I think of them as quaint country-folk, not as the norm. I suppose over the years I've taught myself to separate people from their politics, since most people mean well, just haven't looked into the science and facts much.

That is a very kind view of humanity LOL.

The fact that your experience is that this type of view is NOT the norm in Texas (where I also live) makes me think you must be extremely fortunate in the people you work or associate with. Texas is PACKED with this type of nutjob. Most of rural America is. Urban America otoh, seems bursting with people who think taxing the 1% will solve every problem the United States ever had, or ever will have...which is a different brand of fantasy-world.

I've lived and worked in a lot of states, both small towns and big cities that are not the Deep South, and it is :plants tongue in cheek: my totally objective, politically just-left-of-center,  non-biased, data-driven opinion that the average American is 1) irrational; 2) and also bone-ignorant about everything outside their immediate circle. Facts mean little to most people; people form opinions based on emotion, and then try to find reasons to support their opinion...Cherry picking data if available; pulling imaginary stuff out of their butts if not. It's not really their fault, exactly, it's just how the human race is evolutionarily wired (including me, so I try lots of techniques to self-check my emotional responses to things, usually not terribly successfully).

If the Deep South is worse than Texas in this regard, then it must be truly mind-boggling.


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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8558 on: June 06, 2015, 02:58:05 PM »
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I've lived and worked in a lot of states, both small towns and big cities that are not the Deep South, and it is :plants tongue in cheek: my totally objective, politically just-left-of-center,  non-biased, data-driven opinion that the average American Human is 1) irrational; 2) and also bone-ignorant about everything outside their immediate circle. Facts mean little to most people; people form opinions based on emotion, and then try to find reasons to support their opinion...Cherry picking data if available; pulling imaginary stuff out of their butts if not. It's not really their fault, exactly, it's just how the human race is evolutionarily wired (including me, so I try lots of techniques to self-check my emotional responses to things, usually not terribly successfully).

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:-)  (from a libertarianish atheist living and enjoying life on the edge of religious south and a liberal outpost therein;  I just try to keep my mouth/opinions shut and try to enjoy those from either side of the spectrum!)

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8559 on: June 06, 2015, 07:25:55 PM »
I work at the water department collecting bill payments and dealing with people that has been cut off. I can get some wild and stupid stories sometimes. 

I used to work at a public works department too, and we got lots of these stories! My favorite was when we would call the cable company and find out the customers were still paying $150/month to Comcast while neglecting their gas bill. The city had some sort of restriction on cutting off the gas heat in the winter (people could freeze to death), so we had to wait til spring and cut them off. But the whole time, they were voluntarily stiffing the city because we couldn't cut them off, and Comcast definitely would. One guy even upgraded his cable package in the winter, because he knew he could save money on his gas bill.

I also dealt with city programs giving free stuff (shoes, paint, computers) to 'low income' people, many of whom had tens of thousands of dollars of unnecessary electronics scattered about their houses, or five luxury vehicles, huge pools, etc.... but the aid formulas don't require them to sell their assets to get aid, or maybe they just weren't reporting anything they had. It would have been fine (everyone has bad times, right?) except that these people often treated me like shit and bragged about their 'lawn guy' and 'pool guy.'

Overall, though, the few people who were genuinely grateful for city services made up for the rest.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8560 on: June 06, 2015, 09:21:36 PM »

My current boss is an older gentleman, who clearly doesn't understand that politics should not be brought up in the workplace.  He routinely refers to "Obama Bin Laden".  This week, he said it in a meeting with a lot of international co-workers.  They visibly recoiled at that comment.  I resisted the urge to point out that outside of the US, our president is viewed far more favorably than he is here in the deep South!

Are you in Houston? A friend of mine describes her work in much the same way.

Close enough, I'm in the suburbs of Austin.  But our corporate offices are in Houston.  I'd bet we work in the same industry.

I wouldn't exactly call a suburb of Austin the "deep South". As a native Texas (DFW-area), I always make it a point to separate Texas from "the South", especially the areas near the big cities. Sounds like the boss is just a conservative nutjob, regardless of location.

I would have to disagree with you there.  Austin is certainly a progressive blueberry, but get one inch outside of the city, and it's regressive all the way.  I'm in Williamson County, and all the southern stereotypes hold true here.  It's a nice place to live, but us progressive types learned a long time ago to smile and change the subject when it comes to politics or religion.

It's very sad, because the suburbs of most of the big cities do a lot to neutralize the Democratic votes that are cast.  I'm not saying it's a waste of a vote, but it is disheartening to see that this trend will make it much harder to turn TX back to blue.  Jon Stewart did a really good segment on it after Wendy Davis lost.

I will agree that the boss is a conservative nutjob.  He fits in very well here.

You haven't been to the Deep South if you think the suburbs of Austin qualify. There is more to Deep South culture than the things you mentioned.

Even though I would not be a progressive liberal, it bugs me when people say things like Obama Bin Laden just like it did when they called Bush Hitler. Dumb, ignorant and judgmental all in one.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8561 on: June 07, 2015, 06:17:22 AM »
I work with an awesome guy who is totally bad with money. He mentioned he had to leave early one day to apply for a loan at the bank to fix his sewer line. He said it would cost about $10,000 and "Who has that kind of cash lying around".

The next week, he left early to go to his kid's school to bring a check to pay for his kid (age 12) to go to Europe on a field trip. Trip cost $8,000.

Guy's job title "Head of Finance" and he makes over $150,000 a year.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8562 on: June 07, 2015, 07:43:22 AM »
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I've lived and worked in a lot of states, both small towns and big cities that are not the Deep South, and it is :plants tongue in cheek: my totally objective, politically just-left-of-center,  non-biased, data-driven opinion that the average American Human is 1) irrational; 2) and also bone-ignorant about everything outside their immediate circle. Facts mean little to most people; people form opinions based on emotion, and then try to find reasons to support their opinion...Cherry picking data if available; pulling imaginary stuff out of their butts if not. It's not really their fault, exactly, it's just how the human race is evolutionarily wired (including me, so I try lots of techniques to self-check my emotional responses to things, usually not terribly successfully).

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:-)  (from a libertarianish atheist living and enjoying life on the edge of religious south and a liberal outpost therein;  I just try to keep my mouth/opinions shut and try to enjoy those from either side of the spectrum!)

Thanks for fixing my post! So true!

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8563 on: June 07, 2015, 09:48:23 AM »
CW recently got into a decent job in the tech industry after years of being broke working shitty jobs. He still has a mountain of student loans, so I was surprised when he started looking for 1 bdrm apartments to rent. We live in San Francisco, where living in a 1 bdrm by yourself can cost you $20k a year more than sharing a multi bdrm house with roommates. He said he was tired of living like a student. At least he didn't buy a fancy car, just a fancy motorcycle.

You might be a little harsh. It's hard to bust your butt in part time jobs and school for years and not see much come of it.  It hurts the pride and paying hefty amounts to patch it is a natural reaction.  Telling this guy he should go back to living like a starving student will only garner a blank stare. But proposing the potential benefits of such a reversal may gain a convert.

Plus sharing living space isn't always easy. Some people lack the temperment and some just swear it off after too many crappy roommates.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8564 on: June 07, 2015, 11:00:00 AM »
CW recently got into a decent job in the tech industry after years of being broke working shitty jobs. He still has a mountain of student loans, so I was surprised when he started looking for 1 bdrm apartments to rent. We live in San Francisco, where living in a 1 bdrm by yourself can cost you $20k a year more than sharing a multi bdrm house with roommates. He said he was tired of living like a student. At least he didn't buy a fancy car, just a fancy motorcycle.

