I was talking with some friends about family dynamics not long ago. At one point in the conversation, a friend who has the reputation as the most frugal person in our group casually mentioned that she gave her sibling a generous, 5-figure loan for a car purchase. I personally would not have divulged such news, because as soon as she was out of earshot everyone else started buzzing with disbelief. No one praised her generosity, or said how great it is that she and her sibling get along. They were too aghast at the fact that our friend had that. much. money. to think about anything else.