Grandma bitterly complained about having someone clean her house. She hated the invasion of privacy.
Ahh, Grandmas. My grandma would clean before the cleaning person came (when she got to ill to take care of things herself a year before she died) because she didn't want to be "embarrassed" by her dirty home. In fact, the person she ended up keeping on was the only person that cleaned well enough that she stopped this, and wouldn't also clean afterwards.
I loved her, but she never understood why I'd prefer to read a book than to help out cooking like my sister. My grandfather did though. No surprise that I became a lawyer like my grandfather. :)
See, I think this is a case of ignorance of bliss. Perhaps you don't realize when I say that my husband does NO CLEANING, I really mean NO CLEANING. Example: I met my husband 5.5 years ago, when he had been in his current condo 5 years. He had NEVER ONCE cleaned his shower in those five years. There is lowering standards, and then there is living in filth. I hope we all agree that while standards may vary, NO CLEANING is not appropriate either. It has some pretty significant negative health repercussions, which is very un-mustachian with long-term consequences.
Ew-- but, that's my cultural background speaking. Modern sewer systems have a much bigger health impact than anything else we've discovered or invented in our entire history. Until very recently, daily showering was just not done. I've encountered a few bathrooms that likely hadn't been cleaned in a long time, and the people who live in them are not suffering any adverse health effects. Their health problems related to sedentary living and a high-sugar/ HFCS diet, not a dirty shower. Not even dirty dishes.
I read an article about tubs being worse than toilets, because people will clean toilets (thinking of them as "dirty" due to their function, but won't clean tubs as much and therefore, tubs are actually more a breeding ground for bad bacteria. In any event, that was one example, I can spout off more - like how he used to leave the faucet running slightly for the cat and the sink was filled with cat hair. Or that he ate takeout (very healthy habits!) every day rather than have to shop, cook or clean up.
I don't know if my husband has ever cleaned a shower in his life. We were young when we met, and I didn't try even asking him to help clean the bathroom more than once or twice. I assume your husband, like mine, has many other admirable qualities. One time, I caught him cleaning the toilet. He just wanted to do something nice for me. I took a picture.
He cleaned the tub once for me when I was having a very bad day, about a year or two ago. I still remember it fondly. :)
I met mine at age 33, a bit old for teaching new habits apparently. His mom gets mad at him a little bit for this, because she was a single mom and she swears she didn't raise him this way.
He does indeed have many other great qualities, which is why I am with him. But it does remain the main source of strife in our household. And I remain puzzled why if I said I was going to therapy to resolve our marital issues, that would be accepted way faster on here than a cleaning service. Apparently I should just let the problem fester and get worse, reaching emergency crisis point.