You might be a little harsh. It's hard to bust your butt in part time jobs and school for years and not see much come of it.  It hurts the pride and paying hefty amounts to patch it is a natural reaction.  Telling this guy he should go back to living like a starving student will only garner a blank stare. But proposing the potential benefits of such a reversal may gain a convert.

Plus sharing living space isn't always easy. Some people lack the temperment and some just swear it off after too many crappy roommates.

I agree on the roommates bit for sure. I'd rather have an apartment for myself that I can pay a bit more for than to rely on other people to make rent in addition to the inconveniences and difficulties of living with other people, especially when you're talking about renting and sharing an entire house with multiple people.

For me, personally, I want home to be a place to relax and recharge, and being an introvert the best way for me to do that is to be alone and not having to deal with draining social interaction.

Though if I was in that person's shoes with all the student loan debt I'd probably be looking for a studio apartment rather than 1 bedroom to save on rent.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8565 on: June 08, 2015, 05:21:14 AM »
CO: credit card companies are suckers, they dont realise I'm paying my bill with money I've just withdrawn from my credit card.
Me: you know you get charged interest for cash withdrawals on a credit card, youre just adding to your debt
CO: I dont, because it's just from a normal cash machine
Me:...

nothing...why bother....doesnt read his statements, wont balance transfer as it's 'too difficult'...struggling to pay off the card....*sigh*

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8566 on: June 08, 2015, 08:57:20 AM »
I also bring a head of romaine lettuce daily and eat it leaf by leaf - I actually like the way these things taste.  I get rabbit comments all the time...

To be fair, that does sound pretty rabbit-y.

But I'm guessing that unlike a rabbit you don't use your jaw to bring more of the leaf into your mouth while chowing down on it.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8567 on: June 08, 2015, 12:29:05 PM »
I also bring a head of romaine lettuce daily and eat it leaf by leaf - I actually like the way these things taste.  I get rabbit comments all the time...

To be fair, that does sound pretty rabbit-y.

But I'm guessing that unlike a rabbit you don't use your jaw to bring more of the leaf into your mouth while chowing down on it.

I also love romaine and had an idea for a post-fire business.*  It's modeled after how I sometimes eat my "salad."  Basically I get a bunch of romaine leaves and put them in a tall cup.  Then I dip them in a dressing.  Ends up being like a healthy version of chicken strips, and if you attach the dipping cause to the cup it would be good on the go.  You could put some grilled chicken strips in there too.  Pretty sure there's no market for this, though. 


*my basic goal is to do something where I get to hang out in a nice sunny location and people watch, and get paid for it, like a non busy hot dog stand at a park or something like that.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8568 on: June 08, 2015, 12:47:42 PM »
I also love romaine and had an idea for a post-fire business.*  It's modeled after how I sometimes eat my "salad."  Basically I get a bunch of romaine leaves and put them in a tall cup.  Then I dip them in a dressing.  Ends up being like a healthy version of chicken strips, and if you attach the dipping cause to the cup it would be good on the go.  You could put some grilled chicken strips in there too.  Pretty sure there's no market for this, though. 

Offer a deep fried version of it. Yes, I'm suggesting deep fried romaine, not just the chicken.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8569 on: June 08, 2015, 12:52:08 PM »
I also bring a head of romaine lettuce daily and eat it leaf by leaf - I actually like the way these things taste.  I get rabbit comments all the time...

To be fair, that does sound pretty rabbit-y.

But I'm guessing that unlike a rabbit you don't use your jaw to bring more of the leaf into your mouth while chowing down on it.

I also love romaine and had an idea for a post-fire business.*  It's modeled after how I sometimes eat my "salad."  Basically I get a bunch of romaine leaves and put them in a tall cup.  Then I dip them in a dressing.  Ends up being like a healthy version of chicken strips, and if you attach the dipping cause to the cup it would be good on the go.  You could put some grilled chicken strips in there too.  Pretty sure there's no market for this, though. 


*my basic goal is to do something where I get to hang out in a nice sunny location and people watch, and get paid for it, like a non busy hot dog stand at a park or something like that.

You would be surprised how much people are willing to pay if you package it up nicely for them. It's all marketing, in the end, that defines the modern consumer.

Just see how much Fresh Kitchen in Tampa charges for their salads. http://www.cicciorestaurantgroup.com/images/MENUS-CICCIO-FRESHKITCHEN/FKWebMenu.pdf   
You can easily make the same at a fraction of the price, using organic if you wish. I've tried it (for free), it's meh!

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8570 on: June 08, 2015, 01:01:43 PM »
Oh gawd.

I ref hockey, and have been playing it from age 6 to now. Tell her to go to Play it again sports for the skates. Or Ebay. Or Hockeymonkey.com closeout, or Hockeygiant.com closeout, or... And tell her that the blades that came with the skates are fine. And that he is 13, his slapshot sucks, and he doesn't need the most expensive stick (I can probably guarantee my slapshot is about 4 times as good as his... and my stick cost $30, although those are near impossible to find now).

Also tell her that the kid isn't going to make the NHL, or even a decent college team, so pull him out of AAA and go down to AA or A. Private lessons? They're over paying. Because, again, he isn't making the NHL. Put a hockey net in the basement, tell him to shoot for an hour a day aiming at the corners, and give him a golf ball and tell him to stick handle it througha bucnh of pucks for obstacles.

Signed, a guy who could have played club hockey in college but didn't, and a guy who has reffed everything from Club College to Juniors (pre-pro) to semi-pro, and everything below that.

My friend quit a good paying government job with great benefits to run a hockey school for 6 or 8 two-week sessions per year. The amount of money that people will pay to put their kids in a hockey school is mind boggling.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8571 on: June 08, 2015, 02:51:38 PM »
*my basic goal is to do something where I get to hang out in a nice sunny location and people watch, and get paid for it, like a non busy hot dog stand at a park or something like that.

Hot dog carts are surprisingly cheap. I actually considered getting one and setting up near my old college; they had an exclusive contract with their food service vendor, so every place on campus was equally terrible. There's a big market there.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8572 on: June 08, 2015, 03:25:25 PM »

My current boss is an older gentleman, who clearly doesn't understand that politics should not be brought up in the workplace.  He routinely refers to "Obama Bin Laden".  This week, he said it in a meeting with a lot of international co-workers.  They visibly recoiled at that comment.  I resisted the urge to point out that outside of the US, our president is viewed far more favorably than he is here in the deep South!

Are you in Houston? A friend of mine describes her work in much the same way.

Close enough, I'm in the suburbs of Austin.  But our corporate offices are in Houston.  I'd bet we work in the same industry.

I wouldn't exactly call a suburb of Austin the "deep South". As a native Texas (DFW-area), I always make it a point to separate Texas from "the South", especially the areas near the big cities. Sounds like the boss is just a conservative nutjob, regardless of location.

I would have to disagree with you there.  Austin is certainly a progressive blueberry, but get one inch outside of the city, and it's regressive all the way.  I'm in Williamson County, and all the southern stereotypes hold true here.  It's a nice place to live, but us progressive types learned a long time ago to smile and change the subject when it comes to politics or religion.

It's very sad, because the suburbs of most of the big cities do a lot to neutralize the Democratic votes that are cast.  I'm not saying it's a waste of a vote, but it is disheartening to see that this trend will make it much harder to turn TX back to blue.  Jon Stewart did a really good segment on it after Wendy Davis lost.

I will agree that the boss is a conservative nutjob.  He fits in very well here.

That's a shame. There are a few people I work with like that, but I think of them as quaint country-folk, not as the norm. I suppose over the years I've taught myself to separate people from their politics, since most people mean well, just haven't looked into the science and facts much.

