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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16450 on: January 17, 2017, 03:01:14 PM »
Lol we served Costco pork loon to our guest too!

I know this was a typo but it didn't make it any less hilarious.  I'm very easily amused.  :D

What?  It was with a side of peas and parrots.

Pork Loon is one of my favorite cuts of pork :-P

I find it tastes a little funny.

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« Reply #16451 on: January 17, 2017, 04:01:27 PM »
Lol we served Costco pork loon to our guest too!

I know this was a typo but it didn't make it any less hilarious.  I'm very easily amused.  :D

What?  It was with a side of peas and parrots.

Pork Loon is one of my favorite cuts of pork :-P

I find it tastes a little funny.

Nothing beats some Beef Turkey though

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« Reply #16452 on: January 18, 2017, 10:15:11 PM »
Another from the unmustachian woman who in our finance department.

She's in her fifties. She is our treasurer and reports to the CFO. Her husband is a skilled auto mechanic.  She and her husband both work, and they have a large house in a nice rural area with a large shop building with its own auto lift.  Her husband recently fell on some ice and tore up his shoulder, requiring surgery.

"I'm so glad I bought disability insurance because we need both our salaries to live in this house, and husband is going to be off work for 5 months for pre-surgery sinus infection recovery and post-surgery shoulder recovery.  I mean, we could live in smaller house, but we have these four big dogs, and besides, we really like living here.  And, oh, I'm going Florida in February for a week because I need some time away with my sister!"

I don't think they have kids - she only talks about the dogs - they make probably $150k to $200k per year (combined), and yet in their fifties, they can't get by on one salary for a few months while her husband is off work.  And she works in our Finance departmen.  Now maybe they are maxing their retirements and other investments and she just doesn't want to pull money from somewhere else, but I doubt it. It's sad.

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« Reply #16453 on: January 19, 2017, 12:46:33 AM »
Another from the unmustachian woman who in our finance department.

She's in her fifties. She is our treasurer and reports to the CFO. Her husband is a skilled auto mechanic.  She and her husband both work, and they have a large house in a nice rural area with a large shop building with its own auto lift.  Her husband recently fell on some ice and tore up his shoulder, requiring surgery.

"I'm so glad I bought disability insurance because we need both our salaries to live in this house, and husband is going to be off work for 5 months for pre-surgery sinus infection recovery and post-surgery shoulder recovery.  I mean, we could live in smaller house, but we have these four big dogs, and besides, we really like living here.  And, oh, I'm going Florida in February for a week because I need some time away with my sister!"

I don't think they have kids - she only talks about the dogs - they make probably $150k to $200k per year (combined), and yet in their fifties, they can't get by on one salary for a few months while her husband is off work.  And she works in our Finance departmen.  Now maybe they are maxing their retirements and other investments and she just doesn't want to pull money from somewhere else, but I doubt it. It's sad.

I hope this is a wake up call if the situation is as you suspect. The fact that she is seemingly unwilling to make modest changes because 'we like living here' and 'I need some time away with my sister' makes me think that there is little thought towards experiencing some mild inconvenience to save some serious money.

I'm pleased that they have disability insurance. It sounds like it is right for them.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16454 on: January 19, 2017, 08:23:24 AM »
My co-workers are always complaining about being broke. Not surprisingly, I notice the following behavior on a daily basis

  • Rolling in every morning with the largest size Starbucks drink + breakfasts
  • Ordering out for lunch every day at $12-15
  • Ordering take-out for dinner on the way home
  • DRIVING to the plaza opposite our office, which is 150 yards away, to go shopping. This is done in heavily financed SUVs and trucks which are often warmed up with remote starters for 10 minutes prior to this 8-second journey across the parking lot

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16455 on: January 19, 2017, 08:47:00 AM »
...which are often warmed up with remote starters for 10 minutes prior to this 8-second journey across the parking lot

Well yeah, the car's not going to warm up in 8 seconds. Are they supposed to be cold during the whole drive? Next you'll be saying they should just walk! Which is really quite hard with the joint inflammation from that tasty restaurant food.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16456 on: January 19, 2017, 09:10:19 AM »
I don't think they have kids - she only talks about the dogs - they make probably $150k to $200k per year (combined), and yet in their fifties, they can't get by on one salary for a few months while her husband is off work.  And she works in our Finance department.

