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« Reply #2900 on: March 17, 2022, 07:21:18 PM »
Funny thing about that article is the poster is under the impression there will be assets to inherit. The joke could be on them if mom dies and has no assets to speak of, yet the child is left to clear out the house, close out finances, etc.

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« Reply #2901 on: March 17, 2022, 08:46:57 PM »
Funny thing about that article is the poster is under the impression there will be assets to inherit. The joke could be on them if mom dies and has no assets to speak of, yet the child is left to clear out the house, close out finances, etc.

You don't have to be the executor.  You can hire someone else to do the work or even just walk away and forget about it.


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« Reply #2902 on: March 17, 2022, 09:13:36 PM »
Yes, absolutely. However, if there are no assets to speak of, it sure wouldn’t be fun to pay out of pocket for someone else to do it for a parent you haven’t communicated with in 20 years. I guess at that point the person could just leave it to others to handle if they didn’t want to deal with it. 

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« Reply #2903 on: March 17, 2022, 09:34:31 PM »
Yes, absolutely. However, if there are no assets to speak of, it sure wouldn’t be fun to pay out of pocket for someone else to do it for a parent you haven’t communicated with in 20 years. I guess at that point the person could just leave it to others to handle if they didn’t want to deal with it.

I don't think you understood.

You can just plain walk away and have nothing to do with it.  Period.

Refuse to receive any assets you don't want.   Or, since there's none worth taking none at all.   Refuse to deal with it.  Period.

What happens then?  Not your circus, not your monkeys.

As a kindness to whomever lives nearby, you could check with a lawyer to quit-claim any and all rights to the property to the local city or county or charity, making sure that doesn't open you up to any taxes, fines, etc.   Or just let the place fall apart until the city or county condemns it.


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« Reply #2904 on: March 17, 2022, 09:55:20 PM »
I understood perfectly and even mentioned the person could just walk away and leave it to others. We’re on the same page.

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« Reply #2905 on: March 17, 2022, 10:20:59 PM »
I understood perfectly and even mentioned the person could just walk away and leave it to others. We’re on the same page.
You're absolutely right.  I misread.

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« Reply #2906 on: March 24, 2022, 10:56:53 AM »
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My sick, demented mind pronounced this as "Dotty La Twat".

I think that, after five years of having my brains licked out through my nose by the Venomous Spaz Beast, I've finally gotten eccentric enough for other people to notice.

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« Reply #2907 on: March 24, 2022, 08:37:17 PM »
TGS, I may have snorted as I laughed after reading your comment. Hilarious!

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« Reply #2908 on: March 25, 2022, 03:14:14 PM »
Awesome. I'm going to start referring to her as Dotty La Twat in my thoughts.

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« Reply #2910 on: April 01, 2022, 09:06:49 PM »
I saw that. It’s ridiculous. They all got $10,000 (or whatever) back when. Why does it matter what it’s worth today?

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« Reply #2911 on: April 03, 2022, 10:37:08 AM »
https://www.msn.com/en-us/money/personalfinance/we-re-headed-for-a-family-feud-my-father-offered-his-3-kids-equal-monetary-gifts-my-siblings-took-cash-i-took-stock-it-s-soared-in-value-now-they-re-crying-foul/ar-AAVHck1?ocid=msedgntp&cvid=849b5047f55e46ab956323ad5c89eaf9

An entitlement "Do Over" request.   Not only would I not budge, but I would openly laugh at my brothers who whined about this.

Good grief, I can't stand that attitude.  Those who don't invest somehow think of investment gains like lottery money instead of capital-at-risk.

I'm dealing with a sorta-similar attitude in my family, although it's not an inheritance issue yet.

My FIL turned out to have zero retirement plans other than working until he died.  After his wife passed, we helped him buy a house near us where he could live semi-comfortably between social security and rolling his former home's equity into an annuity.  We covered the $60K down payment on his new house with the deal that he covered the mortgage payments, but the house and the loan are in our name.  He's effectively renting from us at cost (which is well below market rates).  This has actually worked out quite well, as he can live close by, and he has a level of financial stability he didn't have before.  He also gets to spend time with the grandkids, and we have a built-in babysitter on occasion.