Hey now, give them a break. They can't all spend the majority of their time on the internet studying the science and getting their "facts" from disproportionately liberal forum communities and misinformed media sources.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8573 on: June 08, 2015, 03:32:32 PM »
As someone who once had a car payment I don't see how that's an excuse. It's all about living within one's means. I used to keep an extra $1000-1500 sitting in the checking account as a floor that I would never plan on spending, just in case I overspent or didn't get paid on time or something. It may not be the most optimal life arrangement, but it's extremely easy to do and better than having your hair on fire once per month! In the 3 or 4 years I had that loan I never had a financial problem.

(BTW people telling me my advice is inapplicable because I don't have a house/kid/fancy car in my life is a big pet peeve of mine, so it's nice that I can actually speak from experience on one of these!)

When I was single (years ago) that would have been enough money to keep on tap for emergencies. These days $5K is what I prefer to have on tap. I'm aiming for 6 months of salary as we can save it. Honestly we've always gotten by without much in savings but we were very poor for a long time. I don't want to be poor anymore and I don't want to worry that one of our very elderly cars will leave us stranded and I'll need to seek a loan to repair it.

Never called on our parents for money, never needed a loan for a car repair (done them myself and saved big money over the years), etc. Some of that was luck, some of that was careful planning. Mostly luck though. ;)

The money experts always recommended what seemed like to us unattainable amounts of emergency cash. Finally we're to a place where we can actually make progress in that direction. All it would have taken was better decisions about 20 years ago. -eye rolling-

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« Reply #8574 on: June 08, 2015, 03:45:21 PM »
I've got two in the past week.

1.  Can anyone lend me $600 for Yo Gabba Gabba tickets?  Child X really LOVES them but we can't afford to go.  Me "Holy CRAP a kids show is that expensive?!?!"  Her "Well, that's the first 15 rows and you get a back stage VIP pass, only the best for child X (who is all of maybe 3 and won't remember anything about this meeting"  Mind you I am pretty sure they are still paying off around 60k in credit card debt that she wracked up before getting married.

2.  Co Worker who gets in large boxes from fancy stores all the time and routinely spends hundreds a week on clothes.   "Ugh, our home health aid wants a raise, I TOLD her 4 years ago when we hired her there would be no raises because we can't afford it".  Me: "Well how much are you paying her"  Her "800 a month for both of my parents who are on dialysis and live in NYC"  Her and her husband pull in over 200k (probably closer to 250) a year combined, this aid takes care of her parents 24-7 365 because she doesn't want to have to deal with them and when I asked she swore poverty that she couldn't afford an extra 50 a month to pay this woman (under the table mind you)...aaaand she just spent 3k, on a couch that she was flashing pictures in the office of...  We continued to talk and I brought up early retirement and got the "I don't know how you can save on our crappy salaries, we can only save 300 a month"....she earns about 20-30k more a year than me, and I'm pushing 90 a year.

#1 - we are taking a family vacation this year. Discussing places to go and thought of a free museum. Then I dismissed it b/c we'd been. Then remembered the kids were so small that the oldest doesn't remember it and the second wasn't in this world yet. Wahoo! They'll love it...

#2 - Worked for a lady just like this. Could give us college guys a small raise b/c she was too tight (stingy) yet she leased one fancy import convertible after another.  My coworker was complaining that she ought to give us a raise (we had a good crew that went above and beyond for her) and i told him to try if he liked but there would not be any raises.

Years later I found out through the grapevine that she and her hubby weren't rich but huge spenders - boat, RV, vacation house, home pool, etc. They spent every dime they made. Eventually they split and she took up a favorite substance to abuse - don't know which one. Money woes continued and then the detached garage burned down (taking an RV with it). Then the house burned down. Then some commercial property burned as well. Huh? Who is that unlucky? With no evidence to the contrary and because I have a huge imagination - I think I know what happened as well as many other folks who live around here...

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8575 on: June 08, 2015, 04:20:29 PM »
Not overheard from work, but from a guy that I'm selling my spare watch to.

I had listed it at $140 and he wanted to buy it at $100. We agreed on $120 and he said he is down to his last $100 and needs to wait till Friday to be paid. He asked me to hold the item for him till Friday. :O

If all he has is $100, he shouldn't be buying a stupid watch. But I'm the seller and I'll take his offer.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8576 on: June 08, 2015, 06:57:36 PM »
A bit different. We were out on the range, and I was helping some junior soldiers with their equipment. One of them had mentioned how he is broke all the time, and can't afford to take his girlfriend out on a date. Me being the curious and slightly helpful sort, I inquired about where all his spare cash goes. He said, well, "I have a really high insurance payment, because I keep getting nailed with speeding tickets, and my car payment is pretty good sized, then I have to pay for unlimited data, tethering, and such on my phone, and I just bought a new iphone six, and I had to tint my windows on my car after getting a new aftermarket stereo put in, and I hate the DFAC food, so I go out to ***** bar to eat, and end up drinking."

It goes on for a while. A while being the point where I stopped listening and waited for his mouth to close. My response was "You are a retard. If you want to get your shit together, ask. But before you waste money on a woman that you will claim is the love of your life in six months to get out of the barracks, you may want to downsize just a bit on all this shit you don't need."

Queue whining about how he needs this and that and the other.. The next month I see him come to work with brand new rims on his vehicle. Always bright.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8577 on: June 08, 2015, 07:58:16 PM »
Aargh- I used to sit opposite the most negative, draining woman ever. She was overweight,  loudly claimed it was thyroid (nope, it's the cakes you shove into your gaping maw daily), and would critique every piece of food I brought in, looking for the unhealthy stuff, and then exclaim about the sugary/fatty parts of my lunch, and oh, aren't you lucky, wouldn't it be nice to have a metabolism like yours??? Drove me nuts. I used to put a square of chocolate in my oats each morning in lieu of sweetener, and god, she never failed to tell the whole office about my 'chocolatey' breakfast (never mind the hour I spent in the gym before work, and that it was 10grams of chocolate). She would point out my bananas and handful of nuts and smugly tell me they were way too full of sugar/fat for her, but ooh, lucky naturally skinny you, you can eat it. I wanted to smother her. Sorry, a bit OT. Coworkers.

I believe I've posted this here before, but I have _never_ gotten unsolicited advice on my diet or exercise from someone who was actually fit.

I also find it frustrating when someone who appears to be not-in-the-best-shape makes comments on me eating avocados or nuts or whole eggs (the yolk and all!) or some other thing like that and they claim that it is "high fat - you shouldn't eat it!". Fruits - "too much sugar!". Whole eggs - "the yolks will kill you!". Although I think this may be the types of things they hear from their doctors or some widely accepted (but incorrect) nutritional advice.

Me - I prefer to eat whole natural foods in a balanced way. I usually just stare back at them because, at least from outward appearances, I think I am healthier than they are. But who really knows...I could drop dead tomorrow from eating avocados, nuts, and whole eggs. No one really knows others' internal health.
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8578 on: June 09, 2015, 05:01:58 AM »
Aargh- I used to sit opposite the most negative, draining woman ever. She was overweight,  loudly claimed it was thyroid (nope, it's the cakes you shove into your gaping maw daily), and would critique every piece of food I brought in, looking for the unhealthy stuff, and then exclaim about the sugary/fatty parts of my lunch, and oh, aren't you lucky, wouldn't it be nice to have a metabolism like yours??? Drove me nuts. I used to put a square of chocolate in my oats each morning in lieu of sweetener, and god, she never failed to tell the whole office about my 'chocolatey' breakfast (never mind the hour I spent in the gym before work, and that it was 10grams of chocolate). She would point out my bananas and handful of nuts and smugly tell me they were way too full of sugar/fat for her, but ooh, lucky naturally skinny you, you can eat it. I wanted to smother her. Sorry, a bit OT. Coworkers.

