Hi. I registered just to have a place to vent a little. It can be so painful watching others make mistakes they can't really afford!
I met "Julia" a little over a year ago. She had to move (her complex was converting to condos), so she decided to move into my apartment complex at my suggestion. Right around that time she got notification that her position at work my end. Shortly after she was let go. I feel bad for her -- she had started a side job to make a little extra money, and now that (plus unemployment) is all she has coming in. AND YET she signed up for cable! She found basic cable only had "channels she could get for free" and up-graded! I helped her move, and she complained how embarrassed she was about all the "junk" she had (mostly books) -- and yet she isn't doing anything about it. We were never close to begin with, but I have distanced myself because it is awkward for me to be around her. She will say things like "I would invite you over but my place is a mess -- still in boxes." If she cared, then do something! If she doesn't -- then invite me over anyway! Who cares what I think?
She isn't one of the brash, arrogant Consumer Suckas that I can get some schadenfreude reading about. She's quiet, unassuming and has a self-esteem problem. I don't know how to help without "lecturing"/telling her what to do/what she's doing wrong. She hasn't asked me for help. I don't think unsolicited advice would go over well, anyway. No one likes that, and I think it would just make her feel bad. She doesn't really complain about anything except how much "stuff" she has (then why not sell it? Now is the perfect time to declutter and make a little extra cash!).
I am struggling to begin my Mustache journey -- and I know I will probably not be as Bad Ass as the rest of you -- but it's both gratifying AND depressing how much further ahead I am of almost everyone I know!