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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1450 on: August 28, 2019, 09:48:37 AM »
Not exactly a co-worker, but I was talking to someone the other day and said something about ordering my groceries for pickup.  She told me that she'd love to be able to do that, but you have to place the order, and let WM put a hold on your card, the day before you pick them up.  That doesn't work for her because they need groceries on Thursday, but don't get paid until Thursday so she can't place the order a day early.

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« Reply #1451 on: August 28, 2019, 10:35:37 AM »
Coworkers and cars :( a guy at my work is always driving beaters - not of the mustachian type but the ones that cost 500 and require 2000 in maintenance within three months. His cars are always breaking down and failing inspections. He showed up in a new car this week and I was initially happy for him: it's a modest car, 8 years old, fuel efficient and looks well maintained. The type of car a mustachian would buy and run into the ground.

He told me it was valued at €4k and just when I started wondering where he got that kind of money he proudly told me he finally qualified for a car loan. He put down €1200 and will pay €100/month for the next 5 years. By that time he will have paid twice what the car is worth in car payment and as it's 8 years old I'm sure there'll be maintenance costs as well. He's super proud of his shiny car and I wish him the best but it's a bad deal. It's extra sad that he still lives with his parents in a fairly remote place because he can't afford his own place, but as his parents live so far away from everything he spends a significant part of his income on driving.

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« Reply #1452 on: August 28, 2019, 10:41:08 AM »
My Coworker likes cars. He drives a "mustachian" car at the moment, but is on lookout for a sporty car. I would give you 2 or 3 names if I could even bother to remember them... anyway today on business trip we saw his favorite - as he said it is totally overdesigned, looks like a race car.

He also does not want to put away money for retirement because he thinks he will be dead anyway. He does not go to doctors, so there is at least some basis in this claim.

My workplace is big on work life balance and physical/mental/emotional health. So we all have access to a free gym and free weight room and a free dance studio and free exercise classes. Anyway, last week an email went out regarding spin classes at the work place. Only USD$100/session! And you have to sign up for 15 sessions minimum. At least 10 people signed up immediately. Some of those people have talked in the past about not saving enough money and joking about having to work until they’re old. I’m like, if you stopped spending $100/day on sessions, you might be able to retire earlier. These people also pay $4 for prepackaged veggie sticks, like a little box of to-go carrot and cucumber sticks.

Is that not a typo with a 0 too many? That is an absurd amount for a spinning session.

I had to google that. A spinning lesson is where you sit on what we in Germany call "home trainer" (historic word!)? A stationary bike?

I got one of these used for 10€ and got a free weight lifting (extra cheap!!) out of getting it upstairs.

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« Reply #1453 on: August 28, 2019, 10:52:36 AM »
@LennStar it's kind of like that, but super high energy and usually done in groups. It's nothing like how my grandma used to work out on her hometrainer. I've never done a spinning class, but I've watched them at the gym and it looks too intense for me.

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« Reply #1454 on: August 28, 2019, 11:19:42 AM »
@LennStar it's kind of like that, but super high energy and usually done in groups. It's nothing like how my grandma used to work out on her hometrainer. I've never done a spinning class, but I've watched them at the gym and it looks too intense for me.

Yeah, that kind of spin class is like going out for a bike ride with a bunch of really intense people, plus loud music and someone yelling at you. Only you don't actually go anywhere, and you pay for the privilege.

I have gotten some benefit out of spin classes that are already offered through my gym, because I don't bike in winter and have to regain some strength every spring. But those are much less intense than the ones you'd pay $100/class for.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1455 on: August 28, 2019, 11:54:57 AM »
What kind of spin class costs $100?? Is it taught by Arnold Schwarzenegger??

I spent a week with a friend recently and we went to her gym every day. I bought a guest pass for $30/week. It was a pretty nice gym. We went to at least one and sometimes two classes (yoga, pilates, cardio) every day for five days so I consider it an okay deal. They had spin classes too but the times didn't work for us.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1456 on: August 28, 2019, 12:03:12 PM »
@LennStar it's kind of like that, but super high energy and usually done in groups. It's nothing like how my grandma used to work out on her hometrainer. I've never done a spinning class, but I've watched them at the gym and it looks too intense for me.

They're actually fun, although I wanted to collapse after the first one I tried. My friend and I used to take spin classes in grad school to blow off steam, as we got a really good deal through the university gym. I wish I could find one locally that didn't require me to pay more than my electric+natural gas bill per month.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1457 on: August 28, 2019, 05:32:24 PM »
I had to google that. A spinning lesson is where you sit on what we in Germany call "home trainer" (historic word!)? A stationary bike?