I believe I've posted this here before, but I have _never_ gotten unsolicited advice on my diet or exercise from someone who was actually fit.

I also find it frustrating when someone who appears to be not-in-the-best-shape makes comments on me eating avocados or nuts or whole eggs (the yolk and all!) or some other thing like that and they claim that it is "high fat - you shouldn't eat it!". Fruits - "too much sugar!". Whole eggs - "the yolks will kill you!". Although I think this may be the types of things they hear from their doctors or some widely accepted (but incorrect) nutritional advice.

Me - I prefer to eat whole natural foods in a balanced way. I usually just stare back at them because, at least from outward appearances, I think I am healthier than they are. But who really knows...I could drop dead tomorrow from eating avocados, nuts, and whole eggs. No one really knows others' internal health.
As long as you don't abuse on eating avocados, nuts and eggs, it is still better than eatin Doritos, Coca Cola and chocolate that most people prefer to eat.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8579 on: June 09, 2015, 06:38:38 AM »
Aargh- I used to sit opposite the most negative, draining woman ever. She was overweight,  loudly claimed it was thyroid (nope, it's the cakes you shove into your gaping maw daily), and would critique every piece of food I brought in, looking for the unhealthy stuff, and then exclaim about the sugary/fatty parts of my lunch, and oh, aren't you lucky, wouldn't it be nice to have a metabolism like yours??? Drove me nuts. I used to put a square of chocolate in my oats each morning in lieu of sweetener, and god, she never failed to tell the whole office about my 'chocolatey' breakfast (never mind the hour I spent in the gym before work, and that it was 10grams of chocolate). She would point out my bananas and handful of nuts and smugly tell me they were way too full of sugar/fat for her, but ooh, lucky naturally skinny you, you can eat it. I wanted to smother her. Sorry, a bit OT. Coworkers.

I believe I've posted this here before, but I have _never_ gotten unsolicited advice on my diet or exercise from someone who was actually fit.

I also find it frustrating when someone who appears to be not-in-the-best-shape makes comments on me eating avocados or nuts or whole eggs (the yolk and all!) or some other thing like that and they claim that it is "high fat - you shouldn't eat it!". Fruits - "too much sugar!". Whole eggs - "the yolks will kill you!". Although I think this may be the types of things they hear from their doctors or some widely accepted (but incorrect) nutritional advice.

Me - I prefer to eat whole natural foods in a balanced way. I usually just stare back at them because, at least from outward appearances, I think I am healthier than they are. But who really knows...I could drop dead tomorrow from eating avocados, nuts, and whole eggs. No one really knows others' internal health.
As long as you don't abuse on eating avocados, nuts and eggs, it is still better than eatin Doritos, Coca Cola and chocolate that most people prefer to eat.

I feel really bad for these people.  Some of them honestly believe that there is too much sugar in fruit, or fat in an avocado and end up making the decision to eat processed junk instead.  There is so much misinformation about diet out there, it's not surprising that many people develop radically skewed ideas about food and eating.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8580 on: June 09, 2015, 08:00:20 AM »
Aargh- I used to sit opposite the most negative, draining woman ever. She was overweight,  loudly claimed it was thyroid (nope, it's the cakes you shove into your gaping maw daily), and would critique every piece of food I brought in, looking for the unhealthy stuff, and then exclaim about the sugary/fatty parts of my lunch, and oh, aren't you lucky, wouldn't it be nice to have a metabolism like yours??? Drove me nuts. I used to put a square of chocolate in my oats each morning in lieu of sweetener, and god, she never failed to tell the whole office about my 'chocolatey' breakfast (never mind the hour I spent in the gym before work, and that it was 10grams of chocolate). She would point out my bananas and handful of nuts and smugly tell me they were way too full of sugar/fat for her, but ooh, lucky naturally skinny you, you can eat it. I wanted to smother her. Sorry, a bit OT. Coworkers.

I believe I've posted this here before, but I have _never_ gotten unsolicited advice on my diet or exercise from someone who was actually fit.

I also find it frustrating when someone who appears to be not-in-the-best-shape makes comments on me eating avocados or nuts or whole eggs (the yolk and all!) or some other thing like that and they claim that it is "high fat - you shouldn't eat it!". Fruits - "too much sugar!". Whole eggs - "the yolks will kill you!". Although I think this may be the types of things they hear from their doctors or some widely accepted (but incorrect) nutritional advice.

Me - I prefer to eat whole natural foods in a balanced way. I usually just stare back at them because, at least from outward appearances, I think I am healthier than they are. But who really knows...I could drop dead tomorrow from eating avocados, nuts, and whole eggs. No one really knows others' internal health.
As long as you don't abuse on eating avocados, nuts and eggs, it is still better than eatin Doritos, Coca Cola and chocolate that most people prefer to eat.

I feel really bad for these people.  Some of them honestly believe that there is too much sugar in fruit, or fat in an avocado and end up making the decision to eat processed junk instead.  There is so much misinformation about diet out there, it's not surprising that many people develop radically skewed ideas about food and eating.
At the risk of getting foamy... I agree with this.  Eating fat is not the issue, eating sugar is not the issue.  The issue is that we have gotten everything out of whack.  Omega 6 fat is supposed to be consumed in about a 4:1 ratio with omega 3 fat.  We are consuming it about 16:1.  This is because of the way that we are processing everything.  I remember as a kid, picking a carrot out of the garden we grew, whipping it on my pants, and eating it...dirt and all.  If you allowed that today, you would be a bad parent.  We need to go back to a simpler time.   

Simpler for food.  Simpler because we did not seem to need all of the useless stuff we "need" now.  So I guess less stuff, more cash flow, better food... Hmm I might be on to something.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8581 on: June 09, 2015, 08:15:26 AM »
Aargh- I used to sit opposite the most negative, draining woman ever. She was overweight,  loudly claimed it was thyroid (nope, it's the cakes you shove into your gaping maw daily), and would critique every piece of food I brought in, looking for the unhealthy stuff, and then exclaim about the sugary/fatty parts of my lunch, and oh, aren't you lucky, wouldn't it be nice to have a metabolism like yours??? Drove me nuts. I used to put a square of chocolate in my oats each morning in lieu of sweetener, and god, she never failed to tell the whole office about my 'chocolatey' breakfast (never mind the hour I spent in the gym before work, and that it was 10grams of chocolate). She would point out my bananas and handful of nuts and smugly tell me they were way too full of sugar/fat for her, but ooh, lucky naturally skinny you, you can eat it. I wanted to smother her. Sorry, a bit OT. Coworkers.

I believe I've posted this here before, but I have _never_ gotten unsolicited advice on my diet or exercise from someone who was actually fit.

I also find it frustrating when someone who appears to be not-in-the-best-shape makes comments on me eating avocados or nuts or whole eggs (the yolk and all!) or some other thing like that and they claim that it is "high fat - you shouldn't eat it!". Fruits - "too much sugar!". Whole eggs - "the yolks will kill you!". Although I think this may be the types of things they hear from their doctors or some widely accepted (but incorrect) nutritional advice.

Me - I prefer to eat whole natural foods in a balanced way. I usually just stare back at them because, at least from outward appearances, I think I am healthier than they are. But who really knows...I could drop dead tomorrow from eating avocados, nuts, and whole eggs. No one really knows others' internal health.
As long as you don't abuse on eating avocados, nuts and eggs, it is still better than eatin Doritos, Coca Cola and chocolate that most people prefer to eat.

