We're feeling intense family pressure to "get back to normal" regarding indoor Christmas gatherings. The accusation -- which has been leveled at us repeatedly -- is that we don't want to see them. But my brilliant young adult son just pointed out that if these people in the family prioritized the ability to see us over everything else (conspiracy theories and woo, mostly), they would be willing to get vaccinated. And really, why should their "right" to not have "poison" injected into their bodies outweigh my "right" not to contract Covid in my own home and possibly get long Covid?
I mean seriously, what do you do when you have a close relative who believes the lunar landings were faked and the world is flat? Or that cannabis cures cancer but the government won't approve it because the health care industry will lose money? That condensation trails are really government produced chemtrails designed to poison us and make money once again for the health care industry? Oh, and that vitamin C IVs cure Covid (which they didn't believe was real until they got it) and essential oils can disinfect everything and we'll be safe from Covid? Plus so many more -- all in one person?
I mean, this person isn't the only one -- both sides of the family are full of Covid deniers, election deniers, birthers, etc. We're actually lucky that my dad moved across the country, or the holiday pressure would be high despite his refusal to get vaccinated. But then I'm good at boundaries and at calling him on his bullshit, at least when he tries to make me believe it. I've gotten very good at saying "I disagree", or "the science doesn't support that".
Is one of their theories that the vaccine doesn't work or isn't effective? Because in my opinion, your behavior is kind of confirming that. I mean, if you're vaccinated, why aren't you going? If everyone at the party were vaccinated, would that really make a difference? What other conclusion could your family possibly come to when the vaccinated people are too afraid to come to the party due to covid other than the vaccine is ineffective or you don't want to see them?
I can never tell if people who ask questions like this are genuinely curious, or if they are asking what they feel is a rhetorical question.
But the answer is basic math. Probabilities. If elves have an 18% chance of starting the Christmas tree on fire, and that fire only has a 10% chance of being serious, and only a 12% chance of spreading to the neighbors' homes, and Grinches have a 48% chance of starting a tree fire, and that fire has a 38% chance of being serious, and a 62% chance of spreading to the neighbors, do you see how it would matter to me? Even if I have a fire extinguisher?
I don't want Covid. But I'm vaxxed and boosted so I'm not really worried about my individual outcome. But I do worry because spouse would have to quarantine and that would be a nightmare for his work. And I worry that I could spread it to someone at the grocery store or the guy coming to inspect the HVAC in my rental home (I have no choice or say in that matter). And I worry that they could spread it, perhaps far and wide if they aren't vaccinated. And that can inundate the healthcare system. If I slip on ice and have a compound fracture in my leg, I might not get timely care. But it's not really just about me. It's also about the old man who lives down the street who has a heart attack shoveling snow. And the nephew of my friend's cousin's dog groomer who isn't vaccinated and ends up dying from Covid.
No one is saying that vaccination makes one bullet proof. I can still get and spread Covid. It is less likely, but entirely possible. That doesn't mean it isn't worth while. And if I do get it, I'm less likely to need medical care, and less likely to die. So the notion that vaccinated people still wearing masks or distancing or anything else somehow constitutes proof that the vaccine isn't worth while is silly.
And it's not something that anyone except a tiny fringe has said about other vaccines, even though they too aren't 100% effective. We didn't have people running around refusing to get vaccinated against measles because there was still a chance they could catch it. And they didn't site someone who was vaccinated but still not interested in sharing close quarters with someone who has measles as proof the vaccine is pointless. Because they understood it was all about decreasing the *likelihood* of bad things happening.
The vaccine is not INeffective. It is just not 100% effective, and no one has claimed it is.