Enter SIL.  We just heard that SIL is insanely jealous that she doesn't get to share in the equity gains from this house when he eventually passes.  While I could care less what SIL thinks, she does have a way of creating drama with everything she touches.  I'm sure we'll be hearing about this for years to come.

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« Reply #2912 on: April 03, 2022, 01:15:10 PM »

My FIL turned out to have zero retirement plans other than working until he died.  After his wife passed, we helped him buy a house near us where he could live semi-comfortably between social security and rolling his former home's equity into an annuity.  We covered the $60K down payment on his new house with the deal that he covered the mortgage payments, but the house and the loan are in our name.  He's effectively renting from us at cost (which is well below market rates).  This has actually worked out quite well, as he can live close by, and he has a level of financial stability he didn't have before.  He also gets to spend time with the grandkids, and we have a built-in babysitter on occasion.

Enter SIL.  We just heard that SIL is insanely jealous that she doesn't get to share in the equity gains from this house when he eventually passes.  While I could care less what SIL thinks, she does have a way of creating drama with everything she touches.  I'm sure we'll be hearing about this for years to come.

Wow.   I would suggest you tell her to cough up her own cash for a down payment, buy a different house for your dad and convince him to move into it.  She can undertake the all the risk to that money if your dad doesn't keep the house up or the market is way down when it comes time to sell or rent the house.  You'll then gladly sell the house you bought with your own money or rent it to strangers for way more cash per month.   Otherwise, STFU.

Jeesh, but I just have zero patience with people like this.

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« Reply #2913 on: April 03, 2022, 01:29:38 PM »
https://www.msn.com/en-us/money/personalfinance/we-re-headed-for-a-family-feud-my-father-offered-his-3-kids-equal-monetary-gifts-my-siblings-took-cash-i-took-stock-it-s-soared-in-value-now-they-re-crying-foul/ar-AAVHck1?ocid=msedgntp&cvid=849b5047f55e46ab956323ad5c89eaf9

An entitlement "Do Over" request.   Not only would I not budge, but I would openly laugh at my brothers who whined about this.

Good grief, I can't stand that attitude.  Those who don't invest somehow think of investment gains like lottery money instead of capital-at-risk.

I'm dealing with a sorta-similar attitude in my family, although it's not an inheritance issue yet.

My FIL turned out to have zero retirement plans other than working until he died.  After his wife passed, we helped him buy a house near us where he could live semi-comfortably between social security and rolling his former home's equity into an annuity.  We covered the $60K down payment on his new house with the deal that he covered the mortgage payments, but the house and the loan are in our name.  He's effectively renting from us at cost (which is well below market rates).  This has actually worked out quite well, as he can live close by, and he has a level of financial stability he didn't have before.  He also gets to spend time with the grandkids, and we have a built-in babysitter on occasion.

Enter SIL.  We just heard that SIL is insanely jealous that she doesn't get to share in the equity gains from this house when he eventually passes.  While I could care less what SIL thinks, she does have a way of creating drama with everything she touches.  I'm sure we'll be hearing about this for years to come.

It might pay to spend the money for a couple hours with a lawyer, drawing up a contact that clearly shows he is a tenant and they he is in no way a part owner in the property or any equity.  That will make it much more difficult for SIL to try to challenge things when he passes away.  Or just have him sign an annual lease, with the rent listed as a specific dollar amount, that happens to coincide with the mortgage payment.  You can likely find a basic lease online for free or very cheap. 

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« Reply #2914 on: April 03, 2022, 04:23:47 PM »
I've also heard the IRS does not like when people rent to family members for below-market rates. When you take @Villanelle's excellent advice, be sure to run that past the professional, too.

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« Reply #2915 on: April 03, 2022, 04:50:09 PM »
I've also heard the IRS does not like when people rent to family members for below-market rates. When you take @Villanelle's excellent advice, be sure to run that past the professional, too.
Wouldn't it count as a gift, though?  As long as it's below the limits for a gift?

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« Reply #2916 on: April 03, 2022, 05:41:23 PM »
The IRS's stance doesn't make any sense . . . they own the property, and can rent it for any amount that they see fit. Or, they can own property and choose to let it sit empty, as many people do. The only way I see the IRS have any complaint is if they are trying to write off an annual loss on the property that they are intentionally renting below market value. I'm not an accountant, though, so what do I know?

