So I'm a long ways away from FIRE. I've got a net worth of $250k between house equity and whatnot. I was talking to a few family members over lunch. They mentioned that a friend of ours who had retired within the last year, was just diagnosed with cancer. They started talking about how it seemed to be common for people to work their entire life, retire, and then get major illness almost immediately. I used that as a segway to mention that my plan is to retire early, so that I can spend more time with my family and doing what I want. They seemed very confused. The conversation went something like:
Them: "So, what are you going to do with all of your free time?"
Me: "Uh, whatever I want. That's kind of the point. I'd like to spend more time with my kids, and I'd like to do things that are enjoyable to me and provide value to me and others."
Them: "So, you want to be a bum?"
Me: "If spending time with my family and doing meaningful things makes me a bum, then yes."
Them: "Won't you be bored?"
Me: "Are you two bored?" (They are both SAHMs)
Them: "That's totally different."
Me: "Look, I'm not saying that it's a done deal, there is a long time between now and 13 years, but if we live a semi-frugal life, we should have enough that the money will be self-sustaining by then and never run out."
Them: "So you're going to live in a box?"
Me: "No. I'm going to live in my current house (or a comparable one). We might cut down to driving a single car or something else like that."
Them: "You can't just have 1 car! You and your wife will be fighting for it constantly!"
Me: "Well, our second car costs us $3k a year. Using the 25x rule, that means that to finance a second car, we will need to save $75k additional dollars in our retirement. I don't know about you, but I don't want to work an extra year or two at my job, just so that I don't have to share with my wife."
Them: "Oh, that would totally be worth it."
Me: "You're telling me that you would trade two 4000 hours of your life, just so that you wouldn't have to share a car?"
Them: "Yes, that is exactly what I'm telling you."
Anyways, I eventually conceded that I may or may not continue to work, but that once I hit my FIRE date/time, I would most likely start a job consulting. The idea being that as my own business, I can work as much or as little as I want. If I make a profit, great. If I don't, well I had enough to live off anyways, so oops." I don't know if that is really my plan or not, but I figure at 13 years out, I can claim that as my plan for now.
I just don't get what's so hard to understand about it. I know that these are the same types of conversations others have had, but I guess I figured my family would be a little more open to it than others. I know that most of them are on good financial ground, so calling enough is enough seems like it would be on peoples minds.