This thread has an interesting dichotomy. Multiple posters piled on to Mom of 5 for wanting to protect her daughter from sexual behavior/advances that might be detrimental to her well being, and then it turned into a debate about the prevalance of rape in college and the military, which would seem to imply that maybe young women/teenage girls need more support and (dare I say it?) protection than they are currently getting.
Read the article, that was NOT the conclusion by the researchers. Actually most researchers found that the young people (men and women) that are "protected" and do not learn to handle themselves are the most targeted victims. And really what needs to happen is these rapists need to be charged, convicted and jailed for an extremely long period of time, not a couple years, if that.
Can you please direct me to the page and paragraph that talks about parenting? I searched for it and couldn't find it. I also did an automated search for the word "parent" and there was only one match and that was for how they controlled for sample size. Based on that, I think you are drawing your own unsupported conclusions.
Also, the concept of teaching your kids to handle themselves well and screening their romantic interests aren't mutually exclusive. It's possible to do both, or neither.
This thread has an interesting dichotomy. Multiple posters piled on to Mom of 5 for wanting to protect her daughter from sexual behavior/advances that might be detrimental to her well being, and then it turned into a debate about the prevalance of rape in college and the military, which would seem to imply that maybe young women/teenage girls need more support and (dare I say it?) protection than they are currently getting.
I think the reason they "piled on" was because she presented a viewpoint that high school (and college?) girls are delicate snowflakes who need to be protected from all those aggressive boys with only one thing on their mind. That view was wrong in 1950 and it's wrong today. It suggests that women need to be babied and men need to be viewed with suspicion from puberty onwards because you never know which one of us is out looking to rape someone.
I'm probably one of the youngest posters on this board. I graduated HS in 2010. An equal number of boys and girls knew exactly what they were doing regarding sexual activity.
I went to high school too and it wasn't in the 1950's. What I remember is the kids whose parents were involved made better decisions, on average, than those whose parents weren't. It's possible for parents to take things too far, of course, and be over controlling, but in general parents have more wisdom than their 16 year olds do. Therefore, they get a say in who their kids date, associate with, what activities they take part in, and what time they need to be home by.
The gender equality posters piled on because Mom to 5 isn't raising her kids the way THEY think she should. Does anybody see the double standard there? Maybe instead they could give her the benefit of the doubt, since she is a woman, and a mom, raising daughters, that maybe she isn't looking to repress herself or anybody else, and is instead truly looking out for her daughter's best interests in a balanced way.