It‘s a US thing. We‘ll probably get spinning within the next year. Search for “I feel pretty” (that’s a movie) and SoulCycle (a company offering spinnig and paying a lot for product placement in said movie). In Hamburg there are already offerings in the more expensive and hip part of the city, auch as Hicycle.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1458 on: August 29, 2019, 08:41:56 AM »
Yeah, that kind of spin class is like going out for a bike ride with a bunch of really intense people, plus loud music and someone yelling at you. Only you don't actually go anywhere, and you pay for the privilege.
I have never understood those persons paying money for an army-like boot camp O.o
But I guess it is a good opportunity for old drill sergeants to do what they are used to in their second career.

As a severe introvert the combination of intense people, loud music and someone yelling together is something I would pay $100 to get away from ;)

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1459 on: August 29, 2019, 09:02:33 AM »
I had to google that. A spinning lesson is where you sit on what we in Germany call "home trainer" (historic word!)? A stationary bike?

It‘s a US thing. We‘ll probably get spinning within the next year. Search for “I feel pretty” (that’s a movie) and SoulCycle (a company offering spinnig and paying a lot for product placement in said movie). In Hamburg there are already offerings in the more expensive and hip part of the city, auch as Hicycle.

Spinning class has been a normal concept in Norway for many years. I went to such a class one winter when I was a member of a cycle club. In the summer, we cycled outside. We rented the spinning room during the winter, for an hour a week and one of the club was the instructor. I think we paid 8 euros per training, including showering at the senter. But that was many years ago.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1460 on: August 29, 2019, 10:10:54 AM »
@LennStar it's kind of like that, but super high energy and usually done in groups. It's nothing like how my grandma used to work out on her hometrainer. I've never done a spinning class, but I've watched them at the gym and it looks too intense for me.

They're actually fun, although I wanted to collapse after the first one I tried. My friend and I used to take spin classes in grad school to blow off steam, as we got a really good deal through the university gym. I wish I could find one locally that didn't require me to pay more than my electric+natural gas bill per month.

Former spin instructor here.  Classes were included in my gym's
membership, but surprising few members took advantage of it.

It was great 5-year gig for me as a side hustle.  There's nothing
like getting paid to work out.


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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1461 on: August 29, 2019, 10:55:59 AM »
Borrow a bicycle and come ride the hills around here with me. If it get too easy, we'll borrow a 8-9 year old child to ride on the back for weight. ;)

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1462 on: August 29, 2019, 11:51:26 AM »
TLDR of a long convo I had with a coworker about mattresses...this is not the way I'd want to spend the fruits of my miserable office job. I can't believe people actually live like this.

CW: My wife wants to get a King size but we just paid off the Queen adjustable we got for $4,000
Me: I want a Queen size...maybe I'll get one used or check out an inexpensive option
CW: Ew, no way. I value sleep and slept in those cheap-O mattresses..would only consider spending 4k on one
Me: Oh....
CW: It's also broken now so it doesn't adjust. But I won't bring that up again to my wife or she'll press for a King. We have a ton of money problems already. How could she want us to get another mattress payment? (continues to complain about wife)
Me: *stares at CW in shock*


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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1463 on: August 29, 2019, 12:06:32 PM »
TLDR of a long convo I had with a coworker about mattresses...this is not the way I'd want to spend the fruits of my miserable office job. I can't believe people actually live like this.

That reminds me of a CW whose wife is a spendthrift. She grew up poor in a trailer park, but now makes over $500k/yr.

CW said she still manages to spend so much that her annual bonus just zeroes out the credit cards, and she starts over.

One day he asked us if we thought $1200 was a lot of money for a comforter. After the usual ribbing, he said, yes, his wife had ordered a comforter from some high-end store for $1200. Pretty much the same thing that the rest of us might spend $50 on at Kohl's or Target.

She makes money, but I don't think she'll ever have money.


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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1464 on: August 29, 2019, 12:39:16 PM »
TLDR of a long convo I had with a coworker about mattresses...this is not the way I'd want to spend the fruits of my miserable office job. I can't believe people actually live like this.

That reminds me of a CW whose wife is a spendthrift. She grew up poor in a trailer park, but now makes over $500k/yr.

CW said she still manages to spend so much that her annual bonus just zeroes out the credit cards, and she starts over.

One day he asked us if we thought $1200 was a lot of money for a comforter. After the usual ribbing, he said, yes, his wife had ordered a comforter from some high-end store for $1200. Pretty much the same thing that the rest of us might spend $50 on at Kohl's or Target.

She makes money, but I don't think she'll ever have money.