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« Reply #2917 on: April 03, 2022, 09:10:28 PM »
The IRS's stance doesn't make any sense . . . they own the property, and can rent it for any amount that they see fit. Or, they can own property and choose to let it sit empty, as many people do. The only way I see the IRS have any complaint is if they are trying to write off an annual loss on the property that they are intentionally renting below market value. I'm not an accountant, though, so what do I know?

So we do have a rental contract. Both my wife and FIL are attorneys, so documenting everything was pretty natural to them.

I ran this by a tax professional as well. Essentially, they told us that we shouldn’t treat it as a rental property for tax purposes.  Although they didn’t explicitly frame it this way, I believe the gap between fair-market rent and BMR rent is too small to get into taxable gift territory, and IRS rules explicitly forbid deducting expenses when BMR rent is involved.  The IRS doesn’t want people deducting business losses on things that aren’t actually a business.

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« Reply #2918 on: April 03, 2022, 09:16:35 PM »

My FIL turned out to have zero retirement plans other than working until he died.  After his wife passed, we helped him buy a house near us where he could live semi-comfortably between social security and rolling his former home's equity into an annuity.  We covered the $60K down payment on his new house with the deal that he covered the mortgage payments, but the house and the loan are in our name.  He's effectively renting from us at cost (which is well below market rates).  This has actually worked out quite well, as he can live close by, and he has a level of financial stability he didn't have before.  He also gets to spend time with the grandkids, and we have a built-in babysitter on occasion.

Enter SIL.  We just heard that SIL is insanely jealous that she doesn't get to share in the equity gains from this house when he eventually passes.  While I could care less what SIL thinks, she does have a way of creating drama with everything she touches.  I'm sure we'll be hearing about this for years to come.

Wow.   I would suggest you tell her to cough up her own cash for a down payment, buy a different house for your dad and convince him to move into it.  She can undertake the all the risk to that money if your dad doesn't keep the house up or the market is way down when it comes time to sell or rent the house.  You'll then gladly sell the house you bought with your own money or rent it to strangers for way more cash per month.   Otherwise, STFU.

Jeesh, but I just have zero patience with people like this.

Even better, we had asked SIL to contribute to the house or moving expenses when he was moving. She refused at the time, as she claimed to not have the money at the time.

With the benefit of hindsight, I am incredibly grateful she said no, as I’d hate to be in any type of business relationship with her.

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« Reply #2919 on: April 03, 2022, 10:07:11 PM »

My FIL turned out to have zero retirement plans other than working until he died.  After his wife passed, we helped him buy a house near us where he could live semi-comfortably between social security and rolling his former home's equity into an annuity.  We covered the $60K down payment on his new house with the deal that he covered the mortgage payments, but the house and the loan are in our name.  He's effectively renting from us at cost (which is well below market rates).  This has actually worked out quite well, as he can live close by, and he has a level of financial stability he didn't have before.  He also gets to spend time with the grandkids, and we have a built-in babysitter on occasion.

Enter SIL.  We just heard that SIL is insanely jealous that she doesn't get to share in the equity gains from this house when he eventually passes.  While I could care less what SIL thinks, she does have a way of creating drama with everything she touches.  I'm sure we'll be hearing about this for years to come.

Wow.   I would suggest you tell her to cough up her own cash for a down payment, buy a different house for your dad and convince him to move into it.  She can undertake the all the risk to that money if your dad doesn't keep the house up or the market is way down when it comes time to sell or rent the house.  You'll then gladly sell the house you bought with your own money or rent it to strangers for way more cash per month.   Otherwise, STFU.

Jeesh, but I just have zero patience with people like this.

Even better, we had asked SIL to contribute to the house or moving expenses when he was moving. She refused at the time, as she claimed to not have the money at the time.

With the benefit of hindsight, I am incredibly grateful she said no, as I’d hate to be in any type of business relationship with her.

Sweet!

I don't blame you at all!