I'm always perplexed at how many people in finance/accounting/business don't have their shit together, at all, when it comes to personal finance. I mean, of all the people who should understand basic concepts like budgeting, opportunity cost and compound interest, THESE are the ones who should have those ideas so well engrained in their minds right? What the fuck! How does someone spend decades optimizing finances for a business and not give a second thought to their own hemorrhaging of money at home??
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16457 on: January 19, 2017, 09:15:08 AM »
I don't think they have kids - she only talks about the dogs - they make probably $150k to $200k per year (combined), and yet in their fifties, they can't get by on one salary for a few months while her husband is off work.  And she works in our Finance department.

I'm always perplexed at how many people in finance/accounting/business don't have their shit together, at all, when it comes to personal finance. I mean, of all the people who should understand basic concepts like budgeting, opportunity cost and compound interest, THESE are the ones who should have those ideas so well engrained in their minds right? What the fuck! How does someone spend decades optimizing finances for a business and not give a second thought to their own hemorrhaging of money at home??
It's easy.  Business finance and personal finance aren't very compatible.  In business, many times it makes sense to borrow money instead of save it, since you can use it to make more money than the interest.  That doesn't usually work in personal (except possibly for education and a home).

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16458 on: January 19, 2017, 09:45:27 AM »
I don't think they have kids - she only talks about the dogs - they make probably $150k to $200k per year (combined), and yet in their fifties, they can't get by on one salary for a few months while her husband is off work.  And she works in our Finance department.

I'm always perplexed at how many people in finance/accounting/business don't have their shit together, at all, when it comes to personal finance. I mean, of all the people who should understand basic concepts like budgeting, opportunity cost and compound interest, THESE are the ones who should have those ideas so well engrained in their minds right? What the fuck! How does someone spend decades optimizing finances for a business and not give a second thought to their own hemorrhaging of money at home??
It's easy.  Business finance and personal finance aren't very compatible.  In business, many times it makes sense to borrow money instead of save it, since you can use it to make more money than the interest.  That doesn't usually work in personal (except possibly for education and a home).

Agreed there are differences, but I fail to see how someone with the attitude/capacity/work ethic to understand business finance cannot learn about personal finance. And these folks are everywhere.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16459 on: January 19, 2017, 09:50:40 AM »
Here's the big difference, and the reason why people good at business finance aren't necessarily good at personal finance.

Business finance is mainly a science - classifying, experimenting, observing. It's an engineering problem, like solving a puzzle. But it doesn't affect the person doing it.

Personal finance is mainly about behavior modification. Everything I do in personal finance requires me to change something that matters to me. It's the same reason people have a hard time dieting or quitting smoking.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16460 on: January 19, 2017, 10:01:16 AM »
How does someone spend decades optimizing finances for a business and not give a second thought to their own hemorrhaging of money at home??

Don't be too quick to assume that they are successfully optimizing the business's finances!

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16461 on: January 19, 2017, 12:26:12 PM »
How does someone spend decades optimizing finances for a business and not give a second thought to their own hemorrhaging of money at home??

My ex was like this.  She found a niche going into Mom and Pop businesses, fixing their books and optimizing the general running of the business.  She has turned around many businesses that were close to closing, mostly because people open up a shop knowing how to do something but not knowing how to run a business.  She could whip their finances into shape in no time, but personal finance just eluded her. 

Maybe it's the cobbler's kids have no shoes paradox.  I know my home IT stuff is pretty abysmal, but work stuff runs very smooth.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16462 on: January 19, 2017, 12:39:58 PM »
Here's the big difference, and the reason why people good at business finance aren't necessarily good at personal finance.

Business finance is mainly a science - classifying, experimenting, observing. It's an engineering problem, like solving a puzzle. But it doesn't affect the person doing it.

Personal finance is mainly about behavior modification. Everything I do in personal finance requires me to change something that matters to me. It's the same reason people have a hard time dieting or quitting smoking.

Holy crap. That's profound.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16463 on: January 19, 2017, 01:35:45 PM »
Here's the big difference, and the reason why people good at business finance aren't necessarily good at personal finance.

Business finance is mainly a science - classifying, experimenting, observing. It's an engineering problem, like solving a puzzle. But it doesn't affect the person doing it.

Personal finance is mainly about behavior modification. Everything I do in personal finance requires me to change something that matters to me. It's the same reason people have a hard time dieting or quitting smoking.

Holy crap. That's profound.

You will find that the accountants are not really the ones in charge of the money. Sure we keep track of it, record it, manage cash flow, ensure the bills are paid and advise the various department heads what is going on. But ultimately each divisional head is allocated their own budgets to use for the laundry list of items and staff they need.

The overall envelope of money available should be advised by the Finance team and then set by the Board at such a level that the company earns an acceptable rate of return, however, don't go around believing the accountants are at fault when the CEO and his or her other executives start over spending.