I hope you are wrong about her not ever having money.  I can't imagine making $500,000/year and possibly having very little net worth.  Yikes!

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1465 on: August 29, 2019, 02:07:59 PM »
TLDR of a long convo I had with a coworker about mattresses...this is not the way I'd want to spend the fruits of my miserable office job. I can't believe people actually live like this.

That reminds me of a CW whose wife is a spendthrift. She grew up poor in a trailer park, but now makes over $500k/yr.

CW said she still manages to spend so much that her annual bonus just zeroes out the credit cards, and she starts over.

One day he asked us if we thought $1200 was a lot of money for a comforter. After the usual ribbing, he said, yes, his wife had ordered a comforter from some high-end store for $1200. Pretty much the same thing that the rest of us might spend $50 on at Kohl's or Target.

She makes money, but I don't think she'll ever have money.

I hope you are wrong about her not ever having money.  I can't imagine making $500,000/year and possibly having very little net worth.  Yikes!

Maybe taxes are very different in NY, but in Canada $500K/year salary would net less than $250K/year....often people spend their gross income, not they net.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1466 on: August 29, 2019, 02:11:15 PM »
TLDR of a long convo I had with a coworker about mattresses...this is not the way I'd want to spend the fruits of my miserable office job. I can't believe people actually live like this.

That reminds me of a CW whose wife is a spendthrift. She grew up poor in a trailer park, but now makes over $500k/yr.

CW said she still manages to spend so much that her annual bonus just zeroes out the credit cards, and she starts over.

One day he asked us if we thought $1200 was a lot of money for a comforter. After the usual ribbing, he said, yes, his wife had ordered a comforter from some high-end store for $1200. Pretty much the same thing that the rest of us might spend $50 on at Kohl's or Target.

She makes money, but I don't think she'll ever have money.

I hope you are wrong about her not ever having money.  I can't imagine making $500,000/year and possibly having very little net worth.  Yikes!

Maybe taxes are very different in NY, but in Canada $500K/year salary would net less than $250K/year....often people spend their gross income, not they net.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1467 on: August 29, 2019, 03:49:34 PM »
TLDR of a long convo I had with a coworker about mattresses...this is not the way I'd want to spend the fruits of my miserable office job. I can't believe people actually live like this.

That reminds me of a CW whose wife is a spendthrift. She grew up poor in a trailer park, but now makes over $500k/yr.

CW said she still manages to spend so much that her annual bonus just zeroes out the credit cards, and she starts over.

One day he asked us if we thought $1200 was a lot of money for a comforter. After the usual ribbing, he said, yes, his wife had ordered a comforter from some high-end store for $1200. Pretty much the same thing that the rest of us might spend $50 on at Kohl's or Target.

She makes money, but I don't think she'll ever have money.

I hope you are wrong about her not ever having money.  I can't imagine making $500,000/year and possibly having very little net worth.  Yikes!

Myself and CW have discussed finances, and he said he spends the last few months before her bonus arrives juggling credit cards, trying to not let her open any new accounts. He makes around $100k. They bought a $600k house that had stucco issues, so they spent over $70k just fixing the place a few months after buying it.

He said it's ridiculous that he's so stressed out over money when they make that much, but he can't get her to change.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1468 on: August 29, 2019, 03:56:01 PM »
TLDR of a long convo I had with a coworker about mattresses...this is not the way I'd want to spend the fruits of my miserable office job. I can't believe people actually live like this.

That reminds me of a CW whose wife is a spendthrift. She grew up poor in a trailer park, but now makes over $500k/yr.

CW said she still manages to spend so much that her annual bonus just zeroes out the credit cards, and she starts over.

One day he asked us if we thought $1200 was a lot of money for a comforter. After the usual ribbing, he said, yes, his wife had ordered a comforter from some high-end store for $1200. Pretty much the same thing that the rest of us might spend $50 on at Kohl's or Target.

She makes money, but I don't think she'll ever have money.

I hope you are wrong about her not ever having money.  I can't imagine making $500,000/year and possibly having very little net worth.  Yikes!

Myself and CW have discussed finances, and he said he spends the last few months before her bonus arrives juggling credit cards, trying to not let her open any new accounts. He makes around $100k. They bought a $600k house that had stucco issues, so they spent over $70k just fixing the place a few months after buying it.

He said it's ridiculous that he's so stressed out over money when they make that much, but he can't get her to change.

When someone else's habit directly affects you in a negative way, and you cannot break them of the habit, the only remaining option is to break the means by which that habit affects you.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1469 on: August 29, 2019, 04:03:16 PM »
TLDR of a long convo I had with a coworker about mattresses...this is not the way I'd want to spend the fruits of my miserable office job. I can't believe people actually live like this.