I feel really bad for these people.  Some of them honestly believe that there is too much sugar in fruit, or fat in an avocado and end up making the decision to eat processed junk instead.  There is so much misinformation about diet out there, it's not surprising that many people develop radically skewed ideas about food and eating.
At the risk of getting foamy... I agree with this.  Eating fat is not the issue, eating sugar is not the issue.  The issue is that we have gotten everything out of whack.  Omega 6 fat is supposed to be consumed in about a 4:1 ratio with omega 3 fat.  We are consuming it about 16:1.  This is because of the way that we are processing everything.  I remember as a kid, picking a carrot out of the garden we grew, whipping it on my pants, and eating it...dirt and all.  If you allowed that today, you would be a bad parent.  We need to go back to a simpler time.   

Simpler for food.  Simpler because we did not seem to need all of the useless stuff we "need" now.  So I guess less stuff, more cash flow, better food... Hmm I might be on to something.

I find obesity to be similar to people that can't save. It's a simple matter of what matters to each of us individually. The fat women with 'tyroid' problems, is like someone who complains that they can't save their earnings even though they may make 30k more than their mustachain coworker. She may think that skinny people are lucky, and I'm guessing that she will think that people that FIRE in their 30s are depraved or come from money or have some special skill that mere mortals like her lack.

I will admit I lose my patience with such people and have stopped being idle and just nodding at their comments. My coworkers are pretty good about not making stupid comments, but I have a salesmen that will not shut up about anything and I have had to become harsh with him about it. The fat coworker mentioned by 11ducks is lucky I don't work with her, I'm usually pretty quick to say, "No I"m not fit by luck, I'm fit because I don't stuff a cake down my throat. Next time you mention my foot, I'll mention your food."

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8582 on: June 09, 2015, 08:25:25 AM »
Aargh- I used to sit opposite the most negative, draining woman ever. She was overweight,  loudly claimed it was thyroid (nope, it's the cakes you shove into your gaping maw daily), and would critique every piece of food I brought in, looking for the unhealthy stuff, and then exclaim about the sugary/fatty parts of my lunch, and oh, aren't you lucky, wouldn't it be nice to have a metabolism like yours??? Drove me nuts. I used to put a square of chocolate in my oats each morning in lieu of sweetener, and god, she never failed to tell the whole office about my 'chocolatey' breakfast (never mind the hour I spent in the gym before work, and that it was 10grams of chocolate). She would point out my bananas and handful of nuts and smugly tell me they were way too full of sugar/fat for her, but ooh, lucky naturally skinny you, you can eat it. I wanted to smother her. Sorry, a bit OT. Coworkers.

I believe I've posted this here before, but I have _never_ gotten unsolicited advice on my diet or exercise from someone who was actually fit.

I also find it frustrating when someone who appears to be not-in-the-best-shape makes comments on me eating avocados or nuts or whole eggs (the yolk and all!) or some other thing like that and they claim that it is "high fat - you shouldn't eat it!". Fruits - "too much sugar!". Whole eggs - "the yolks will kill you!". Although I think this may be the types of things they hear from their doctors or some widely accepted (but incorrect) nutritional advice.

Me - I prefer to eat whole natural foods in a balanced way. I usually just stare back at them because, at least from outward appearances, I think I am healthier than they are. But who really knows...I could drop dead tomorrow from eating avocados, nuts, and whole eggs. No one really knows others' internal health.
As long as you don't abuse on eating avocados, nuts and eggs, it is still better than eatin Doritos, Coca Cola and chocolate that most people prefer to eat.

I feel really bad for these people.  Some of them honestly believe that there is too much sugar in fruit, or fat in an avocado and end up making the decision to eat processed junk instead.  There is so much misinformation about diet out there, it's not surprising that many people develop radically skewed ideas about food and eating.
At the risk of getting foamy... I agree with this.  Eating fat is not the issue, eating sugar is not the issue.  The issue is that we have gotten everything out of whack.  Omega 6 fat is supposed to be consumed in about a 4:1 ratio with omega 3 fat.  We are consuming it about 16:1.  This is because of the way that we are processing everything.  I remember as a kid, picking a carrot out of the garden we grew, whipping it on my pants, and eating it...dirt and all.  If you allowed that today, you would be a bad parent.  We need to go back to a simpler time.   

Simpler for food.  Simpler because we did not seem to need all of the useless stuff we "need" now.  So I guess less stuff, more cash flow, better food... Hmm I might be on to something.

I find obesity to be similar to people that can't save. It's a simple matter of what matters to each of us individually. The fat women with 'tyroid' problems, is like someone who complains that they can't save their earnings even though they may make 30k more than their mustachain coworker. She may think that skinny people are lucky, and I'm guessing that she will think that people that FIRE in their 30s are depraved or come from money or have some special skill that mere mortals like her lack.

I will admit I lose my patience with such people and have stopped being idle and just nodding at their comments. My coworkers are pretty good about not making stupid comments, but I have a salesmen that will not shut up about anything and I have had to become harsh with him about it. The fat coworker mentioned by 11ducks is lucky I don't work with her, I'm usually pretty quick to say, "No I"m not fit by luck, I'm fit because I don't stuff a cake down my throat. Next time you mention my foot, I'll mention your food."

I get some of your point.  There can be issues with thyroid... it can up your weight by something like 3-4%.  No really a big deal.  But, companies now have perfected making food, so it is addicting.  Did you know that sugar, fat mix in processed food activates the same regions of the brain as does cocaine.  I get that you can change, but as someone who has recently, it is hard and requires a lifestyle change.
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My co worker has just bought a 2500 sq foot house that has a 1400 sq ft shop in the back yard.(My house is only 1050 sq feet). It also has a 3 car garage attached to the front of the house. He has both of them full of all the stuff he and his SO has accumulated over the years.  He doesn't even have room for his cars in the garage, and has to park them on the street.

They have decided that they need to renovate the new house.  So first thing he talks about is the $15000 gas cooktop that they "need" for the kitchen.  Then they are going to change one of the bedrooms, into a walk in closet for the master bed room.  They have gotten a blue print of the house and are making it into a feature wall in this closet.  It will be etched on glass.  Total cost of the closet, according to him $30000.

Wow...$30000 for a place to store your clothes....

There is more... Much more.  But it hurts to go on.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8583 on: June 09, 2015, 08:33:05 AM »

I get some of your point.  There can be issues with thyroid... it can up your weight by something like 3-4%.  No really a big deal.  But, companies now have perfected making food, so it is addicting.  Did you know that sugar, fat mix in processed food activates the same regions of the brain as does cocaine.  I get that you can change, but as someone who has recently, it is hard and requires a lifestyle change.
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I understand your point entirely and don't mean to discount someone's health concerns. I'm aware of how food companies have become among the biggest drug dealers in the world, and my reaction was to be more conscious of what I put into my body. Though I work out a good amount, I will admit that I am overweight due to eating foods that I shouldn't...but I understand that this is on me, and no one else. It may be hard to overcome thyroid problems, but it certainly can be done. I know a girl that was about 280 pounds in college, I didn't know her then but was amazed at hearing this because when I had met her (5 years after she graduated) she had lost half of that weight by exercising, eating healthy, and taking medication for her thyroid (this is just an example, I don't know specifics of her case or anyone's, so don't know how typical this result is). The point I'm making it is that nothing in life is easy and there will always be obstacles. While the result you want may be unfeasible, I believe that that instead of complaining, we would be better off if we worked out butts off to try to overcome them.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8584 on: June 09, 2015, 09:29:08 AM »
CW was just recognized for 30 years of service. Uhhh...WHY are you still working after 30 years? Nevermind. We get to talking about our kids. She has two sons. One just graduated college and the other just finished his 2nd or 3rd year. Both sons have moved home for summer. She complained that they're total slobs and have doubled her grocery bill -- this in the first 5 mins of our conversation.