Having said all that, I agree with the engineering puzzle analogy. But I've always thought assembling  a set of financials is an art, not a science :)

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16464 on: January 19, 2017, 02:15:25 PM »
Here's the big difference, and the reason why people good at business finance aren't necessarily good at personal finance.

Business finance is mainly a science - classifying, experimenting, observing. It's an engineering problem, like solving a puzzle. But it doesn't affect the person doing it.

Personal finance is mainly about behavior modification. Everything I do in personal finance requires me to change something that matters to me. It's the same reason people have a hard time dieting or quitting smoking.

Excellent observation!

I can finally contribute to this thread!  I have a new co-worker that I thought was a closet-mustachian (based on the beater car he drives and the 1-bedroom apt he lives in) and was hoping to finally have someone to talk to about mustachian principles, even if we didn't call it that.  He's single and probably in his late 40's/early 50's.  I was about 99% sure that he is FI and just working to prevent boredom.  Well, he just announced that he bought a brand new car AND a 3200sqft house for just under $400k!  :o  He may still be FI, but certainly isn't mustachian. :/

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16465 on: January 19, 2017, 03:12:28 PM »
Here's the big difference, and the reason why people good at business finance aren't necessarily good at personal finance.

Business finance is mainly a science - classifying, experimenting, observing. It's an engineering problem, like solving a puzzle. But it doesn't affect the person doing it.

Personal finance is mainly about behavior modification. Everything I do in personal finance requires me to change something that matters to me. It's the same reason people have a hard time dieting or quitting smoking.

Excellent observation!

I can finally contribute to this thread!  I have a new co-worker that I thought was a closet-mustachian (based on the beater car he drives and the 1-bedroom apt he lives in) and was hoping to finally have someone to talk to about mustachian principles, even if we didn't call it that.  He's single and probably in his late 40's/early 50's.  I was about 99% sure that he is FI and just working to prevent boredom.  Well, he just announced that he bought a brand new car AND a 3200sqft house for just under $400k!  :o  He may still be FI, but certainly isn't mustachian. :/

I wonder how many weight loss coaches are fat.  I'm sure some are, if they are famous.  I'm imagining like a boxing coach though.  You can certainly provide information and motivation without applying the principles to yourself

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16466 on: January 19, 2017, 04:21:25 PM »
Here's the big difference, and the reason why people good at business finance aren't necessarily good at personal finance.

Business finance is mainly a science - classifying, experimenting, observing. It's an engineering problem, like solving a puzzle. But it doesn't affect the person doing it.

Personal finance is mainly about behavior modification. Everything I do in personal finance requires me to change something that matters to me. It's the same reason people have a hard time dieting or quitting smoking.

Excellent observation!

I can finally contribute to this thread!  I have a new co-worker that I thought was a closet-mustachian (based on the beater car he drives and the 1-bedroom apt he lives in) and was hoping to finally have someone to talk to about mustachian principles, even if we didn't call it that.  He's single and probably in his late 40's/early 50's.  I was about 99% sure that he is FI and just working to prevent boredom.  Well, he just announced that he bought a brand new car AND a 3200sqft house for just under $400k!  :o  He may still be FI, but certainly isn't mustachian. :/

I wonder how many weight loss coaches are fat.  I'm sure some are, if they are famous.  I'm imagining like a boxing coach though.  You can certainly provide information and motivation without applying the principles to yourself

I've always thought it a bit ironic when I saw Sigi Schmid on the sidelines at sounders games. By all accounts a great coach, but more than a bit overweight. Coaching soccer players, who are among the most in shape of all athletes.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16467 on: January 19, 2017, 08:19:37 PM »

Is it possible that an iPad or tablet is available from work? Per the original conversation it appears that the employee is assuming that FrugalFisherman10 also has an iPad. I know that I wouldn't assume that everyone within the office has one or would even ask specifically about an iPad unless I was fairly certain that it was commonplace.

I guess I was also projecting my own assumptions. Lots of people at my office work remotely on their Ipads, but our company doesn't issue them.  Because the Ipad is so commonplace it is not at all uncommon to ask someone specifically about an issue with them.  We use PCs at work though, and everyone has a laptop to take home. But not everyone likes using those and prefer their own device. As long as it is registered and has the security app on it, we can use them.  (The vast majority of people use Iphones as their BYOD, but you certainly don't have to. As long as your phone is running the version of the software required by security, you can use anything.  I've had many people ask me Iphone questions, which I can sometimes answer, but I just have a cheap Android. When I had to upgrade due to my operating system out of date the phones they suggested were all in the $500-$600 range; but I found one for $50.)
The iPad is not work-issued.
This guy has proven to be fairly aloof in other regards too...he's new to having us as a client, and I'm new to the company as well, so I feel for him a bit in terms of not knowing how things work, culture, who to talk to, etc.
Sucks for him too because my coworker on the first day this new consultant shows up says under his breath to the rest of us "man, Piss on those consultant guys! Ugh! lousy!"
Being a former consultant myself,  I had never actually seen/heard this mentality towards us (although I was certain it existed somewhere/sometimes). So the dude is fighting an uphill battle from the get go.