That reminds me of a CW whose wife is a spendthrift. She grew up poor in a trailer park, but now makes over $500k/yr.

CW said she still manages to spend so much that her annual bonus just zeroes out the credit cards, and she starts over.

One day he asked us if we thought $1200 was a lot of money for a comforter. After the usual ribbing, he said, yes, his wife had ordered a comforter from some high-end store for $1200. Pretty much the same thing that the rest of us might spend $50 on at Kohl's or Target.

She makes money, but I don't think she'll ever have money.

I hope you are wrong about her not ever having money.  I can't imagine making $500,000/year and possibly having very little net worth.  Yikes!

Myself and CW have discussed finances, and he said he spends the last few months before her bonus arrives juggling credit cards, trying to not let her open any new accounts. He makes around $100k. They bought a $600k house that had stucco issues, so they spent over $70k just fixing the place a few months after buying it.

He said it's ridiculous that he's so stressed out over money when they make that much, but he can't get her to change.

I'm always skeptical about couples where one person constantly complains about the other's spending habits. It's usually the case that the person doing the complaining isn't exactly frugal either, their spending just isn't as conspicuous.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1470 on: August 29, 2019, 08:09:25 PM »
Today, after many months (too many, I honestly should have done this months ago) of discussions about performance issues, work issues, general issues (and sincere but insufficient attempts at fixing it), i fired someone. She (somehow) claimed not to see it coming (despite discussions that involve language like "I don't currently see that you have the ability to do this job, and you should look for alternatives elsewhere"), and cried because her finances just couldn't take it and she has no savings and how is she gonna support her daughter (... I try not to judge other people's finances, but: don't eat lunch out daily, those new clothes and tattoos are not cheap, and 400$ kid birthday parties are not great for a single mom on a budget. And also you're getting severance and are eligible for unemployment, and there's a huge demand in your field in this area right now, you'll find something, OMG).

3 hours later, her dad showed up, wanting an explanation for why his daughter is "completely emotionally destroyed" and "it'll take them months to put her back together".

Guys. She's in her 40s.

Wtf.

I'm seeing a link between the parenting and the behaviour, and I am still boggled. HER PARENT SHOWED UP TO DEMAND AN EXPLANATION.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1471 on: August 29, 2019, 08:12:23 PM »
@Kitsune

Mind.Blown.

You win today. That is all.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1472 on: August 29, 2019, 09:06:24 PM »
Holy crap.

I didn’t realize helicopter parenting started that long ago.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1473 on: August 29, 2019, 09:31:14 PM »
Wow.

Just

Wow.

What are you going to say if the next job she applies to calls for a reference?

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« Reply #1474 on: August 29, 2019, 09:38:35 PM »
What are you going to say if the next job she applies to calls for a reference?

(1) To describe a candidate who is woefully inept:
“I most enthusiastically recommend this candidate with no qualifications whatsoever.”

(2) To describe a candidate who is not particularly industrious:
“In my opinion you would be very fortunate to get this person to work for you.”

(3) To describe a candidate with lackluster credentials:
“All in all, I cannot say enough good things about this candidate or recommend him too highly.”

(4) To describe an ex-employee who had difficulty getting along with his co-workers:
“I am pleased to say that this candidate is a former colleague of mine.”

(5) To describe a candidate who is so unproductive that the job would be better left unfilled:
“I can assure you that no person would be better for the job.”

(6) To describe a job applicant who is worth no further consideration:
“I would urge you to waste no time in making this person an offer of employment.”

From the Lexicon of Inconspicuously Ambiguous Referrals:   http://users.ohiohills.com/gordon/liar.html


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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1475 on: August 29, 2019, 09:55:25 PM »
ROFL

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1476 on: August 29, 2019, 11:19:03 PM »
*** 3 hours later, her dad showed up, wanting an explanation for why his daughter is "completely emotionally destroyed" and "it'll take them months to put her back together". ***

 I'd have suggested that her Dad take her out for a tattoo inking , maybe something like " Resilance ! " , or instead of the classic heart with a "mom"  inside - a heart with a birthday cake inside and sitting on top of 4 $100 dollar bills.
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« Reply #1477 on: August 30, 2019, 05:57:32 AM »
*** 3 hours later, her dad showed up, wanting an explanation for why his daughter is "completely emotionally destroyed" and "it'll take them months to put her back together". ***

 I'd have suggested that her Dad take her out for a tattoo inking , maybe something like " Resilance ! " , or instead of the classic heart with a "mom"  inside - a heart with a birthday cake inside and sitting on top of 4 $100 dollar bills.

burn!