ME: So what's the graduate up to?
CW: Well, he has a part-time job.  He's saving up for a trip to Europe in 8 months and didn't want to commit to an employer and then have to resign.
ME: Oh
CW: Yeah, it's so nice to only have to pay for one kid in college.
ME: Oh, you helped your boys with college? So that means no student loans then, at least?
CW: Heavens no...we could only help so much. Both boys have HUGE loans. At least the oldest has finally started paying for his own gas. We told him he'd have to after he decided to lease a new car.
ME: (gulping for air) So...you paid for his car, gas, insurance all through college? Do you pay their cell phone bills too?
CW: Well, yeah, of course...

So, I'm trying to wrap my head around this, and I can't. The 24 year old graduate will only take a part-time job because he wants to spend a month or more in Europe next year. He just leased a car. Has thousands in student loans. Mooches terribly off his parents. And everybody is fine with the whole situation. Meanwhile, his dear old mom is slaving away at a high stress job and taking extra work over summer to "pay the bills". Seriously?


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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8585 on: June 09, 2015, 09:33:47 AM »

I get some of your point.  There can be issues with thyroid... it can up your weight by something like 3-4%.  No really a big deal.  But, companies now have perfected making food, so it is addicting.  Did you know that sugar, fat mix in processed food activates the same regions of the brain as does cocaine.  I get that you can change, but as someone who has recently, it is hard and requires a lifestyle change.
/foam

I understand your point entirely and don't mean to discount someone's health concerns. I'm aware of how food companies have become among the biggest drug dealers in the world, and my reaction was to be more conscious of what I put into my body. Though I work out a good amount, I will admit that I am overweight due to eating foods that I shouldn't...but I understand that this is on me, and no one else. It may be hard to overcome thyroid problems, but it certainly can be done. I know a girl that was about 280 pounds in college, I didn't know her then but was amazed at hearing this because when I had met her (5 years after she graduated) she had lost half of that weight by exercising, eating healthy, and taking medication for her thyroid (this is just an example, I don't know specifics of her case or anyone's, so don't know how typical this result is). The point I'm making it is that nothing in life is easy and there will always be obstacles. While the result you want may be unfeasible, I believe that that instead of complaining, we would be better off if we worked out butts off to try to overcome them.
We are making the same point in different ways... even with a thyroid issue you can lose weight.  And you are right, noting in life is easy, but the things that are hard make us stronger and better people.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8586 on: June 09, 2015, 09:39:00 AM »
CW was just recognized for 30 years of service. Uhhh...WHY are you still working after 30 years? Nevermind. We get to talking about our kids. She has two sons. One just graduated college and the other just finished his 2nd or 3rd year. Both sons have moved home for summer. She complained that they're total slobs and have doubled her grocery bill -- this in the first 5 mins of our conversation.

ME: So what's the graduate up to?
CW: Well, he has a part-time job.  He's saving up for a trip to Europe in 8 months and didn't want to commit to an employer and then have to resign.
ME: Oh
CW: Yeah, it's so nice to only have to pay for one kid in college.
ME: Oh, you helped your boys with college? So that means no student loans then, at least?
CW: Heavens no...we could only help so much. Both boys have HUGE loans. At least the oldest has finally started paying for his own gas. We told him he'd have to after he decided to lease a new car.
ME: (gulping for air) So...you paid for his car, gas, insurance all through college? Do you pay their cell phone bills too?
CW: Well, yeah, of course...

So, I'm trying to wrap my head around this, and I can't. The 24 year old graduate will only take a part-time job because he wants to spend a month or more in Europe next year. He just leased a car. Has thousands in student loans. Mooches terribly off his parents. And everybody is fine with the whole situation. Meanwhile, his dear old mom is slaving away at a high stress job and taking extra work over summer to "pay the bills". Seriously?

We have to give our kids the best right?

Seriously though... maybe let the kid make mistakes and learn.  Stop babying the kids and let them become an adult.  If you want productive members of society then you must allow them to be.  I moved from home when I was 18, struggled to make it paying rent and what ever.  I knew that my parents would never let me starve, but I did not ask for money because I was an idiot.    I did have 2 weeks once where all I ate was KD and hot dogs because that was all I could afford after spending my cheque on stupid stuff.  I was OK.  ARG... if we keep babying people, we will get babies.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8587 on: June 09, 2015, 09:44:16 AM »
CW was just recognized for 30 years of service. Uhhh...WHY are you still working after 30 years? Nevermind. We get to talking about our kids. She has two sons. One just graduated college and the other just finished his 2nd or 3rd year. Both sons have moved home for summer. She complained that they're total slobs and have doubled her grocery bill -- this in the first 5 mins of our conversation.

ME: So what's the graduate up to?
CW: Well, he has a part-time job.  He's saving up for a trip to Europe in 8 months and didn't want to commit to an employer and then have to resign.
ME: Oh
CW: Yeah, it's so nice to only have to pay for one kid in college.
ME: Oh, you helped your boys with college? So that means no student loans then, at least?
CW: Heavens no...we could only help so much. Both boys have HUGE loans. At least the oldest has finally started paying for his own gas. We told him he'd have to after he decided to lease a new car.
ME: (gulping for air) So...you paid for his car, gas, insurance all through college? Do you pay their cell phone bills too?
CW: Well, yeah, of course...

So, I'm trying to wrap my head around this, and I can't. The 24 year old graduate will only take a part-time job because he wants to spend a month or more in Europe next year. He just leased a car. Has thousands in student loans. Mooches terribly off his parents. And everybody is fine with the whole situation. Meanwhile, his dear old mom is slaving away at a high stress job and taking extra work over summer to "pay the bills". Seriously?

Being a mustachian too, I totally get where you're coming from.  I think we've got to try not to get to myopic, though, as this is very common both in terms of parenting behavior and young adult behavior.  I would wager that a vast majority of parents pay for their kids gas, cell phone bills, and other incidentals during college.  I would stake the same amount on most kids relying more on loans than parental contributions.

The Europe trip is less widespread, but still pretty common.  Hey, I did it.  In fact, with a few notable exceptions (I was paying my own living costs) this could totally be me.  Got out of school, worked a part time job, saved up, went and lived in Europe for almost a year.

As I said, I get what you're saying here-- just wanted to call out that this forum is most fun when it's the truly outrageous rather than emphasizing behavior that is common and (compared to some of the crazier stories) not all that self destructive.  Heck, even as a mustachian I could see myself paying gas, food, and cell phone for my kids when they're in college.  I'd probably encourage travel abroad, too, though I would insist on them covering their living expenses as they saved.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8588 on: June 09, 2015, 10:03:07 AM »
I did have 2 weeks once where all I ate was KD and hot dogs because that was all I could afford after spending my cheque on stupid stuff. 

KD?  What is that?

Given than the author is Canadian, I'm going to assume Kraft Dinner, aka Kraft Macaroni and Cheese.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8589 on: June 09, 2015, 10:05:39 AM »
I did have 2 weeks once where all I ate was KD and hot dogs because that was all I could afford after spending my cheque on stupid stuff. 

KD?  What is that?

guessing kraft dinner?


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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8590 on: June 09, 2015, 10:05:51 AM »
I did have 2 weeks once where all I ate was KD and hot dogs because that was all I could afford after spending my cheque on stupid stuff. 

KD?  What is that?