On Fridays, someone brings in breakfast for members of the "breakfast club" list. (You get to eat some only if you're on the list.)
So then the coworker that said he didn't like consultants breakfast day comes around, and he brings in donuts. About an hour into the morning I hear the consultant walk behind us, grab a donut and say "oh man, you guys have donuts on Fridays?!"

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Smh

(SENT from my FREAKING smartphone man I'm a hypocrite look at me spending all this money I watch it go down the drain as I piss away just like my COWORKER PISSES ON CONSULTANTS)

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Edited to add: Apologies iowajes..I quoted the above response wrong, but I realize you were the one defending me, not attacking me. Thanks
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16468 on: January 20, 2017, 09:40:56 AM »
Had a coworker tell me about her new truck that she had to have. There are so many bad decisions involved in this story, it was hard to hear. Here's the quick gist over several days of stories that I was told:
   - She knowingly bought a used truck with $6,000+ negative equity in it.
   - When it was in the shop for work, Dodge gave her a 2017 decked out truck for her loaner. She fell for that trick and decided she NEEDED a brand new decked out truck.
   - Goes to the dealer and negotiates them from $50,000 to a 3 year lease for $450/month and then buying the car through financing for $22,000 after the lease is up.
   - Proudly reiterated the salesman saying "You're in a used truck for $350/month when you could be in a new truck for $450/month!"
   - She does absolutely 0 hauling or outdoor work of any kind, but mentioned that she feels safe now in her big, comfortable, luxurious truck (read: giant, gas guzzling, expensive clown mobile).
   - She traded in the old truck to get this deal, which the plus side is that they ate the negative equity, but she thinks that she got a $50K truck for $38K when she really got a $50K truck for $38K + the $11K that the trade in was worth + the interest...

*face palm*

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« Reply #16469 on: January 20, 2017, 09:53:06 AM »
   - She knowingly bought a used truck with $6,000+ negative equity in it.

Is this another way of saying she paid $6000+ more than similar trucks being offered for sale? Because I didn't think someone would literally assume someone else's upside-down loan.

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« Reply #16470 on: January 20, 2017, 09:55:22 AM »
Had a coworker tell me about her new truck that she had to have. There are so many bad decisions involved in this story, it was hard to hear. Here's the quick gist over several days of stories that I was told:
   - She knowingly bought a used truck with $6,000+ negative equity in it.
   - When it was in the shop for work, Dodge gave her a 2017 decked out truck for her loaner. She fell for that trick and decided she NEEDED a brand new decked out truck.
   - Goes to the dealer and negotiates them from $50,000 to a 3 year lease for $450/month and then buying the car through financing for $22,000 after the lease is up.
   - Proudly reiterated the salesman saying "You're in a used truck for $350/month when you could be in a new truck for $450/month!"
   - She does absolutely 0 hauling or outdoor work of any kind, but mentioned that she feels safe now in her big, comfortable, luxurious truck (read: giant, gas guzzling, expensive clown mobile).
   - She traded in the old truck to get this deal, which the plus side is that they ate the negative equity, but she thinks that she got a $50K truck for $38K when she really got a $50K truck for $38K + the $11K that the trade in was worth + the interest...

*face palm*

plus if you consider the 450 per month lease you're looking at a total of 49200. 

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16471 on: January 20, 2017, 10:04:58 AM »
I bet the salesman got a free lunch courtesy of the sales manager for that one.

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« Reply #16472 on: January 20, 2017, 10:20:24 AM »
I also forgot to mention that the used truck she bought was purchased in MAY OF 2016. Aka 8 months ago.

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« Reply #16473 on: January 20, 2017, 10:24:17 AM »
I bet the salesman got a free lunch courtesy of the sales manager for that one.

More like a $250 gift card for _insert local expensive restaurant here_ + his regular commission

Depends heavily on the car dealer, but some places the incentives are crazy like all inclusive trips, $10k volume bonuses after reaching certain targets etc.  And then there's the other side of the incentives, if you are the lowest performing salesperson that month, you get shit canned.   