Seriously I would never say something like that bc of possibility of violence.

Concerning thing, this person seemed to have learned nothing from being fired other than being a "victim", reinforced by Dad. For most people it is something that causes a reevaluation and development in character. 

The one thing I do have sympathy for, is after my separation I still wanted to do those nice things we did when married (birthday party, trips). I can imagine the $400 party was an overcompensation. You can only do that so long though before having to downshift. And in retrospect realize alot of the things I was doing was doing was more for me (not wanting to feel like things had changed, social standing) and my kids didn't care as much/were fine either way. Most kids don't care about the difference between a $75 party and a $400 party so long as their friends are there.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1478 on: August 30, 2019, 06:43:52 AM »
*** 3 hours later, her dad showed up, wanting an explanation for why his daughter is "completely emotionally destroyed" and "it'll take them months to put her back together". ***

 I'd have suggested that her Dad take her out for a tattoo inking , maybe something like " Resilance ! " , or instead of the classic heart with a "mom"  inside - a heart with a birthday cake inside and sitting on top of 4 $100 dollar bills.

burn!

Seriously I would never say something like that bc of possibility of violence.

Concerning thing, this person seemed to have learned nothing from being fired other than being a "victim", reinforced by Dad. For most people it is something that causes a reevaluation and development in character. 

The one thing I do have sympathy for, is after my separation I still wanted to do those nice things we did when married (birthday party, trips). I can imagine the $400 party was an overcompensation. You can only do that so long though before having to downshift. And in retrospect realize alot of the things I was doing was doing was more for me (not wanting to feel like things had changed, social standing) and my kids didn't care as much/were fine either way. Most kids don't care about the difference between a $75 party and a $400 party so long as their friends are there.

Well, the kid in question is 3, so frankly, some balloons, a nice cake (if you want to make a little kid REALLY happy, a cake decorated with their favorite characters), and people who love them letting them run around and be super excited and play and be loved is what you need for an A+ successful party, in their eyes.

And god, I'd never say ANY of the commentary about her personal life and finances (because my business, it is not, not, NOT) but... it's hard to watch someone dig themselves into a hole and then just look around, be miserable, and keep digging.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1479 on: August 30, 2019, 07:36:54 AM »
Yeah a 3 year old is not going to care one way or another. More likely to play with the box the toy came in than the toy itself!
I shouldn't feel bad but I do feel bad for her. If her own parents won't give her a heads up talk, probably no one else will : (

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1480 on: August 30, 2019, 08:12:40 AM »
Ugh, I also feel bad for her.

My dad says that some people 'just don't have the wiring', which is direct but also illustrative. In this case: I honestly don't think she has the capacity to understand and extrapolate information. I haven't seen a hint of it demonstrated in 11 months of work, or discussions of her personal life.

Which makes looking on just... painful.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1481 on: August 30, 2019, 08:28:43 AM »
... Aaaaand now she's texting ex-colleagues, in an absolute PANIC, because her ONLY copy of the file that details her issues getting child support for her kid was (wait for it) on her work computer, worked on during work hours, not backed up, and now locked away from access by our IT department.

It has to be Friday; I freakin give up on this one.

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« Reply #1482 on: August 30, 2019, 09:31:59 AM »
I just thought of another one.

My office walls are quite bare, and I’ve been wanting to put a picture or painting on the wall. My coworker has some beautiful framed paintings on her wall. She recommended her art guy. Only $200 to frame a painting, plus another couple hundred for the painting itself.

I ended up buying a paint by numbers oil painting kit. I just need something on the wall, and it’s a fun project.

Framed art is a fun thing. The prices are over the top for so many aspects of art. Framing, matting, etc. I once bought a $5 sheet of cardboard mat (matte?) that I needed trimmed to a certain dimension b/c I was using it to cover the top of an antique side table where I wanted to park my 3-D printer. Lady at Hobby Lobby tells me it will cost $20+ to do two straight cuts. 2 mins of work! She said that if she was cutting the cardboard then she had to charge the same rates as if she was framing a picture for me. $20+ to cut a $5 piece of cardboard twice. I told her it was ridiculous and went home where I cut the cardboard for free with a pair of heavy scissors we own.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1483 on: August 30, 2019, 09:58:20 AM »
... Aaaaand now she's texting ex-colleagues, in an absolute PANIC, because her ONLY copy of the file that details her issues getting child support for her kid was (wait for it) on her work computer, worked on during work hours, not backed up, and now locked away from access by our IT department.