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« Reply #2920 on: April 04, 2022, 02:29:43 AM »

My FIL turned out to have zero retirement plans other than working until he died.  After his wife passed, we helped him buy a house near us where he could live semi-comfortably between social security and rolling his former home's equity into an annuity.  We covered the $60K down payment on his new house with the deal that he covered the mortgage payments, but the house and the loan are in our name.  He's effectively renting from us at cost (which is well below market rates).  This has actually worked out quite well, as he can live close by, and he has a level of financial stability he didn't have before.  He also gets to spend time with the grandkids, and we have a built-in babysitter on occasion.

Enter SIL.  We just heard that SIL is insanely jealous that she doesn't get to share in the equity gains from this house when he eventually passes.  While I could care less what SIL thinks, she does have a way of creating drama with everything she touches.  I'm sure we'll be hearing about this for years to come.

Wow.   I would suggest you tell her to cough up her own cash for a down payment, buy a different house for your dad and convince him to move into it.  She can undertake the all the risk to that money if your dad doesn't keep the house up or the market is way down when it comes time to sell or rent the house.  You'll then gladly sell the house you bought with your own money or rent it to strangers for way more cash per month.   Otherwise, STFU.

Jeesh, but I just have zero patience with people like this.

Even better, we had asked SIL to contribute to the house or moving expenses when he was moving. She refused at the time, as she claimed to not have the money at the time.

With the benefit of hindsight, I am incredibly grateful she said no, as I’d hate to be in any type of business relationship with her.

Sweet!

I don't blame you at all!
bib is the perfect answer to any future griping from SIL about wanting a cut.

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« Reply #2921 on: April 04, 2022, 09:19:37 AM »
@former player, what the heck is bib?

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« Reply #2922 on: April 04, 2022, 11:23:08 AM »

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« Reply #2923 on: April 04, 2022, 11:27:09 AM »
Oh, that's such a responsible definition of bib.

I was guessing "bring it, bitch." So then I thought, no, former player would never be so crass, we must search urban dictionary!

Which led to:
Bib
A coward. Someone who won't take risks. They have no nuts and their scrotum is nothing but a bib for their penis.

OMG, I loooove learning!

 

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« Reply #2924 on: April 04, 2022, 02:43:10 PM »
Oh, that's such a responsible definition of bib.

I was guessing "bring it, bitch." So then I thought, no, former player would never be so crass, we must search urban dictionary!

Which led to:
Bib
A coward. Someone who won't take risks. They have no nuts and their scrotum is nothing but a bib for their penis.

OMG, I loooove learning!

That is funny!

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« Reply #2925 on: April 04, 2022, 03:10:53 PM »
@former player, what the heck is bib?
bit in bold

I reread the bit in bold in the previous post several times trying to figure out what bib meant.  When I finally figured it out, I felt like the star idiot in a far side cartoon. MMM Forum...keeping me humble!

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« Reply #2926 on: April 07, 2022, 10:21:15 AM »
The IRS's stance doesn't make any sense . . . they own the property, and can rent it for any amount that they see fit. Or, they can own property and choose to let it sit empty, as many people do. The only way I see the IRS have any complaint is if they are trying to write off an annual loss on the property that they are intentionally renting below market value. I'm not an accountant, though, so what do I know?

So we do have a rental contract. Both my wife and FIL are attorneys, so documenting everything was pretty natural to them.

I ran this by a tax professional as well. Essentially, they told us that we shouldn’t treat it as a rental property for tax purposes.  Although they didn’t explicitly frame it this way, I believe the gap between fair-market rent and BMR rent is too small to get into taxable gift territory, and IRS rules explicitly forbid deducting expenses when BMR rent is involved.  The IRS doesn’t want people deducting business losses on things that aren’t actually a business.

Yeah, the last bit -- we bought a house for my BIL to live in, and he pays rent sometimes, when he can. (To be clear, we're fine with that: the goal was to get him safely housed.) At the advice of our tax professional, we don't treat it as a rental property, as what he's paying is pretty far below market rates.

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« Reply #2927 on: April 07, 2022, 05:27:22 PM »
The IRS's stance doesn't make any sense . . . they own the property, and can rent it for any amount that they see fit. Or, they can own property and choose to let it sit empty, as many people do. The only way I see the IRS have any complaint is if they are trying to write off an annual loss on the property that they are intentionally renting below market value. I'm not an accountant, though, so what do I know?