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« Reply #16474 on: January 20, 2017, 12:08:22 PM »
My husband came home from work last night with the following story about one of his coworkers:

His coworker has 4 young children and recently set up a Go Fund Me page asking for a goal of $34,000 in donations to pay for his children's future braces and orthodontics needs.

Now mind you, the children are all young at this point and the guy doesn't even know if they will all need braces, but he said he's "planning ahead."

That's right... He's "planning ahead" for the future expense by asking other people to start donating to this "cause" now. He potentially has years to save up for this expense if he really thinks his kids are all going to need braces, but no... he's asking for donations.

Most importantly, my husband and his coworkers all have good careers and make a comfortable income. There's no reason why this guy should not be able to pay for his own kids' braces.

My husband checked out the guy's Go Fund Me page out of curiosity. Currently he has received $0 towards his $34,000 goal.

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« Reply #16475 on: January 20, 2017, 12:18:51 PM »
That's right... He's "planning ahead" for the future expense by asking other people to start donating to this "cause" now.

Man. I don't know how it became socially acceptable to beg publicly like that. I think there was a thread about gofundme's here somewhere and someone pointed to one where people were asking for money in order to get cookware!


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« Reply #16476 on: January 20, 2017, 12:51:29 PM »
Does GoFundMe allow donations of $0.01?

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« Reply #16477 on: January 20, 2017, 01:13:52 PM »
My husband came home from work last night with the following story about one of his coworkers:

His coworker has 4 young children and recently set up a Go Fund Me page asking for a goal of $34,000 in donations to pay for his children's future braces and orthodontics needs.

Now mind you, the children are all young at this point and the guy doesn't even know if they will all need braces, but he said he's "planning ahead."

That's right... He's "planning ahead" for the future expense by asking other people to start donating to this "cause" now. He potentially has years to save up for this expense if he really thinks his kids are all going to need braces, but no... he's asking for donations.

Most importantly, my husband and his coworkers all have good careers and make a comfortable income. There's no reason why this guy should not be able to pay for his own kids' braces.

My husband checked out the guy's Go Fund Me page out of curiosity. Currently he has received $0 towards his $34,000 goal.

This is so fucked up. Maybe it's a cultural thing (entitlement, etc.) but I would be selling everything I own, moving into a smaller house, stop eating at restaurants, stop spending money altogether before I'd even consider begging people for donations.

Something tells me this gentleman and his family aren't cutting out frivolous spending... so if someone were to donate to his GoFundMe, they would actually be financing the useless spending that SHOULD be paying for his own kids' damn braces.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16478 on: January 20, 2017, 02:46:10 PM »
This is so fucked up. Maybe it's a cultural thing (entitlement, etc.) but I would be selling everything I own, moving into a smaller house, stop eating at restaurants, stop spending money altogether before I'd even consider begging people for donations.

My kid has cancer, and I still totally agree with you.  I do however, graciously accept the money (usually a $25 gas or grocery gift card) that people send us but I have never asked anyone for money.  My son's school did a fundraiser for us - I said ok but it was their idea.  I still made sure a big chunk of it went to a childhood cancer charity.  My parents have offered money if we really need it, and I think we would have to be pretty desperate to even ask them. 

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« Reply #16479 on: January 20, 2017, 03:35:44 PM »
Cancer and braces are not remotely comparable. It's good you are taking help offered: people want to show they care, but it is hard to know how.
I hope your son has a full recovery.

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« Reply #16480 on: January 20, 2017, 04:29:21 PM »
Cancer and braces are not remotely comparable. It's good you are taking help offered: people want to show they care, but it is hard to know how.
I hope your son has a full recovery.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16481 on: January 20, 2017, 10:47:37 PM »
I got lunch this week with an attorney friend who still works at the law firm I left last year.  Her assistant was telling her about this awesome sports camp that her teenage daughter had been invited to participate in in a distant large city, but that it was going to cost $5,000, so she was going to start a GoFundMe to pay for it.  The daughter is old enough to work but does not work.  The assistant sent the link for the GoFundMe to all the attorneys in her practice group, basically asking all her bosses to donate money to pay for her kid's camp.  Let alone the fact that this particular assistant is one of the best paid in the office and gets the highest bonuses each year (because she truly does an excellent job).  So then, after the lunch, I went up to the office to visit my former co-workers, including this assistant, and she was telling me about the camp, too.  Turns out that her daughter did this camp last year, but wants to do it again, so why not ask for the money?  Um, okay.  Seems so inappropriate to me to send a GoFundMe request to your co-workers, especially for something that's clearly a want.
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16482 on: January 20, 2017, 11:04:30 PM »
Ugh.  F@#k all this GoFundMe stuff, I can't believe people straight up ask for handouts like that for things that people should be saving for or don't need at all.  I know sometimes that site is useful for people in real need, but damn there are so many other people that just have no shame. 