It has to be Friday; I freakin give up on this one.

WHY do people use their employer's computer for personal email? Open a free email account like GMail! Most email services have webmail pages.

I have a coworker who has thousands of personal emails mingled with their work emails and sometimes can't find important workplace info b/c of the volume of total messages. 

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« Reply #1484 on: August 30, 2019, 01:38:30 PM »
TLDR of a long convo I had with a coworker about mattresses...this is not the way I'd want to spend the fruits of my miserable office job. I can't believe people actually live like this.

That reminds me of a CW whose wife is a spendthrift. She grew up poor in a trailer park, but now makes over $500k/yr.

CW said she still manages to spend so much that her annual bonus just zeroes out the credit cards, and she starts over.

One day he asked us if we thought $1200 was a lot of money for a comforter. After the usual ribbing, he said, yes, his wife had ordered a comforter from some high-end store for $1200. Pretty much the same thing that the rest of us might spend $50 on at Kohl's or Target.

She makes money, but I don't think she'll ever have money.

I hope you are wrong about her not ever having money.  I can't imagine making $500,000/year and possibly having very little net worth.  Yikes!

Maybe taxes are very different in NY, but in Canada $500K/year salary would net less than $250K/year....often people spend their gross income, not they net.

Sorry, I realize the conversation has moved on from this, but this was bugging me. In no province or territory would you net less than $250K/year. The least you'd get is in Nova Scotia or Quebec, where you'd net $262K, not including any deductions, RRSP, tax credits, etc. In Ontario, your home, you'd net $270K. A person would have to gross $800K before hitting an effective tax rate of 50% in Nova Scotia, and over $1M before hitting 50% in Ontario. Check out https://www.taxtips.ca/calculators/basic/basic-tax-calculator.htm if you're curious for more.

Pedant rant over. :)

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1485 on: August 30, 2019, 01:44:46 PM »
TLDR of a long convo I had with a coworker about mattresses...this is not the way I'd want to spend the fruits of my miserable office job. I can't believe people actually live like this.

That reminds me of a CW whose wife is a spendthrift. She grew up poor in a trailer park, but now makes over $500k/yr.

CW said she still manages to spend so much that her annual bonus just zeroes out the credit cards, and she starts over.

One day he asked us if we thought $1200 was a lot of money for a comforter. After the usual ribbing, he said, yes, his wife had ordered a comforter from some high-end store for $1200. Pretty much the same thing that the rest of us might spend $50 on at Kohl's or Target.

She makes money, but I don't think she'll ever have money.

I hope you are wrong about her not ever having money.  I can't imagine making $500,000/year and possibly having very little net worth.  Yikes!

Maybe taxes are very different in NY, but in Canada $500K/year salary would net less than $250K/year....often people spend their gross income, not they net.

Sorry, I realize the conversation has moved on from this, but this was bugging me. In no province or territory would you net less than $250K/year. The least you'd get is in Nova Scotia or Quebec, where you'd net $262K, not including any deductions, RRSP, tax credits, etc. In Ontario, your home, you'd net $270K. A person would have to gross $800K before hitting an effective tax rate of 50% in Nova Scotia, and over $1M before hitting 50% in Ontario. Check out https://www.taxtips.ca/calculators/basic/basic-tax-calculator.htm if you're curious for more.

Pedant rant over. :)

To be more pedantic, tax is (I guess) not the only thing you pay (if you aren't self employed).
Getting above 50% is not even that hard in Germany for example, but those mandatory payments include health and pension and unemployment (which you would otherwise had to pay after tax). That is capped though so there are areas where the effective all-% rate actually goes down.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1486 on: August 30, 2019, 01:48:25 PM »
Today, after many months (too many, I honestly should have done this months ago) of discussions about performance issues, work issues, general issues (and sincere but insufficient attempts at fixing it), i fired someone. She (somehow) claimed not to see it coming (despite discussions that involve language like "I don't currently see that you have the ability to do this job, and you should look for alternatives elsewhere"), and cried because her finances just couldn't take it and she has no savings and how is she gonna support her daughter (... I try not to judge other people's finances, but: don't eat lunch out daily, those new clothes and tattoos are not cheap, and 400$ kid birthday parties are not great for a single mom on a budget. And also you're getting severance and are eligible for unemployment, and there's a huge demand in your field in this area right now, you'll find something, OMG).

3 hours later, her dad showed up, wanting an explanation for why his daughter is "completely emotionally destroyed" and "it'll take them months to put her back together".

Guys. She's in her 40s.

Wtf.

