I know a woman (not going to call her a lady) that decided to divorce her husband so when he was at work one day she went in with a moving truck and took everything but a couple of cheap plastic chairs and a package of toilet paper. The husband didn't even fight her for any possessions in court and she still complained that she had some joint bills to pay. How do you leave someone you once loved without a bed to sleep on?
You don't treat animals that way, it's disgusting.
My ex did that to me too, after nearly 20 years of marriage.
I'm so sorry to hear it... I hope you are better.
This discussion reminded me of another crazy divorce story, and the things some people are willing to do for money:
A and L met and got married during college. She supported him by working while he went through pre-med, then followed him to the Midwest later in his studies (they're from the Northeast). At this point, he was the breadwinner through his residency. She did her MBA (she had been accepted to every MBA she applied for, including more desirable ones, but this was the only city they could go to together) and they had two kids.
At this point, in their early thirties, they started rolling in the dough (he was making half a mil or so in a medical practice; she was making something like 70k in her business career). Unfortunately, he also started dating his 10-year-younger secretary, and soon filed for divorce.
While A was struggling with trying to imagine how to split the kids' time (she wanted them to have both parents in their lives), he approached her with this proposal, drafted with his lawyer: if she renounced any kind of alimony and left him the house, he would leave her the kids except for one weekend a month. If she demanded either alimony or house equity, however, he would ask to have the kids half of the time.
At that point, A decided that it was not so important to ensure that the kids see a father who was willing to sell them... Given the details I gave about their past, there is no doubt that without a prenup, she would have been granted some compensation in court, but she didn't want a legal battle with her ex, so she took his deal. She's making plenty enough by herself anyway. The kids don't know the story at this point, but I have no doubt they'll figure it out sooner or later--their father is not shy to mention it, half of their friends know how he "worked his way out of a bad situation from not having a prenup," and how he thinks that "it's better for kids to be raised by a woman anyway, seeing their father once a month is plenty before they're grown up." This is coming out of nowhere, too, he was always a little flashy but not callous...
I always wonder what is the relation of children to parents who did this to their family.