Given than the author is Canadian, I'm going to assume Kraft Dinner, aka Kraft Macaroni and Cheese.
Yup no name brand comes on sale for about .25 a box.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8591 on: June 09, 2015, 10:29:45 AM »
CW was just recognized for 30 years of service. Uhhh...WHY are you still working after 30 years? Nevermind. We get to talking about our kids. She has two sons. One just graduated college and the other just finished his 2nd or 3rd year. Both sons have moved home for summer. She complained that they're total slobs and have doubled her grocery bill -- this in the first 5 mins of our conversation.

ME: So what's the graduate up to?
CW: Well, he has a part-time job.  He's saving up for a trip to Europe in 8 months and didn't want to commit to an employer and then have to resign.
ME: Oh
CW: Yeah, it's so nice to only have to pay for one kid in college.
ME: Oh, you helped your boys with college? So that means no student loans then, at least?
CW: Heavens no...we could only help so much. Both boys have HUGE loans. At least the oldest has finally started paying for his own gas. We told him he'd have to after he decided to lease a new car.
ME: (gulping for air) So...you paid for his car, gas, insurance all through college? Do you pay their cell phone bills too?
CW: Well, yeah, of course...

So, I'm trying to wrap my head around this, and I can't. The 24 year old graduate will only take a part-time job because he wants to spend a month or more in Europe next year. He just leased a car. Has thousands in student loans. Mooches terribly off his parents. And everybody is fine with the whole situation. Meanwhile, his dear old mom is slaving away at a high stress job and taking extra work over summer to "pay the bills". Seriously?

Being a mustachian too, I totally get where you're coming from.  I think we've got to try not to get to myopic, though, as this is very common both in terms of parenting behavior and young adult behavior.  I would wager that a vast majority of parents pay for their kids gas, cell phone bills, and other incidentals during college.  I would stake the same amount on most kids relying more on loans than parental contributions.

The Europe trip is less widespread, but still pretty common.  Hey, I did it.  In fact, with a few notable exceptions (I was paying my own living costs) this could totally be me.  Got out of school, worked a part time job, saved up, went and lived in Europe for almost a year.

As I said, I get what you're saying here-- just wanted to call out that this forum is most fun when it's the truly outrageous rather than emphasizing behavior that is common and (compared to some of the crazier stories) not all that self destructive.  Heck, even as a mustachian I could see myself paying gas, food, and cell phone for my kids when they're in college.  I'd probably encourage travel abroad, too, though I would insist on them covering their living expenses as they saved.

You're right that this is a common style of parenting, but it doesn't require a Mustachian to take issue with it. My parents raised me such that they expected by the time I was a teenager that if I wanted something, I could pay for it. They told me very early on, if I wanted a cell phone I'd have to buy it. If I wanted a driver's license, I'd be paying for the driver's ed, license fees, gas I use, and my portion of the insurance -- if I couldn't afford it, they'd be happy to give me rides as needed or tell me to walk/bike wherever. If I wanted a car, same deal: Get a job, save up, pay for a car; until then I can borrow theirs when I need it. Of course my parents would pay for things for me, within reason, and help out on certain things, because they were reasonable people. But the overarching principle was, "If you want it, you must also be willing to work for it." It's not about Mustachianism or frugality, it's just about giving your kids the tools to grow into responsible, independent, able, working adults.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8592 on: June 09, 2015, 10:36:17 AM »
You're right that this is a common style of parenting, but it doesn't require a Mustachian to take issue with it. My parents raised me such that they expected by the time I was a teenager that if I wanted something, I could pay for it. They told me very early on, if I wanted a cell phone I'd have to buy it. If I wanted a driver's license, I'd be paying for the driver's ed, license fees, gas I use, and my portion of the insurance -- if I couldn't afford it, they'd be happy to give me rides as needed or tell me to walk/bike wherever. If I wanted a car, same deal: Get a job, save up, pay for a car; until then I can borrow theirs when I need it. Of course my parents would pay for things for me, within reason, and help out on certain things, because they were reasonable people. But the overarching principle was, "If you want it, you must also be willing to work for it." It's not about Mustachianism or frugality, it's just about giving your kids the tools to grow into responsible, independent, able, working adults.

I can't find a single sentence here I disagree with.  My point was just that if we take commonplace and marginally destructive behaviors and raise them to the level of "hall of shame," it removes all nuance from our ability to judge these things and we risk becoming shrill and myopic.  I don't think what was described is the right way to parent/spend, but I also want to try to retain some semblance of perspective.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8593 on: June 09, 2015, 10:36:57 AM »

I get some of your point.  There can be issues with thyroid... it can up your weight by something like 3-4%.  No really a big deal.  But, companies now have perfected making food, so it is addicting.  Did you know that sugar, fat mix in processed food activates the same regions of the brain as does cocaine.  I get that you can change, but as someone who has recently, it is hard and requires a lifestyle change.
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I understand your point entirely and don't mean to discount someone's health concerns. I'm aware of how food companies have become among the biggest drug dealers in the world, and my reaction was to be more conscious of what I put into my body. Though I work out a good amount, I will admit that I am overweight due to eating foods that I shouldn't...but I understand that this is on me, and no one else. It may be hard to overcome thyroid problems, but it certainly can be done. I know a girl that was about 280 pounds in college, I didn't know her then but was amazed at hearing this because when I had met her (5 years after she graduated) she had lost half of that weight by exercising, eating healthy, and taking medication for her thyroid (this is just an example, I don't know specifics of her case or anyone's, so don't know how typical this result is). The point I'm making it is that nothing in life is easy and there will always be obstacles. While the result you want may be unfeasible, I believe that that instead of complaining, we would be better off if we worked out butts off to try to overcome them.
We are making the same point in different ways... even with a thyroid issue you can lose weight.  And you are right, noting in life is easy, but the things that are hard make us stronger and better people.
As a male whose thyroid died because of a side affect from other medication, I can give first hand notice that when the thyroid medicine was prescribed, my energy level almost doubled, and the extra things I was able to do helped get the weight back off.  Low thyroid saps your energy and it becomes a vicious circle.  I don't think I would have been able to work through it and become stronger.  The medicine was very needed.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8594 on: June 09, 2015, 10:44:18 AM »
I was talking to one of my cube-mates about upcoming summer plans, and how busy the summer is.  I've got a weekend in NYC this month, a a week in Germany in July, and 2 full weeks in Hawaii in September.  He literally said, "What are you, a millionaire?"  I started to explain about gaming credit cards for airline miles, and VRBO, and the ridiculously good deal I got by patiently Pricelining a car in Honolulu.  And I very pointedly did not explain that after the husband and I save/invest 50% of our take home we budget our vacations separately (because that's not anyone's business).  But people really assume that you can't do both. 

I have another co-worker that I've been friends with for 10+ years.  I've always told him I was going to retire at 45 (I'm 34).  I think he used to think I was joking, but the other day he asked me, in front of our boss, if that was still my plan.  I said probably.  My boss looked dumbfounded.  He said, "I don't understand how people retire."  I thought he meant, what do people do with their time?  But then he went on, "I can't imagine having enough money to not work."  Eek.  (My boss is probably 25 years older than me.)  My co-worker chimed in to point out that I have always lived well below my income, and my boss looked at me for a moment before he had like this light bulb moment and said, "Oh, that's why you can take those lavish vacations every year!"  Because apparently, I'm the only one in the office who takes 2 weeks at a time off to go somewhere interesting.  I so wanted to explain that, no, I don't live far below my means and then spend the difference on vacations, I figure out ways to travel that fit my budget after I meet my savings goals.  But again, none of this makes any sense to people.

Also, a few months ago, we started be able to expense our cell phone bills since we take company e-mails on them.  After the first round was submitted, my boss asked me why mine was so much less then everyone else's.  I use Republic Wireless, and my bill was like $31.12.  Apparently, every other person on our team had submitted up to the $70 max, and he was flabbergasted that I had such cheap cell service. 

