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Who have you spent the most time with?
« on: April 29, 2016, 01:43:23 PM »
Bear with me as I ramble here:

Pulling numbers out of nowhere for an imaginary person:

5 years old: You've probably spent most of your life in the care of your parents (a parent), maybe a babysitter or extended family member.

18 years old: Figure you've spent 12-13 years in school, so 2/3 of your life has been spent with classmates/friends, the other remaining time with parents/family, others, etc.

30 years old: Assuming 4 years of college, you've been working for about 25% of your life, spending that time with coworkers, figure about 50% of your life was school up to this point, with the remainder being spent with others/family.

65 years old: If you're a traditional person working til 65, that means now you've spent 66% of your life spending a good chunk of your day with co-workers.

Yeah, I get it, you're awake for 16 hours, work is only 8 hours, weekends blah blah. But today I realized just how much energy I spend on something work related: Wake up at 5:30, make myself presentable, get in car/on bike, get to work, stay there for 8.5-9 hours, get home, mentally unwind. An 8 hour work day can easily be 10 hours, making up the majority of my waking time.

This is why I choose to save and make progress toward FIRE. I can think of a million other people I'd rather spend time with than co-workers (and in reality, I really really like my current coworkers and boss).

Who have you spent the most time with so far?

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Re: Who have you spent the most time with?
« Reply #1 on: April 29, 2016, 02:06:04 PM »
My wife. Started dating her when I was 15.

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Re: Who have you spent the most time with?
« Reply #2 on: April 29, 2016, 02:37:38 PM »

This is why I choose to save and make progress toward FIRE. I can think of a million other people I'd rather spend time with than co-workers (and in reality, I really really like my current coworkers and boss).

Who have you spent the most time with so far?

The modification is, of course, you love your job;your coworkers are sharp, fun, and creative; and you feel like you are contributing to society.   

And yes - likely over the years it has been my co-workers in the office but also in the field in WA, ID, OR, MT and a few overseas places - having a hoot.

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Re: Who have you spent the most time with?
« Reply #3 on: April 29, 2016, 04:10:09 PM »
I've had co-workers that became friends and co-workers I wished horrible accidents upon. I see the greater point, but people come and go in your life and classmates and co-workers are often the easiest way to make new friends. Of course, once FIRED I'm sure there will be time to find new hobbies and new friends.

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Re: Who have you spent the most time with?
« Reply #4 on: April 29, 2016, 08:50:42 PM »
I've had co-workers that became friends and co-workers I wished horrible accidents upon. I see the greater point, but people come and go in your life and classmates and co-workers are often the easiest way to make new friends. Of course, once FIRED I'm sure there will be time to find new hobbies and new friends.

That's the crux of it I suppose

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Re: Who have you spent the most time with?
« Reply #5 on: April 30, 2016, 12:32:08 AM »
My husband, we met when I was 17.

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Re: Who have you spent the most time with?
« Reply #6 on: April 30, 2016, 08:30:34 AM »
My brother. We are two years apart and we are very close. We also work together :)

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Re: Who have you spent the most time with?
« Reply #7 on: April 30, 2016, 10:47:30 AM »
Myself.

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Re: Who have you spent the most time with?
« Reply #8 on: May 01, 2016, 08:04:58 PM »
My wife by far. Both self-employed, I work at home, she works 600 meters away. Breakfast, lunch and dinner + 30-minute walks after each, and time together at night and on weekends/days off.

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Re: Who have you spent the most time with?
« Reply #9 on: May 02, 2016, 05:11:04 AM »
Probably the crews I was on tour with. 20+ hour days for months at a time. Was crazy fun while it lasted, but am happy with more time to myself.

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Re: Who have you spent the most time with?
« Reply #10 on: May 02, 2016, 07:51:01 AM »
Envy is kind of a strong word, but I envy some of you. Like I said I enjoy my coworkers but due to events in my past, I don't mix work relationships with personal relationships anymore. Like, my coworkers know I'm married, they know what my wife does for work, but they don't know about much else, and I don't know what my coworkers do routinely.

I think it's just a matter of perspective. I'll still reach for FIRE for both my wife and I, but I should find more important things to focus on in the interim.

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Re: Who have you spent the most time with?
« Reply #11 on: May 02, 2016, 02:11:37 PM »
I've thought about this about the time I discovered MMM.  I was already an prodigious accumulator at that point but not with the specific goal of FIRE.  Being an accountant I made a current state vs. ideal state spreadsheet and accompanying pie graphs :D.  Current state has me at 57% of my awake time working, getting ready for work, or commuting,  About 30 points too much for my liking corresponding pretty well to my idea of working part time once I FIRE.

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Re: Who have you spent the most time with?
« Reply #12 on: May 02, 2016, 02:29:09 PM »
I married a co worker...come to think of it, she married one too!

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Re: Who have you spent the most time with?
« Reply #13 on: May 02, 2016, 03:22:34 PM »
My dh, since we've been married for 38 years. ;-)

After that, my kids, though they are grown up now. Never enough time with them!

I quite like my co-workers, though.

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Re: Who have you spent the most time with?
« Reply #14 on: May 04, 2016, 07:38:33 AM »
Imaginary people.
If you add up all the book-reading and movie-watching time, hands down it's made-up folks in places that don't truly exist.
And I don't even game . . . .

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Re: Who have you spent the most time with?
« Reply #15 on: May 04, 2016, 06:46:10 PM »
Imaginary people.
If you add up all the book-reading and movie-watching time, hands down it's made-up folks in places that don't truly exist.
And I don't even game . . . .

Ohh...interesting way to frame the conversation!

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Re: Who have you spent the most time with?
« Reply #16 on: May 05, 2016, 07:00:32 AM »
My wife. Started dating her when I was 15.

Nice!  Same here! Going to have our 14th wedding anniversary later this month!

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Re: Who have you spent the most time with?
« Reply #17 on: May 06, 2016, 04:34:04 AM »
My wife. Started dating her when I was 15.

Nice!  Same here! Going to have our 14th wedding anniversary later this month!

You have the same wife?

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Re: Who have you spent the most time with?
« Reply #18 on: May 06, 2016, 05:06:59 PM »
I'm 36 and I think my mom is still the person I've spent the most time with - I was homeschooled, so the first 18 years were a LOT of time with her. Next would by my husband, known him 9+ years. My co-workers haven't been consistent and even if they were I'm out of the office a lot, so they don't rank yet.