If someone is stupid enough to financially support their precious little snowflakes as adults, then they deserve what they get. No sympathy from me at all.
I share your lack of sympathy.
She is right to withhold her name out of embarrassment. She should be embarrassed because she doesn't know how to say "no."
Learning to say "no" was taught to me in elementary school when my mother noticed other kids and even other parents were trying to take advantage of my generosity. She certainly said no to me all the time when I wanted stuff, and she took the time to teach me how to say no to others in a polite but direct way. Thanks, ZamboniMom, for that valuable lesson!
My own kids now know that "no" means "no" and that they had better not ask again. I have even witnessed them explaining this to other kids who were continuing to pester their parents after they said "no."
Case in point, little boy asks for candy in the check out line. Mom says no. Boy continues to whine and carry on that he wants candy. He pulls at her arm. He jumps up and down.
Enter little Zamboni who is at eye level of little boy:
"When your Mom says "no", she really means "no." You shouldn't ask her again."
"But I reeeallly want candy!!!"
"Please just stop. You are making a fool of yourself and none of us want to hear it."
I should send him to lecture this Mom first (Just say no!) and then the daughter (No means no! Stop carrying on and straighten up. Please, really, you are embarrassing yourself.)
At the same time I try not to say no unless I really mean no. If there is room to negotiate, I ask a follow up question instead. Why do you want that? What are the other options? Have you researched this online? How do you think you could earn money for that? What advantage is there for me if I buy this for you?
And yes, plenty of subsidized rich kids do end up with plumb jobs due to their parents' connections and the fact that they don't have to struggle. Others end up as perpetual money drains. I suspect this young lady will be in the latter category.