Maybe I shouldn't post this, but wanted to rant somewhere. My mother currently lives in my brother's house along with my sister. Sister has not been working due to COVID (though to be honest there have been stretches of time she has been unemployed). Mom pays for groceries and some bills to contribute. However brother says that he and his daughter pretty much just eat out, make their own food etc rather than eat that food. My mother is older, has some health conditions, but is not an invalid. She does not follow medical advice for eating healthier and getting more physical activity. She stopped driving (she never liked driving). She gave her car to my sister who drives it. The last couple times I noticed my Mom kind of orders my sister around and makes a lot of unnecessary requests. She also wants sister to be constantly available, to drop whatever she is doing to do errands, make her food at non meal times, or make a new or different food even though there is food to eat, etc. It is a huge time suck. My sister since she moved in, has not been financially contributing to the household. So my sister and Mom are now saying hat "taking care of Mom" is her job now, and she shouldn't be expected to get a job or contribute otherwise to the household. This is a big sore spot for my brother. He's the only one paying the mortgage (or paying for, doing repairs to house, etc). In response, my mother is now saying, well when she dies she will give a bigger share of inheritance to sister to compensate her for her time. I find this problematic on a number of fronts. One, it isn't fair to my brother who is, objectively helping my mother as much if not more, by essentially giving her a free place to live. Two because Mom doesn't pay rent, my sister also doesn't feel obligated to. Third I feel that my mother is using promise of inheritance to treat my sister as an indentured servant. 4th, this may place sis in a financially precarious situation; there is no guarantee any money will be left by the time she passes, and every year that this goes on, is less income sis has made on her own or social security benefits she has accrued. I can already see the resentment if it is less than what she expects. It's not great for Mom, as she has becomes less capable and more needy. I suggested if Mom needs help, that she schedules with sis, times say 2-3x a week to do errands, etc, and that they are consolidated. Also, That sis gets paid a certain amount for helping her (10-20 an hour). The payment will allow sis to have money for herself or to contribute to the household. I believe it will reduce the amount of time Mom takes of my sister's time, as there is an actual value placed on it. Neither Mom nor sis want to do that (different reasons). Any suggestions? My brother is talking about at some point selling his house and moving to an apartment in a few years, which would also "solve" the problem.