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16483 on: January 23, 2017, 06:50:01 AM »
Sure I posted about this before, when the situation was in the early stages ... but anyway, a woman I work with (I think she's early twenties) inherited money (£11,000 approx) and decided to use it as a deposit on a flat. She has updated me on the following events:

1. The first thing she did was get a fancy car (financed, obviously).
2. The bank wouldn't give her a mortgage, partly because of her debts (car loan + other stuff she didn't mention in detail).
3. So she got another job on top of her full time job, to bump up her wage.
4. But the bank then said that since this extra job wasn't a permanent contract thing, it didn't count.
5. Enraged by all of this, she cheered herself up by going on a £4000 spending spree with some of that deposit money.

I was feeling kind of bad for her, because it sucks when you think you're doing the right things and the bank keeps saying no. Until she got to the £4000 spending spree update. I asked what she bought and she said 'handbags'. So I just mashed my face into my desk.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16484 on: January 23, 2017, 07:06:19 AM »
Friday at lunch:

Me: Did you want to go eat lunch with me?
CW: No, I'm just going to stay at my desk today, because I was in a rush this morning and just grabbed a jar of peanut butter and jelly and some bread to make a sandwich. 
Me: Oh okay....well, I pack my lunch too.
CW: I don't want anyone to see that I have Great Value Peanut Butter and Jelly. 

Do we really live in a world where someone has to be embarrassed that they have off brand peanut butter?!?!

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16485 on: January 23, 2017, 07:07:36 AM »
I was feeling kind of bad for her, because it sucks when you think you're doing the right things and the bank keeps saying no. Until she got to the £4000 spending spree update. I asked what she bought and she said 'handbags'. So I just mashed my face into my desk.
Well - she showed them!

(You know you get bonus points if you can convince her to start a gofundme to pay for the purses, right?)

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16486 on: January 23, 2017, 07:29:51 AM »
A 20 year old at work makes $13/hr. He bought a used z71 pickup with 80k miles (I think) and is still going to end up paying over $35k for it.

I think his payment and insurance is $400+ a month, I don't remember the exact numbers.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16487 on: January 23, 2017, 08:39:44 AM »
Friday at lunch:

Me: Did you want to go eat lunch with me?
CW: No, I'm just going to stay at my desk today, because I was in a rush this morning and just grabbed a jar of peanut butter and jelly and some bread to make a sandwich. 
Me: Oh okay....well, I pack my lunch too.
CW: I don't want anyone to see that I have Great Value Peanut Butter and Jelly. 

Do we really live in a world where someone has to be embarrassed that they have off brand peanut butter?!?!

Ask your co-worker if he or she would be prouder to display 'Bad Value' peanut butter.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16488 on: January 23, 2017, 09:08:52 AM »
Friday at lunch:

Me: Did you want to go eat lunch with me?
CW: No, I'm just going to stay at my desk today, because I was in a rush this morning and just grabbed a jar of peanut butter and jelly and some bread to make a sandwich. 
Me: Oh okay....well, I pack my lunch too.
CW: I don't want anyone to see that I have Great Value Peanut Butter and Jelly. 

Do we really live in a world where someone has to be embarrassed that they have off brand peanut butter?!?!

Ask your co-worker if he or she would be prouder to display 'Bad Value' peanut butter.

And on a similar note, depending on the crowd you're in, homemade peanut butter is either wonderful and healthy and etc, or something to be embarassed of having because really you should just buy it. There's no winning if you play the game.

(We're mustachians. Fuck the game.)

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16489 on: January 23, 2017, 09:15:17 AM »
Sure I posted about this before, when the situation was in the early stages ... but anyway, a woman I work with (I think she's early twenties) inherited money (£11,000 approx) and decided to use it as a deposit on a flat. She has updated me on the following events:

1. The first thing she did was get a fancy car (financed, obviously).
2. The bank wouldn't give her a mortgage, partly because of her debts (car loan + other stuff she didn't mention in detail).
3. So she got another job on top of her full time job, to bump up her wage.
4. But the bank then said that since this extra job wasn't a permanent contract thing, it didn't count.
5. Enraged by all of this, she cheered herself up by going on a £4000 spending spree with some of that deposit money.

I was feeling kind of bad for her, because it sucks when you think you're doing the right things and the bank keeps saying no. Until she got to the £4000 spending spree update. I asked what she bought and she said 'handbags'. So I just mashed my face into my desk.