So we do have a rental contract. Both my wife and FIL are attorneys, so documenting everything was pretty natural to them.

I ran this by a tax professional as well. Essentially, they told us that we shouldn’t treat it as a rental property for tax purposes.  Although they didn’t explicitly frame it this way, I believe the gap between fair-market rent and BMR rent is too small to get into taxable gift territory, and IRS rules explicitly forbid deducting expenses when BMR rent is involved.  The IRS doesn’t want people deducting business losses on things that aren’t actually a business.

Yeah, the last bit -- we bought a house for my BIL to live in, and he pays rent sometimes, when he can. (To be clear, we're fine with that: the goal was to get him safely housed.) At the advice of our tax professional, we don't treat it as a rental property, as what he's paying is pretty far below market rates.

This is quite interesting to me, no experience with it. Got a couple inquiries.

So the money he is able to pay is basically just like a gift?

How does insurance work? If he has renter’s insurance (doesn’t seem likely with what you posted,  but assume anyway) and you have normal homeowners, is there a potential for a problem if something happens?

Thanks.


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« Reply #2928 on: April 07, 2022, 05:43:55 PM »
We do something similar as jeninco for a family member of ours. In our case the person does not pay any rent, ever, but they do pay utilities. Our insurer covers the property as if it’s a rental property, even though they know it is not. We have a written “occupancy agreement” that we worked with an attorney to draw up and our family member is required to keep a renters policy for their contents. We drew up the occupancy agreement so that it is clear we can still access the property at any time and to also make it binding in that no one else is permitted to live there aside from our relative and her one small dog.

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« Reply #2929 on: April 07, 2022, 08:39:35 PM »
Thanks. This must be common enough that insurers have a page on it.

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« Reply #2930 on: April 08, 2022, 10:03:23 PM »
The IRS's stance doesn't make any sense . . . they own the property, and can rent it for any amount that they see fit. Or, they can own property and choose to let it sit empty, as many people do. The only way I see the IRS have any complaint is if they are trying to write off an annual loss on the property that they are intentionally renting below market value. I'm not an accountant, though, so what do I know?

So we do have a rental contract. Both my wife and FIL are attorneys, so documenting everything was pretty natural to them.

I ran this by a tax professional as well. Essentially, they told us that we shouldn’t treat it as a rental property for tax purposes.  Although they didn’t explicitly frame it this way, I believe the gap between fair-market rent and BMR rent is too small to get into taxable gift territory, and IRS rules explicitly forbid deducting expenses when BMR rent is involved.  The IRS doesn’t want people deducting business losses on things that aren’t actually a business.

Yeah, the last bit -- we bought a house for my BIL to live in, and he pays rent sometimes, when he can. (To be clear, we're fine with that: the goal was to get him safely housed.) At the advice of our tax professional, we don't treat it as a rental property, as what he's paying is pretty far below market rates.

This is quite interesting to me, no experience with it. Got a couple inquiries.

So the money he is able to pay is basically just like a gift?

How does insurance work? If he has renter’s insurance (doesn’t seem likely with what you posted,  but assume anyway) and you have normal homeowners, is there a potential for a problem if something happens?

Thanks.

The way to think about it is a categorization issue. This type of property will be categorized differently depending on who’s looking at it. An insurance company will think of it like a rental property and insure it as such. The IRS will say “it’s not a business” (which is what they really care about). I don’t even recall how the mortgage broker classified it, but I seem to remember they were looking into categorizing it as a primary residence, since my FIL was involved in the purchase decision.

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« Reply #2931 on: April 11, 2022, 12:06:23 PM »
The IRS's stance doesn't make any sense . . . they own the property, and can rent it for any amount that they see fit. Or, they can own property and choose to let it sit empty, as many people do. The only way I see the IRS have any complaint is if they are trying to write off an annual loss on the property that they are intentionally renting below market value. I'm not an accountant, though, so what do I know?

So we do have a rental contract. Both my wife and FIL are attorneys, so documenting everything was pretty natural to them.

