It's interesting that these people all seem to assume that the man chose to have this wedding and the woman had no say in it. If you have it firmly in your head that a wedding is a celebration of a woman's worth, then the idea of instead turning your wedding into something that is not all about those two specific people could be somewhat jarring. I would go so far as to say that I believe these people are correct to a certain extent, insofar as if one party did push the wedding in a certain direction and ignore the feelings and wishes of the other, the other probably would be pretty upset and hurt then and in the years to come. But I think it's pretty likely that the original couple DID both choose to do this particular thing with their wedding and are happy about it.