What do you mean you don't believe in the concept of role models? You don't personally follow any role models at any point in your life (I find that difficult to believe)? Or you don't think anyone should model their own life based off of another person?
I don't know if anyone "should" or not.
I haven't (though that's apparently difficult to believe? Up until this moment I though "role models" were things people talked about in theory, but no one actually tried to live like some other specific person or emulate them; you're making me question that), so I guess maybe I just don't really understand it?
MMM is a role model. Many here try to emulate him. Not everything he does, but a lot of what he does. The same can be said for a ton of other people. My father also has some great qualities, and I like to think that over my life time I have picked up on that and emulated his best and most outstanding qualities, and in turn that has made me a better person. I don't model every aspect of my life to mimic any one person, but I definitely aspire to be like many different people in certain ways, because those people are better than me in those ways.
I also have a hard time believing that whatever your kids choose is fine by you. I mean, sure you will love them no matter what, but you honestly have no preference between them choosing to be upstanding and honest citizens, or heroin addicted serial killers? You wouldn't perhaps try to intervene and guide them towards the type of person that will be happier, more productive, and more of a benefit to society?
Of course I'll try to guide them, to what I think will be the most beneficial life for them and everyone else. That doesn't mean I'm not okay with them making other choices.
Are you really planning to dictate your child's life and then be upset when they make other choices? (Not trying to straw man, but that's what it sounds like, crazy as it seems to me.)
I'm not going to dictate their life, but I may be upset at some of the choices they make. I won't be upset if they decide to be an art major instead of an engineer, or if they are gay (yes I realize this isn't a choice), or decide they want to live on a farm in ohio - they can do what they please, it's their life and I will be happy for them. However, if they choose to steal money, shoot heroin, and murder people then yes I will be very disappointed in the decisions they made. And if that is the path they are going down I will actively try to steer them towards what I think is right. But most of all I will try and be the best person I can possibly be, and I will lead by example. I will try to be the kind of person that makes them want to model their life and values after my own.