I ran this by a tax professional as well. Essentially, they told us that we shouldn’t treat it as a rental property for tax purposes.  Although they didn’t explicitly frame it this way, I believe the gap between fair-market rent and BMR rent is too small to get into taxable gift territory, and IRS rules explicitly forbid deducting expenses when BMR rent is involved.  The IRS doesn’t want people deducting business losses on things that aren’t actually a business.

Yeah, the last bit -- we bought a house for my BIL to live in, and he pays rent sometimes, when he can. (To be clear, we're fine with that: the goal was to get him safely housed.) At the advice of our tax professional, we don't treat it as a rental property, as what he's paying is pretty far below market rates.

This is quite interesting to me, no experience with it. Got a couple inquiries.

So the money he is able to pay is basically just like a gift?

How does insurance work? If he has renter’s insurance (doesn’t seem likely with what you posted,  but assume anyway) and you have normal homeowners, is there a potential for a problem if something happens?

Thanks.

The way to think about it is a categorization issue. This type of property will be categorized differently depending on who’s looking at it. An insurance company will think of it like a rental property and insure it as such. The IRS will say “it’s not a business” (which is what they really care about). I don’t even recall how the mortgage broker classified it, but I seem to remember they were looking into categorizing it as a primary residence, since my FIL was involved in the purchase decision.

Yeah, probably this. I blessed the arrangement in the first place, but MrInCO takes care of the details. I think the IRS probably doesn't care, as long as we're not claiming that it's a business thing.

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« Reply #2932 on: April 16, 2022, 11:42:34 AM »
^^^ I suspect it should be treated like a vacation/second home.  If you itemize you can deduct property taxes and mortgage interest (subject to SALT limitations) but nothing else.  When you sell, you'll owe regular capital gains tax.

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« Reply #2933 on: April 21, 2022, 02:47:37 PM »
I'm curious about this, too, as we may be in a similar situation in the future. Do you report the rent as "additional income" and pay income tax on the whole amount (no deductions)?

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« Reply #2934 on: April 21, 2022, 05:26:38 PM »
^Not a tax professional here, but I can't imagine why you would claim it as income if a family member is paying part of a mortgage on a home you own. Especially if you are letting them stay in your house for below market value, on paper it would likely come out as a net loss if it was treated as rental income (remember there are things like depreciation on appliances, maintenance costs, etc. that landlords can write off as deductions.)

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« Reply #2935 on: April 21, 2022, 06:09:57 PM »
^Not a tax professional here, but I can't imagine why you would claim it as income if a family member is paying part of a mortgage on a home you own. Especially if you are letting them stay in your house for below market value, on paper it would likely come out as a net loss if it was treated as rental income (remember there are things like depreciation on appliances, maintenance costs, etc. that landlords can write off as deductions.)

If it's treated as a business, the IRS will tax them on what they SHOULD HAVE charged for rent instead of what they actually are charging for rent.   And that's fair because if they are renting it out at well below market value, it's a family charity thing instead of a business, i.e., it would be a sham business if they treated it as one.

Only a tax accountant could tell them which option would be better dollar-wise.

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« Reply #2936 on: April 25, 2022, 04:11:04 PM »
^Not a tax professional here, but I can't imagine why you would claim it as income if a family member is paying part of a mortgage on a home you own. Especially if you are letting them stay in your house for below market value, on paper it would likely come out as a net loss if it was treated as rental income (remember there are things like depreciation on appliances, maintenance costs, etc. that landlords can write off as deductions.)

If it's treated as a business, the IRS will tax them on what they SHOULD HAVE charged for rent instead of what they actually are charging for rent.   And that's fair because if they are renting it out at well below market value, it's a family charity thing instead of a business, i.e., it would be a sham business if they treated it as one.

Only a tax accountant could tell them which option would be better dollar-wise.

Haha, yes. MrInCO had a long conversation with our tax accountant about how to handle it, so I assume we're all on the up-and-up (because those two are SUCH crazy rule-followers).

I pay the utilities -- the family member has only SSDI income to use for his other expenses.

It's interesting, because it sounds in writing like we're totally being taken advantage of, but we went into this eyes wide open, the family member has done his level best to hold up his end of the deal, and we're comfortable with making sure that he's housed and warm (as opposed to dying of exposure on the street during a depressive episode). To forcibly drag this somewhat back nearer the original topic, MrInCO's dad left a little $ to be used to care for this family member who has declined to spend it so far.  I guess it's not "drama" if we don't make it into some, though!