Wow.  Every step she took was wrong.  That's impressive/depressing.

Can she still return the handbags?  Or sell them?  Return the car?
  • Don't take on any new debt if you want to buy a flat.  Stick with the car you have/public transport.
  • Cut expenses and don't buy useless things like purses.
  • Get a part-time job on top of your full-time job to pay off your other debts (not to bump your wage).
  • After paying off your other debts, continue working part-time job to save more money if the bank won't give you a mortgage now.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16490 on: January 23, 2017, 10:14:34 AM »
Friday at lunch:

Me: Did you want to go eat lunch with me?
CW: No, I'm just going to stay at my desk today, because I was in a rush this morning and just grabbed a jar of peanut butter and jelly and some bread to make a sandwich. 
Me: Oh okay....well, I pack my lunch too.
CW: I don't want anyone to see that I have Great Value Peanut Butter and Jelly. 

Do we really live in a world where someone has to be embarrassed that they have off brand peanut butter?!?!

Ask your co-worker if he or she would be prouder to display 'Bad Value' peanut butter.
Great comeback! I actually told her I'd be more embarrassed if I paid extra money just for a name on a jar.  She kind of furrowed her eyebrows and walked away. 

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16491 on: January 23, 2017, 10:23:00 AM »
Friday at lunch:

Me: Did you want to go eat lunch with me?
CW: No, I'm just going to stay at my desk today, because I was in a rush this morning and just grabbed a jar of peanut butter and jelly and some bread to make a sandwich. 
Me: Oh okay....well, I pack my lunch too.
CW: I don't want anyone to see that I have Great Value Peanut Butter and Jelly. 

Do we really live in a world where someone has to be embarrassed that they have off brand peanut butter?!?!

Ask your co-worker if he or she would be prouder to display 'Bad Value' peanut butter.
Great comeback! I actually told her I'd be more embarrassed if I paid extra money just for a name on a jar.  She kind of furrowed her eyebrows and walked away.

You could offer to find her the label of a fancy-pants PB brand so she can tape it over her PB?

I love PB, thankfully the Aldi's and Kirkland brands are excellent a great price (Kirkland comes to $2.7/lb for organic).

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16492 on: January 23, 2017, 10:25:34 AM »
Friday at lunch:

Me: Did you want to go eat lunch with me?
CW: No, I'm just going to stay at my desk today, because I was in a rush this morning and just grabbed a jar of peanut butter and jelly and some bread to make a sandwich. 
Me: Oh okay....well, I pack my lunch too.
CW: I don't want anyone to see that I have Great Value Peanut Butter and Jelly. 

Do we really live in a world where someone has to be embarrassed that they have off brand peanut butter?!?!

Ask your co-worker if he or she would be prouder to display 'Bad Value' peanut butter.
Great comeback! I actually told her I'd be more embarrassed if I paid extra money just for a name on a jar.  She kind of furrowed her eyebrows and walked away.

You could offer to find her the label of a fancy-pants PB brand so she can tape it over her PB?

I love PB, thankfully the Aldi's and Kirkland brands are excellent a great price (Kirkland comes to $2.7/lb for organic).
I currently have a jar of Kroger Natural Crunchy sitting on my desk along side some apples.  I really should get better about keeping tabs on how much some of my food costs, because I don't know! All I know is that I have a $300/mo grocery budget, and I remain inside it. 

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16493 on: January 23, 2017, 10:28:08 AM »
And on a similar note, depending on the crowd you're in, homemade peanut butter is either wonderful and healthy and etc, or something to be embarassed of having because really you should just buy it. There's no winning if you play the game.

(We're mustachians. Fuck the game.)
  I had never considered home made.  Your post made me Google it.  Apparently, it is a lot easier to make than I thought.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16494 on: January 23, 2017, 10:32:34 AM »
Friday at lunch:

Me: Did you want to go eat lunch with me?
CW: No, I'm just going to stay at my desk today, because I was in a rush this morning and just grabbed a jar of peanut butter and jelly and some bread to make a sandwich. 
Me: Oh okay....well, I pack my lunch too.
CW: I don't want anyone to see that I have Great Value Peanut Butter and Jelly. 

Do we really live in a world where someone has to be embarrassed that they have off brand peanut butter?!?!

Ask your co-worker if he or she would be prouder to display 'Bad Value' peanut butter.
Great comeback! I actually told her I'd be more embarrassed if I paid extra money just for a name on a jar.  She kind of furrowed her eyebrows and walked away.