In January, we had to travel for an orientation.  We weren't in the travel expense system yet, so were were asked in December to book our own flights and we would be reimbursed.  I was astounded at the number of people who protested that they couldn't possibly afford a plane ticket in the same month as Christmas. 

Same coworker who outed me as a Mustachian decided to buy a new car, because his car was 5 years old.  Discussed the process at length in our cubicle.  Highlights include - "I've just accepted that I'll always have a car payment,"  the rational that by the time you've paid off a new car it has fallen out of warranty and you'll have to start paying for adhoc repairs, and his wife deciding as he shopped for a car that she missed her old VW and deciding to purchase a VW Jetta at the same time.  I'm currently in negotiations with my local Honda dealership to get the price of a 2015 Fit down to $10k after trade so I can buy it with cash.  I'm taking me time, since mine is only 8 years old and I don't NEED a new one, but the new one is purple and has 8 years newer fancy features.  Said coworker keep trying to convince me that it's a terrible idea to pay cash for a car, and that he's much better off always driving a new car with payments and a warranty. 

One more.  Same two cube-mates discussing Soylent (the geeky meal replacement powdered shakes) as an alternative to actually cooking meals.  I said that it was pretty expensive.  They looked online and found that it would cost $9-10 per person per day, and they both agreed that seemed pretty reasonable.  I said that's more than I budget for groceries for my husband and I per person, how did it compare to their grocery budgets?  Blank stares.  Crickets.  I asked what their grocery budgets were, and both of them looked at me like they didn't understand the question.  Why would you have a grocery budget?  Well, to know how much I have to spend on food.  We make IT money, we can afford to buy groceries.   

I love my cube-mates dearly.  But I'm clearly an alien and now I try very hard to not get drawn into these kinds of conversations. 

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8595 on: June 09, 2015, 10:53:55 AM »
One more.  Same two cube-mates discussing Soylent (the geeky meal replacement powdered shakes) as an alternative to actually cooking meals.

Just remember to tell them to stay away from anything green that comes out of those packets.

Seriously - clever name for the product, and that company be well positioned when the dystopian future finally arrives.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8596 on: June 09, 2015, 11:17:50 AM »
Aargh- I used to sit opposite the most negative, draining woman ever. She was overweight,  loudly claimed it was thyroid (nope, it's the cakes you shove into your gaping maw daily), and would critique every piece of food I brought in, looking for the unhealthy stuff, and then exclaim about the sugary/fatty parts of my lunch, and oh, aren't you lucky, wouldn't it be nice to have a metabolism like yours??? Drove me nuts. I used to put a square of chocolate in my oats each morning in lieu of sweetener, and god, she never failed to tell the whole office about my 'chocolatey' breakfast (never mind the hour I spent in the gym before work, and that it was 10grams of chocolate). She would point out my bananas and handful of nuts and smugly tell me they were way too full of sugar/fat for her, but ooh, lucky naturally skinny you, you can eat it. I wanted to smother her. Sorry, a bit OT. Coworkers.

I believe I've posted this here before, but I have _never_ gotten unsolicited advice on my diet or exercise from someone who was actually fit.

I also find it frustrating when someone who appears to be not-in-the-best-shape makes comments on me eating avocados or nuts or whole eggs (the yolk and all!) or some other thing like that and they claim that it is "high fat - you shouldn't eat it!". Fruits - "too much sugar!". Whole eggs - "the yolks will kill you!". Although I think this may be the types of things they hear from their doctors or some widely accepted (but incorrect) nutritional advice.

Me - I prefer to eat whole natural foods in a balanced way. I usually just stare back at them because, at least from outward appearances, I think I am healthier than they are. But who really knows...I could drop dead tomorrow from eating avocados, nuts, and whole eggs. No one really knows others' internal health.

I never make comments about what I eat, but for some reason there was a period of time (usually overweight) women loved to make comments about what I was eating: "you put beets on your salad? Those are really high in sugar". "I never eat peanut m'ms, only regular m m's, nuts are fattening". "Dried fruit is really high in calories you know". "I wish I could eat what you eat, but I have low glycemic index (self-diagnosed) sugar so I need to eat less carbs" (ordering fried chicken on top of a lettuce salad, drenched with dressing). These were the same people who were literally on some diet all the time, and would love to inform you how this is how you should eat. The particular diet would change around every 6 months. Me, I believe everything in moderation, dieting doesn't help, and that regular exercise is more important than following some ideal food diet, as long as minimize the junk food, fast food and sodas. 

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8597 on: June 09, 2015, 11:27:30 AM »

Yup no name brand comes on sale for about .25 a box.

This is the ONE thing I've found that I absolutely will not buy generic.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8598 on: June 09, 2015, 11:45:49 AM »
I did have 2 weeks once where all I ate was KD and hot dogs because that was all I could afford after spending my cheque on stupid stuff. 

KD?  What is that?

Given than the author is Canadian, I'm going to assume Kraft Dinner, aka Kraft Macaroni and Cheese.
Yup no name brand comes on sale for about .25 a box.

Before my senior year in college, my buddies and I rented a house (had to live off campus senior year and had to do a 1-year lease, 9 months not available).  Well, as a 21y/o, obviously if there was a house to be lived in that wasn't with my parents, I was going to live there.  So I did.  My parents helped me out during school, but basically said "if you live at home during the summer you can eat our food for free, if you want to live at school, that's your choice, but you're paying for it."  Okay, no problem.  That's the summer I learned to watch for the 5/$3 sale on Kraft M&C, and I learned where all the ATMs that allowed a $10 withdrawl were instead of $20, etc.  My roommates and I would store up change and go to bars with $.50 drink specials every night, we'd put $2 in one pocket for train fare home and the other pocket would have drinking money, but then you'd be talking to girls and run out of drinking money and make the drunken choice to hoof it back 5 miles (or try to find a closer bed with "companionship") instead of taking the train and drink that last $2....

Those were the days.  Loved it. 

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #8599 on: June 09, 2015, 12:16:39 PM »



I find obesity to be similar to people that can't save. It's a simple matter of what matters to each of us individually. The fat women with 'tyroid' problems, is like someone who complains that they can't save their earnings even though they may make 30k more than their mustachain coworker. She may think that skinny people are lucky, and I'm guessing that she will think that people that FIRE in their 30s are depraved or come from money or have some special skill that mere mortals like her lack.



I hate to continue the foam, but I see so many misunderstandings of hypothyroidism that I can't let keep sliding by. While a low thyroid is only responsible for minimal weight gain, it is also responsible for major, major energy loss. When I was diagnosed and given meds, the first thing I noticed was an increase in energy, as in to crazy levels I hadn't felt since my mid-20's. The docs don't tell you this, and they don't tell you to take advantage of it right away, or you will adjust to it and stay lazy.

It's almost impossible to lose weight with no energy. I went from highly active hiking/backpacking and reasonable weight, to overweight and no activity, all over the course of a few years. It took several years for anyone to even mention the thyroid to me, so I though it wa age, lifestyle creep, and stress. I WAS overweight, I'm (almost) not now. I would have been physically and mentally incapable of losing the weight without constant monitoring of the thyroid and proper medication. That is what gave me the energy I needed to exercise both my body and my self restraint. Unfortunately, my experience when I was trying to find a Dr. was most of them saw this condition as a fat woman's disease that would just get worse because it was something fat, lazy women got. Really, it is a disease that can make previously thin, active women fat and lazy. We don't know why it happens, society judges us, out confidence tanks, and we accept the blame, because everyone knows only lazy people get fat.