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« Reply #2937 on: April 25, 2022, 09:39:46 PM »
I guess it's not "drama" if we don't make it into some, though!

It’s actually kind of refreshing to hear your story after the many examples of selfish and short-sighted behavior. Your family member is fortunate to have people so thoughtful and caring.

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« Reply #2938 on: July 25, 2022, 09:54:32 AM »
Those of you who subscribe to The Chronicle of Higher Education can get a deep dive via its front page today:

https://www.chronicle.com/article/a-priest-a-dress-a-college-oh-my

Everyone else will have to settle for this:

https://wtop.com/dc/2022/05/judge-forces-catholic-university-to-halt-auction-of-wizard-of-oz-dress/

Basically, the niece of the priest who was CUA's president at the time contends that the dress was her uncle's personal property and that she therefore deserves to inherit as his oldest surviving descendant. This claim has temporarily stopped the sale of the dress at auction, intended to raise money for the university's drama program.

The university has countered with documentation stating that clergy sign vows of poverty and therefore own no personal property. They add that many former staff and students recall the president's representing the dress as owned by the university when he showed it to them. Twenty-seven members of the niece's extended family have also signed a letter insisting that the dress belongs to CUA.

From the Chronicle article:

"Even if Barbara Hartke did have claim to the dress, as Catholic’s lawyers point out, 'her claim to the estate can only be (at most) one-fifth, so to satisfy her interests, the dress would need to be sold.' Hartke had six siblings, five with living descendants."

Greed knows no time.

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« Reply #2939 on: July 25, 2022, 10:30:45 AM »
Somewhat odd that he didn't have a will.  I wonder if that was kind of "never got around to it" or if it was because he considered himself to own nothing. 

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« Reply #2940 on: July 26, 2022, 08:31:42 PM »
Somewhat odd that he didn't have a will.  I wonder if that was kind of "never got around to it" or if it was because he considered himself to own nothing.

I've been doing a bit of reading on the Catholic vow of poverty (primarily The Journal of Catholic Legal Studies) - and it turns out to be rather complex, including whether it is a "simple" or "solemn" vow (the latter being more restrictive.) The need for a will and a "patrimony" (basically a trust where an inheritance is held either in case of leaving the priesthood/monastery/etc or for relatives to inherit) is emphasized. It's also noted that legal contracts should be drawn up for transfer of property, not just a religious vow.

If the vow isn't a legal contract and there is no will, I can definitely see the argument that possessions should be distributed to family members per the laws of the state in question.

Not claiming that's how it will shake out, just that there does seem to be grounds for the argument being made.

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« Reply #2941 on: July 26, 2022, 09:26:14 PM »
https://www.washingtonpost.com/dc-md-va/2022/05/13/dorothy-dress-wizard-oz-lawsuit/

This article from the Washington Post seems to say that Fr. Hartke passed the dress along to someone else while he was still alive. If that's correct, then even it it was a gift to him personally, it wasn't part of his estate.

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« Reply #2942 on: July 27, 2022, 09:15:26 AM »
That does seem to tip the balance toward the Church. Hard to judge for sure without getting validated evidence, witnesses, etc.

Anyway, it was interesting looking into how complex the question of a vow of poverty can be.

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« Reply #2943 on: July 27, 2022, 08:06:08 PM »
That does seem to tip the balance toward the Church. Hard to judge for sure without getting validated evidence, witnesses, etc.

Anyway, it was interesting looking into how complex the question of a vow of poverty can be.

Yes, sort of like my later in life Aha observation moment when I realized "Non Profit" does not mean "no money is involved".

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« Reply #2944 on: July 31, 2022, 07:42:07 PM »
I am light on details because I really didn't want to delve deeper, and even if I had, I wouldn't trust the info anyway.

20+ years ago, FIL moved in with his mother (GMIL) because of her failing house. He cared for her for ~10 years and took care of all house maintenance and repairs in exchange for getting to live in the house until he died.

10 years ago she moved in with her daughter (sister of FIL). Aunt makes noises every so often about how FIL should move out so they can sell the house.