You could offer to find her the label of a fancy-pants PB brand so she can tape it over her PB?

I love PB, thankfully the Aldi's and Kirkland brands are excellent a great price (Kirkland comes to $2.7/lb for organic).
I currently have a jar of Kroger Natural Crunchy sitting on my desk along side some apples.  I really should get better about keeping tabs on how much some of my food costs, because I don't know! All I know is that I have a $300/mo grocery budget, and I remain inside it.

YMMV, I'm spoiled at having Cub (our major grocery chain) and Aldi's within a few minutes of my house, and Costco is about 13 minutes away. I am pretty decent at price shopping (does anyone know where to get the best price for Dawn dish soap though?), but my biggest waste is throwing away food. I need to get better at planning my meals and sticking to them.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16495 on: January 23, 2017, 10:38:32 AM »
And on a similar note, depending on the crowd you're in, homemade peanut butter is either wonderful and healthy and etc, or something to be embarassed of having because really you should just buy it. There's no winning if you play the game.

(We're mustachians. Fuck the game.)
I had never considered home made.  Your post made me Google it.  Apparently, it is a lot easier to make than I thought.
We make our own peanut butter. We just throw a bunch of peanuts in our food processor for a few minutes and out comes perfect peanut butter.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16496 on: January 23, 2017, 10:39:16 AM »
I literally have had consultants (that I hire / fire) laugh at me when they see me make a sandwich in my office.  They get a per diem when on-site, so I see why it wouldn't be a big deal for them to eat at a restaurant every day and more convienent than shopping for groceries in a strange town.  I wanted to ask if they ate at a restaurant for lunch the days they work from home, but I didn't feel like getting into it with them at the time.

If someone is going to look down on you for the brand of peanut butter you're using for your sandwich, they are probably looking down on you for packing anyway.  In either case, who cares what they think?

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16497 on: January 23, 2017, 12:03:13 PM »
And on a similar note, depending on the crowd you're in, homemade peanut butter is either wonderful and healthy and etc, or something to be embarassed of having because really you should just buy it. There's no winning if you play the game.

(We're mustachians. Fuck the game.)
I had never considered home made.  Your post made me Google it.  Apparently, it is a lot easier to make than I thought.
We make our own peanut butter. We just throw a bunch of peanuts in our food processor for a few minutes and out comes perfect peanut butter.

Basically that easy. A bit of salt improves flavor. ;)

My kid likes eating it by the spoonful, and I'm not a fan of the quantity of sugar in most commercial stuff if she's going to be downing a few spoonfuls of the stuff for breakfast, so... bulk peanuts bought on sale + a few minutes of running the food processor or blender while I do dishes every 2-3 weeks, and it's a pretty affordable solution.

And then you get people who look down on me for being 'one of THOSE moms who makes everything by hand and organic and you must be crazy and not have a life', AND you get people who look up to me for the exact same reasons, and I'm like... yo, it's cheap, it's easy, it's tasty, I'm not playing this game.

I also fed my daughter organic homemade baby purées... because the organic pears from the farmer's market were 1/3 the cost of the grocery store pears, and SIGNIFICANTLY cheaper than buying ready-made purées, and it took a half-hour to make all the pear purée she ate for 8 months (60lbs of pears. That kid loved pears. Baby purée = 'take food, stick in blender'. Or, if it's hard, like carrots: simmer until soft, stick in blender. C'mon, now. You don't need a recipe or a commercial kitchen). Same judgements, from both directions. There's never a win.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16498 on: January 23, 2017, 12:08:32 PM »
YMMV, I'm spoiled at having Cub (our major grocery chain) and Aldi's within a few minutes of my house, and Costco is about 13 minutes away. I am pretty decent at price shopping (does anyone know where to get the best price for Dawn dish soap though?), but my biggest waste is throwing away food. I need to get better at planning my meals and sticking to them.

Aldi sells blue dish soap that is copying Dawn.  I can't remember the price.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16499 on: January 23, 2017, 12:22:59 PM »
YMMV, I'm spoiled at having Cub (our major grocery chain) and Aldi's within a few minutes of my house, and Costco is about 13 minutes away. I am pretty decent at price shopping (does anyone know where to get the best price for Dawn dish soap though?), but my biggest waste is throwing away food. I need to get better at planning my meals and sticking to them.

Aldi sells blue dish soap that is copying Dawn.  I can't remember the price.

How does the quality compare?

I bought Dawn at Aldi's and it was $3 for a 28 ounce thing (I believe that's the size). Prior to this I went through a few dollar store soaps that are nearly all water. I'm happy to buy a knock-off if it does as good a job as Dawn's.