I'm seeing a link between the parenting and the behaviour, and I am still boggled. HER PARENT SHOWED UP TO DEMAND AN EXPLANATION.
oh Lordy

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1487 on: August 30, 2019, 02:48:11 PM »
... Aaaaand now she's texting ex-colleagues, in an absolute PANIC, because her ONLY copy of the file that details her issues getting child support for her kid was (wait for it) on her work computer, worked on during work hours, not backed up, and now locked away from access by our IT department.

It has to be Friday; I freakin give up on this one.

WHY do people use their employer's computer for personal email? Open a free email account like GMail! Most email services have webmail pages.

I have a coworker who has thousands of personal emails mingled with their work emails and sometimes can't find important workplace info b/c of the volume of total messages.

Work in IT at my job.  Had a guy who went into an absolute panic after his computer blew up....his wedding pictures were on his work machine.   

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1488 on: August 30, 2019, 03:13:26 PM »
... Aaaaand now she's texting ex-colleagues, in an absolute PANIC, because her ONLY copy of the file that details her issues getting child support for her kid was (wait for it) on her work computer, worked on during work hours, not backed up, and now locked away from access by our IT department.

It has to be Friday; I freakin give up on this one.

WHY do people use their employer's computer for personal email? Open a free email account like GMail! Most email services have webmail pages.

I have a coworker who has thousands of personal emails mingled with their work emails and sometimes can't find important workplace info b/c of the volume of total messages.

Work in IT at my job.  Had a guy who went into an absolute panic after his computer blew up....his wedding pictures were on his work machine.   

Yikes, that's a tough one. I mean, it's his bad since there are a plethora of storage options for important things, like google drive, or one drive, or what have you. Hopefully he was able to reach out to the photographer. I think they are pretty diligent about backing things up for that reason.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1489 on: August 30, 2019, 04:31:43 PM »
Work in IT at my job.  Had a guy who went into an absolute panic after his computer blew up....his wedding pictures were on his work machine.   

Only logical recourse is divorce.

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« Reply #1490 on: August 30, 2019, 05:01:38 PM »
Work in IT at my job.  Had a guy who went into an absolute panic after his computer blew up....his wedding pictures were on his work machine.   

Only logical recourse is divorce.

Why? If there are no pics, it never happened :)

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1491 on: August 30, 2019, 05:48:51 PM »
... Aaaaand now she's texting ex-colleagues, in an absolute PANIC, because her ONLY copy of the file that details her issues getting child support for her kid was (wait for it) on her work computer, worked on during work hours, not backed up, and now locked away from access by our IT department.

It has to be Friday; I freakin give up on this one.

WHY do people use their employer's computer for personal email? Open a free email account like GMail! Most email services have webmail pages.

I have a coworker who has thousands of personal emails mingled with their work emails and sometimes can't find important workplace info b/c of the volume of total messages.

Work in IT at my job.  Had a guy who went into an absolute panic after his computer blew up....his wedding pictures were on his work machine.   

Yikes, that's a tough one. I mean, it's his bad since there are a plethora of storage options for important things, like google drive, or one drive, or what have you. Hopefully he was able to reach out to the photographer. I think they are pretty diligent about backing things up for that reason.

I keep most important stuff on Google Drive, but my financial spreadsheets are all on a thumb drive, since Google Sheets doesn't do the charts the same way Excel does, and I don't want to update the charts in both places. I would be so very upset if that thumb drive broke.

Literally, as I was typing that, my son reached for the thumb drive that's currently sticking out of my laptop...

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1492 on: August 31, 2019, 12:04:46 AM »
at mondays they roll the dice to decide on which day they get kidnapped.
Sunday is family day, so either you don't get kidnapped (kidnappers need a day off too) or you only get kidnapped with the whole family.

Yes I do believe this is the case bc so random through the month.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1493 on: August 31, 2019, 01:44:22 AM »


WHY do people use their employer's computer for personal email? Open a free email account like GMail! Most email services have webmail pages.

I have a coworker who has thousands of personal emails mingled with their work emails and sometimes can't find important workplace info b/c of the volume of total messages.
When I worked for a government contractor we were very cut off from the outside world on work machines. No POP email, no Google drive, etc. The only option was to either look up everything on your phone or copy yourself on work email for everything personal you wanted to do at work. There was some personal stuff I collected over the years but in the end it was mostly lower-priority and took me no more than 30min total to sort through and send home when the end came.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1494 on: August 31, 2019, 10:00:14 AM »
To be more pedantic, tax is (I guess) not the only thing you pay (if you aren't self employed).
Getting above 50% is not even that hard in Germany for example, but those mandatory payments include health and pension and unemployment (which you would otherwise had to pay after tax). That is capped though so there are areas where the effective all-% rate actually goes down.