GMIL dies a month ago. FIL has a will saying he can live in the house. Aunt has a newer will saying it should be sold. FIL was never told about the newer will and has put significant money into the house (somewhat stupidly IMO).

Now aunt is forcing FIL to buy or move, and FiL says aunt is dead to him. And is apparently buying the house for around 100k.

The whole thing is just messy messy messy. I assume both sides are to blame - FIL for assuming a 20 year old deal was still good with nothing to back it up (looking in it was obvious how this would go), and Aunt for possibly influencing the will.

Of course the other factor is that it would make sense for a 75 year old who lives alone to buy a condo instead of a 3 story (with basement) house in the Cleveland snow belt.....

And selfishly when FIL dies this house will now be our problem to empty and sell instead of someone else's!

Stay tuned for chapters 2 and 3, featuring MIL and my GPA, both of whom have similar arrangements about staying in a house after a spouse dies. Hopefully theirs are better legally defined.

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« Reply #2945 on: July 31, 2022, 08:34:32 PM »

And selfishly when FIL dies this house will now be our problem to empty and sell instead of someone else's!


Doesn’t have to be. Start working on spouse now to simply refuse the whole deal.

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« Reply #2946 on: August 01, 2022, 02:21:49 AM »

And selfishly when FIL dies this house will now be our problem to empty and sell instead of someone else's!


Doesn’t have to be. Start working on spouse now to simply refuse the whole deal.
If FIL dies while still living in the house then somebody has to empty and sell it.  If not the nearest relatives, then it probably gets turned over to a house clearance company who will charge a lot and maybe make even more depending on what's in the house.  Is that a better outcome?  It's certainly not the mustachian one.

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« Reply #2947 on: August 01, 2022, 08:34:00 AM »

And selfishly when FIL dies this house will now be our problem to empty and sell instead of someone else's!


Doesn’t have to be. Start working on spouse now to simply refuse the whole deal.
If FIL dies while still living in the house then somebody has to empty and sell it.  If not the nearest relatives, then it probably gets turned over to a house clearance company who will charge a lot and maybe make even more depending on what's in the house.  Is that a better outcome?  It's certainly not the mustachian one.

I dunno.  Mustacianism, to me, is being able to opt out of dealing with crap because I don't need the money. 

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« Reply #2948 on: August 01, 2022, 08:45:17 AM »

And selfishly when FIL dies this house will now be our problem to empty and sell instead of someone else's!


Doesn’t have to be. Start working on spouse now to simply refuse the whole deal.
If FIL dies while still living in the house then somebody has to empty and sell it.  If not the nearest relatives, then it probably gets turned over to a house clearance company who will charge a lot and maybe make even more depending on what's in the house.  Is that a better outcome?  It's certainly not the mustachian one.

I dunno.  Mustacianism, to me, is being able to opt out of dealing with crap because I don't need the money.
If it's your nearest relatives who have died and you are a responsible member of society then it is your "crap" to dealing with, rather than throwing a tantrum and saying "won't" and hoping someone else (who did you have in mind?) will deal with it - or just you could just leave the house and contents to rot, I suppose.

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« Reply #2949 on: August 01, 2022, 09:51:11 AM »

And selfishly when FIL dies this house will now be our problem to empty and sell instead of someone else's!


Doesn’t have to be. Start working on spouse now to simply refuse the whole deal.
If FIL dies while still living in the house then somebody has to empty and sell it.  If not the nearest relatives, then it probably gets turned over to a house clearance company who will charge a lot and maybe make even more depending on what's in the house.  Is that a better outcome?  It's certainly not the mustachian one.

I dunno.  Mustacianism, to me, is being able to opt out of dealing with crap because I don't need the money.
If it's your nearest relatives who have died and you are a responsible member of society then it is your "crap" to dealing with, rather than throwing a tantrum and saying "won't" and hoping someone else (who did you have in mind?) will deal with it - or just you could just leave the house and contents to rot, I suppose.

In this case, I'd leave it to aunt who wanted it so badly.  Or to the local fire department to use for training.

In my own case, I've told my parents on several occasions that I will, under no circumstances, deal with their timeshares.  I will turn it down.  As will, I assume, my brother.  At that point, it's up to the timeshare company's lawyers to deal with.