That tax rate includes health insurance, right? Not hard for just employee-side payments to hit 10% of gross income in the USA. Not at the $500k income level, of course ;)

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1495 on: August 31, 2019, 10:48:11 AM »
If you're taking home $250,000 a year in income, quit your bitching.    You have it made.   Your take home pay puts you in the top 0.04% of income earners on the entire planet -- and that rating is comparing your take-home with their gross pay.

Be glad that you're contributing to the success of the society that enabled you to become such a success.

PS -- it's when high income earners stop contributing to the success of the entire society that the rest of society brings out the guillotines and chops off their heads.   So if altruism won't motivate you, perhaps survival will.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1496 on: August 31, 2019, 01:09:05 PM »
I keep most important stuff on Google Drive, but my financial spreadsheets are all on a thumb drive, since Google Sheets doesn't do the charts the same way Excel does, and I don't want to update the charts in both places. I would be so very upset if that thumb drive broke.

Literally, as I was typing that, my son reached for the thumb drive that's currently sticking out of my laptop...

@DadJokes:  You know you can copy your Excel files to Google Drive?  Just create a MyExcelFiles folder and copy them there whenever the spreadsheets are edited.

Even better, get a free DropBox account and have everything significant stored there, so you don't have to remember to copy to Google Drive after edits.

Please tell us that you've done this (or something similar) in your next post!

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1497 on: September 01, 2019, 12:32:42 AM »
I keep most important stuff on Google Drive, but my financial spreadsheets are all on a thumb drive, since Google Sheets doesn't do the charts the same way Excel does, and I don't want to update the charts in both places. I would be so very upset if that thumb drive broke.

Literally, as I was typing that, my son reached for the thumb drive that's currently sticking out of my laptop...

@DadJokes:  You know you can copy your Excel files to Google Drive?  Just create a MyExcelFiles folder and copy them there whenever the spreadsheets are edited.

Even better, get a free DropBox account and have everything significant stored there, so you don't have to remember to copy to Google Drive after edits.

Please tell us that you've done this (or something similar) in your next post!

Or install the Backup and Sync tool, which behaves like Dropbox in that it synchronizes your files with Google Drive automatically.

DO NOT use a thumb drive as the primary storage for files you care about. Some of these drives still have old-school non-journalled file systems, which means if your son touches the drive at the wrong moment, you could lose all your data. Not just the recent updates, but everything.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1498 on: September 02, 2019, 01:20:02 AM »
Overheard at lunch:

"We used to live in [remote suburb], but we hated the awful hour-long commute. Then we moved to [closer suburb] where the commute was only thirty minutes, but that was still too long and we couldn't stand it. So we moved to a small apartment right in the middle of downtown, where the commute was a five minute walk to the office in the morning. Now we have a kid, so our commute is an hour and a half each way from [edge of the known universe]."

As a parent raising a child in a small but very central condo, I shudder to think how much hassle it would be to live out in the sticks. I mean we'd have to drive literally everywhere! As opposed to having every imaginable service within 15 minutes on foot/bike/bus.

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Re: Overheard at Work 2
« Reply #1499 on: September 02, 2019, 06:10:51 AM »
Overheard at lunch:

"We used to live in [remote suburb], but we hated the awful hour-long commute. Then we moved to [closer suburb] where the commute was only thirty minutes, but that was still too long and we couldn't stand it. So we moved to a small apartment right in the middle of downtown, where the commute was a five minute walk to the office in the morning. Now we have a kid, so our commute is an hour and a half each way from [edge of the known universe]."

As a parent raising a child in a small but very central condo, I shudder to think how much hassle it would be to live out in the sticks. I mean we'd have to drive literally everywhere! As opposed to having every imaginable service within 15 minutes on foot/bike/bus.

CONFIRMED. As a parent who lives in the sticks (super-rural, but near family, lakes, orchards, farms, etc - there are advantages, but let's just say it was a Major Decision that was very important to my spouse), I can confirm that commuting with kids is the freakin pits, and the coordination necessary for rural living is the pits as well (no, i don't wanna drive a half hour to the nearest grocery store OR ago with 2 kids, so time Friday pickups carefully enough to do a week's groceries in 20 Minutes, and don't be late...). To do this for suburb living without family proximity... no. Ugh, WHY.

In our case, the country living and family situation makes it bearable for me, and how important it was to my spouse was the swinging vote. But omfg, people, never ever do this if it's not absolutely important for one of you. It is a LOT of work and money, there's gotta be a trade-off.